PKrueger24 Posted October 9, 2017 Posted October 9, 2017 I am a 24-year old male and I am somewhat embarrassed to admit that my social life is seriously lacking. I've been living with social anxiety for most of my life and will disclose that connecting with others has been almost impossible - I've had VERY few friends in my life and dating has been near impossible. I live in Montreal now, but am visiting home for the next three weeks. I've found out through social media that one woman I've liked for a long time is now single, and while I'd like to ask her out, I'm reluctant to do so for a couple of reasons - first, if she knows I live in Montreal now, I doubt she'll want to waste her time on a guy who lives in another part of the country and is only here for a short while. Second, I'll admit she's very attractive and outgoing, whereas I'm quite plain and pretty awkward; in other words, she could do better than me. Finally, I fear it would be random and weird for me to message her out of the blue and try to connect with her. So what do you think? Take a chance and message her? Or simply move on and focus on meeting people when I go back to Montreal?
BlueIvy Posted October 9, 2017 Posted October 9, 2017 I am a 24-year old male and I am somewhat embarrassed to admit that my social life is seriously lacking. I've been living with social anxiety for most of my life and will disclose that connecting with others has been almost impossible - I've had VERY few friends in my life and dating has been near impossible. I live in Montreal now, but am visiting home for the next three weeks. I've found out through social media that one woman I've liked for a long time is now single, and while I'd like to ask her out, I'm reluctant to do so for a couple of reasons - first, if she knows I live in Montreal now, I doubt she'll want to waste her time on a guy who lives in another part of the country and is only here for a short while. Second, I'll admit she's very attractive and outgoing, whereas I'm quite plain and pretty awkward; in other words, she could do better than me. Finally, I fear it would be random and weird for me to message her out of the blue and try to connect with her. So what do you think? Take a chance and message her? Or simply move on and focus on meeting people when I go back to Montreal? I would do both. You never know what could happen. I have a friend that has been in LDR just by talking to the dude regularly and from there it progressed. The worse that can happen is she isn't interested. But you're young and there are other women. And I see pretty women with average guys all the time so don't count yourself out. I would also try to join meet up groups when you come back so you can meet new people. And try online dating as well.
smackie9 Posted October 9, 2017 Posted October 9, 2017 Why not just hang out with her for the pleasure of it. If she's not into anything more, at least you had a nice date and spent some time with her.
Erik30 Posted October 9, 2017 Posted October 9, 2017 So what is your connection to her? Former classmate maybe? It kind of sounds like this is someone you don't really know, and you're basically a stranger to her.. (Or I missed something) If you've never talked before, then yes it probably would be weird to ask her out. I would only try if she at least knows who you are.
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