How do I answer this question? Need .

[90s kid]

Thanks for your input everyone! I appreciate the support.

 

I’ve considered lying about my past but I’m a terrible liar and I’m afraid he’ll ask for more details and I won’t know what to say. The truth is that I grew up painfully shy and had terrible social anxiety up until college. I’ve worked really hard in the last few years to come out of my shell and grow my self-confidence and feel more comfortable around men. A few years ago, I finally got to the point where I felt comfortable dating. I’ve gone on dates but haven’t found a guy I really like. Unfortunately, a lot of people are really judgmental about that. I almost wish I had a string of broken relationships just so I seem “normal.” I say this with no ego whatsoever but I’ve been told that I’m a pretty girl and I almost think that makes it harder for people to understand.

 

I really need help with knowing how to communicate my lack of experience to men in a way that doesn’t scare them away. It is by far my biggest insecurity and it’s holding me back from being able to date with full confidence.

[Miss Spider]

Thanks for your input everyone! I appreciate the support.

 

 

 

I really need help with knowing how to communicate my lack of experience to men in a way that doesn’t scare them away. It is by far my biggest insecurity and it’s holding me back from being able to date with full confidence.

 

Understandable! If it's the right or at the very least he's attracted to you he will not be scared away . I have casually dated quite a few men recently and not one was "scared away" in that they wanted to stop dates each other. It most likely will, however, raise a red flag But the longer you see the (right) guy, the more he will understand you and the less significant it will become. I just want casual so this doesn't work for me, but assuming you're not, as you get to know each other more, other things like how happy you make them will make the lack of xp inconsequential. He'll also see your quirks, your shyness, values etc and despite being a pretty girl he'll start to understand better.Sorry you feel judged x it will all work out!!

Edited October 10, 2017 by Cookiesandough

[olivetree]

Thanks for your input everyone! I appreciate the support.

 

I’ve considered lying about my past but I’m a terrible liar and I’m afraid he’ll ask for more details and I won’t know what to say. The truth is that I grew up painfully shy and had terrible social anxiety up until college. I’ve worked really hard in the last few years to come out of my shell and grow my self-confidence and feel more comfortable around men. A few years ago, I finally got to the point where I felt comfortable dating. I’ve gone on dates but haven’t found a guy I really like.

 

I'm a woman but if a guy I was really attracted to told me what you just did, I'd think it was cute.

I think the right person will too.

[Gaeta]

I really need help with knowing how to communicate my lack of experience to men in a way that doesn’t scare them away. It is by far my biggest insecurity and it’s holding me back from being able to date with full confidence.

 

Lack of experience in what exactly?

 

Are you able to maintain friendships? Are you having respectful relationships with co-workers? Are you in healthy relationship with your family members?

 

If you've answered yes to these then you have all the experience needed to be in a romantic relationship.

 

Being in a romantic relationship is about respect, compromise, communication, The very same as in any of your other relationships. There is no secrets to being in a romantic relationship, no secret code and no manuel guide. You just need to communicate and do your very best.