cbplayer Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 I met this girl through a salsa dancing class. We've been pretty flirty and she touches me pretty often even when we're not dancing. After about 5 classes , I asked her out for drinks and we went one night but she had to leave early and told me she enjoyed herself but something came up and she promised to take me out for drinks. So now we're getting drinks this week. Not sure how to approach this since it's kind of an extension of our first date. Should I let her pay? Should I insist on paying? Since she's the one making the plans could that hurt her attraction for me? Is it a good sign that she's taking me out?
coolheadal Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 First off are you just buddies? If you are you both can pay for the drinks. If you are romantic lovers then you pay for the drinks. If your taking her out for the first time then you can pay for the bill. It depends on what you have with her. Friend-zone which means your just friends only then you both pay. Right now your just going out for drinks. Wait for the bill to come and pull out your wallet to pay for the drinks, if she offers to pay too, then you know where this is going for just friends who dance only nothing serious or your not her type. Even though she touches you. Does she kiss you on the cheek or on the lips. On the lips means she's really into and might like you more next to love. If it's on the cheek then your are just good friends. I had Colombian that would only kiss me on the Cheek, but there were times she kissed me on lips. Today I hardly hear from her she was a very good friend. That's all we are friends. She's into things I don't care to share but she's something else. She can't drive right but I trust to to get me home safe. LOL
Author cbplayer Posted October 11, 2017 Author Posted October 11, 2017 Well I guess we might be considered friends but we both thought of our get-together as a date. She said we have to redo our first date. We've never kissed.
coolheadal Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 Well I guess we might be considered friends but we both thought of our get-together as a date. She said we have to redo our first date. We've never kissed. Okay you said first date going to be be redo. So lets see what happens? But remember always pull out the wallet CC or Cash to pay for the drinks, dinner etc. But if she offers to pay you can go 1/2 & 1/2 or she for the drinks you pay for the dinner. But this would only happen if you were just friends and nothing else. First real date if she looks into your eyes, she smiles, laughs and really feeling it with you maybe touching your hand or your feet to her feet. If she very attracted to you. Then by all means you pay for the date 100%.
Author cbplayer Posted October 11, 2017 Author Posted October 11, 2017 Okay you said first date going to be be redo. So lets see what happens? But remember always pull out the wallet CC or Cash to pay for the drinks, dinner etc. But if she offers to pay you can go 1/2 & 1/2 or she for the drinks you pay for the dinner. But this would only happen if you were just friends and nothing else. First real date if she looks into your eyes, she smiles, laughs and really feeling it with you maybe touching your hand or your feet to her feet. If she very attracted to you. Then by all means you pay for the date 100%. So I should pay even though she said she's taking me out?
coolheadal Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 (edited) So I should pay even though she said she's taking me out? Wait you didn't say that? She's taking you out! Then by all means she's paying, unless you step in and say"baby put your money away, I'll pay" I would wait though see what happens they will bring the check. If your in the US everything is now from touch screen at the table. No more can you say bring the check.. I had woman that was infatuation with me she paid for everything we ate and purchased items for me. I didn't wink and eye to pay for anything she did. But your not at the stage yet. Edited October 11, 2017 by coolheadal 1
Author cbplayer Posted October 11, 2017 Author Posted October 11, 2017 Wait you didn't say that? She's taking you out! Then by all means she's paying, unless you step in and say"baby put your money away, I'll pay" I would wait though see what happens they will bring the check. If your in the US everything is now from touch screen at the table. No more can you say bring the check.. I had woman that was infatuation with me she paid for everything we ate and purchased items for me. I didn't wink and eye to pay for anything she did. But your not at the stage yet. Lol is it a good sign that she's taking me out; this has never happened to me before 1
coolheadal Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 Lol is it a good sign that she's taking me out; this has never happened to me before Well yes that is a good sign.. When this happens she's really interested in getting to know more about her dancing partner. But your going on real date not just going out for food. Be yourself around her make her laugh and smile. Do your best!
staggerlee71 Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 man your is good spot here, she digs you. go out, have fun, do what you've been doing cause its working. pay when the check comes. if she offers, insist, if she says she wants to throw in, let her good luck my man, 1
Cobra_X Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 I met this girl through a salsa dancing class. We've been pretty flirty and she touches me pretty often even when we're not dancing. After about 5 classes , I asked her out for drinks and we went one night but she had to leave early and told me she enjoyed herself but something came up and she promised to take me out for drinks. So now we're getting drinks this week. Not sure how to approach this since it's kind of an extension of our first date. Should I let her pay? Should I insist on paying? Since she's the one making the plans could that hurt her attraction for me? Is it a good sign that she's taking me out? I don't think it matters if she pays or you pay. The important thing is that you make sure to kiss her at the end of the date.... with as much passion as you can muster.
Miss Spider Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 I like taking guys on dates. xD Now you see how some of us chicks feel. She offered to buy you drinks so she wants to be pay, but it's always polite to offer to pay your share. And no, since she offered, it should not detract from her attraction to you, but if you are into her MAKE SURE on the date you set up another date with her to "repay her" and "on you". That would be super charming and alpha 3
coolheadal Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 I like taking guys on dates. xD Now you see how some of us chicks feel. She offered to buy you drinks so she wants to be pay, but it's always polite to offer to pay your share. And no, since she offered, it should not detract from her attraction to you, but if you are into her MAKE SURE on the date you set up another date with her to "repay her" and "on you". That would be super charming and alpha Wow, this is so new on the first date. But with all my dates I always pay forever thing. If we are just friends only then it's a 50/50 split on the final check. Good to know you like to pay for date meals. But Alpha men always pay and so do Beta. In a way it's how you feel..
d0nnivain Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 It's a good thing that she asked you out. Offer to pay but if she wants to pay don't make a fuss. Say something like "I'll get the next one." During the date if On bar stools, turn your body fully toward her. Don't sit straight on facing the bar. Intentionally touch your knees together if you can. Maintain eye contact. Lean in if it's loud. Ask questions & really listen to her answers. Have fun! Don't get too sloshed. 2
caveman621 Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 I agree with what others have posted. When the bill comes, go ahead and get your wallet out to pay. If she then says again that she is taking you out and she should pay, protest, but not too much! 1
Author cbplayer Posted October 13, 2017 Author Posted October 13, 2017 Also when we went out for drinks the first time when she had to leave early, I asked her for a kiss(I know I should have just gone for it but the date was kind of short) but she said no kissing on first date. During the second date,should I go for the kiss again? How do I go about making this a successful date? I'd like to sleep with her after this date but it's fine if I don't; I just want to be established as a potential suitor.
d0nnivain Posted October 13, 2017 Posted October 13, 2017 She doesn't kiss on the first date. You don't know if you should try for a kiss after this date but you want to sleep with her already? Not gonna happen. This woman is moving at a much slower pace then you are.
Author cbplayer Posted October 13, 2017 Author Posted October 13, 2017 She doesn't kiss on the first date. You don't know if you should try for a kiss after this date but you want to sleep with her already? Not gonna happen. This woman is moving at a much slower pace then you are. I understand that it isn’t likely that I’ll sleep with her on the next date. I basically want to know what I should do to establish myself as a potential partner.
d0nnivain Posted October 13, 2017 Posted October 13, 2017 I basically want to know what I should do to establish myself as a potential partner. I answered that in post # 13. Pay attention to her. Listen. Be thoughtful.
Author cbplayer Posted October 24, 2017 Author Posted October 24, 2017 So, I met her for drinks and things went well. We were together for 3 hours. She kissed me and told me that she's into be. We texted briefly the next day. I haven't spoken to her for about 2 days now. I'm thinking of asking to grab dinner on friday or saturday but I think it's too cliche. Any ideas? How do I keep the attraction going?
Highndry Posted October 24, 2017 Posted October 24, 2017 (edited) Oops, missed last post. Anyhow, you haven't contacted her in 2 days after a great date where you were kissing her? Man, you are dropping the ball here. Send her a text, something. You've got to keep flirting with her. Edited October 24, 2017 by Highndry
Author cbplayer Posted October 24, 2017 Author Posted October 24, 2017 We did talk briefly after the date the next day. How often should I be texting her? I’m afraid of texting too much and her not replying. What about second date ideas? Is dinner too cliche?
d0nnivain Posted October 24, 2017 Posted October 24, 2017 I love dinner dates. They are not cliché -- they are classic. Pick and innovative place if you don't want cliché. Good early date ideas do often incorporate movement: Mini golfbowlingplaying tennishikingtouring a small museum (you don't want something the size of the Smithsonian that takes all day) Whatever you do, have fun!
Author cbplayer Posted November 3, 2017 Author Posted November 3, 2017 Thanks for the advice. I saw her at our dance class again and she suggested that we go out again. I'm thinking of going to play some pool. I do want to get to know her better but I want to advance this sexually pretty soon so that I don't get friend-zoned. I don't have my own place... so what would you guys suggest? How do I get invited to her place?
Miss Spider Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 She has to invite you. Does she know you dont have your own place. You can still escalate in public. Hold her hand as you walk. try to find some place a little bit isolated. Sit together and lean into her and go for a kiss etcetera 1
coolheadal Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 Thanks for the advice. I saw her at our dance class again and she suggested that we go out again. I'm thinking of going to play some pool. I do want to get to know her better but I want to advance this sexually pretty soon so that I don't get friend-zoned. I don't have my own place... so what would you guys suggest? How do I get invited to her place? You don't have you own place there is also the hotel suite (yes a suite) I usually get those when I don't have my own place and out of town get together. It will be very hard to get invited to her place unless she suggest it to you. She might be living with family as well. Might have to get that hotel suite after all if that's the case. How is this girl and you otherwise everything good?
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