hgriffin17 Posted October 10, 2017 Posted October 10, 2017 Basically the story goes like this. We match on Tinder. We text back and forth. I ask her out and she was very open to meeting up (gave me, in full detail, when she was free and not free). The day came and I drove out to her school to get her. As i'm near I text her where I should meet her at. She then says this, "Sorry but my coach wants to stay after for conditioning so I don't think tonight is going to work!!" So then i respond by saying, "No worries Olivia. Maybe next time" My friend then tells me to ask her out again, so an hour later I said, "Actually are you free this thursday?" But was given no response. I'm only here for break so it's not like this was going to be longterm. She was just really hot lol. In a way i do want to call her out in her behavior because flaking last minute is sucky but idk. Should i respons back? Wait? Call her out on her bs?
Miss Spider Posted October 10, 2017 Posted October 10, 2017 (edited) Calling her out...nah. She's not interested so she won't care. It sucks when people aren't interested but calling them out isn't going to make them have an epiphany. Edited October 10, 2017 by Cookiesandough 3
clia Posted October 10, 2017 Posted October 10, 2017 Don't respond back. She's not interested in going on a date with you. 3
smackie9 Posted October 10, 2017 Posted October 10, 2017 She changed her mind and doesn't want to go on a date with you....ever. 1
smackie9 Posted October 10, 2017 Posted October 10, 2017 (edited) Some people get anxious meeting a stranger, so next time don't pick them up, just meet at a public place. Most on here suggest simply meeting for a coffee. I have a feeling some told her she was nuts having a stranger pick her up where she goes to school, getting into a stranger's car.....safety is key when using OLD. How old are you two? Edited October 10, 2017 by smackie9 3
Author hgriffin17 Posted October 10, 2017 Author Posted October 10, 2017 We're both 20 lol but yeah my best friend who is a girl said maybe she just got anxious. Like she doesn't know anything about me so I can see why it's scary. I might just say that and wish her the best during volleyball season and leave it at that.
Miss Spider Posted October 10, 2017 Posted October 10, 2017 Hgriffin, she has received your first to text. Double texts(two queries in a row, no response) are a dating faux pas. Triple texts are a sin!!! It will just seem clingy at this point. I say let it go and wait to see if she gets back to you or better yet just let it go.
kortz Posted October 10, 2017 Posted October 10, 2017 As others have said, don't text her anymore. She got cold feet and bailed on you and doesn't want to see you and it's very unlikely she'll change her mind. Happens all the time. On to the next one!
coolheadal Posted October 10, 2017 Posted October 10, 2017 Basically the story goes like this. We match on Tinder. We text back and forth. I ask her out and she was very open to meeting up (gave me, in full detail, when she was free and not free). The day came and I drove out to her school to get her. As i'm near I text her where I should meet her at. She then says this, "Sorry but my coach wants to stay after for conditioning so I don't think tonight is going to work!!" So then i respond by saying, "No worries Olivia. Maybe next time" My friend then tells me to ask her out again, so an hour later I said, "Actually are you free this thursday?" But was given no response. I'm only here for break so it's not like this was going to be longterm. She was just really hot lol. In a way i do want to call her out in her behavior because flaking last minute is sucky but idk. Should i respons back? Wait? Call her out on her bs? Nope don't even ask answer her back with what you did. Just leave it open rejection from her. That's what is was you know. What did you do? Ask a friend wrong move now you tried to escalate her rejection, which made you look like you didn't listen to her. She told you no but really didn't want to go on a date with sorry. That's what she meant just using her coach as excuse to throw you off. Move on don't even contact her anymore.. Not worth it!
Gr8fuln2020 Posted October 10, 2017 Posted October 10, 2017 Basically the story goes like this. We match on Tinder. We text back and forth. I ask her out and she was very open to meeting up (gave me, in full detail, when she was free and not free). The day came and I drove out to her school to get her. As i'm near I text her where I should meet her at. She then says this, "Sorry but my coach wants to stay after for conditioning so I don't think tonight is going to work!!" So then i respond by saying, "No worries Olivia. Maybe next time" My friend then tells me to ask her out again, so an hour later I said, "Actually are you free this thursday?" But was given no response. I'm only here for break so it's not like this was going to be longterm. She was just really hot lol. In a way i do want to call her out in her behavior because flaking last minute is sucky but idk. Should i respons back? Wait? Call her out on her bs? Well, you were only looking for a booty call, so she is spared.
knabe Posted October 10, 2017 Posted October 10, 2017 Calling her out...nah. She's not interested so she won't care. It sucks when people aren't interested but calling them out isn't going to make them have an epiphany. Exactly. Ca.ling someone out might SEEM like it's tough and giving them what they deserve....but it just makes you look like a whiny little girl, to be honest. I know a lot of people like doing this, but it makes me cringe.
Shining One Posted October 10, 2017 Posted October 10, 2017 How to respond when a girl cancels a first date?You respond by going out with a different girl. 2
stillafool Posted October 10, 2017 Posted October 10, 2017 Find another girl. If she is hot she probably has lots of guys chasing her. Move on. 1
Romantic_Antics Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 ^There you go, man. Not one, but two girls who are willing to chat you up and help you move on. (Sorry, couldn't resist) 1
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