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That seems like a pretty good attitude to have (knowing there is always someone else out there). Just make sure you are not holding your feelings back because of past relationship fails and you are afraid of getting hurt. For a really deep connection (if that's what you want) you do have to have some vulnerability.

 

Good Luck! Keep us updated! :)

 

Yeah, I don’t think anyone should allow themselves to become an emotional mess just because of a relationship. I don’t think any woman is ever gonna have that kind of power over me. If someone breaks up with me, oh well, I’ll just find another one.

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So after three days of no contact, she comes crawling back for my attention. She just texted me saying she’s been “busy”. Not sure what to make of this female ?

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So after three days of no contact, she comes crawling back for my attention. She just texted me saying she’s been “busy”. Not sure what to make of this female ?

 

I'd ask her which guy she was busy for 3 days with :p Seriously, you know this pattern is going to repeat. If you don't like it, change the girl. More than half the population of humans on earth are female. You can find one who wont cause you so much trouble...

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You have to be the one to cut it off. She's stringing you along. Ghosting in and out of your life as she pleases. She disrespected you and needs to be cut off. Show your dignity and how you don't tolerate someone taking you for a ride

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Yeah, I haven’t responded yet. I need to think about it. I am truly undecided about cutting her off.

 

 

We had a lot in common and I think we had fun and it was the longest relationship I’ve had in some time because I’m used to the one night stuff.

 

 

But I have been in situations in the past where a woman ghosted, then came back, I forgave her, then she ghosted again. It’s possible like someone else said that she was upset about that I couldn’t spend time with her that day, but not responding for 3 days wasn’t the way to handle it and was definitely disrespectful. The disrespect bothers me. Also the lame way she reinitiated contact, no apology, just texting “Hey, I’ve been so busy with etc etc...” was just...lame. I don’t know.

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You're currently taking time to figure out what you need and what you want. Good for you.

 

But how is you taking time for yourself different from her taking three days to figure out what she wants and what she needs?

 

I feel like you're trying too hard to appear detached. You're trying too hard to be the tough guy. If you're not ready to be vulnerable at all, then you should move on and continue with one night stands. If you're ready to open up and feel attached to someone, then stop with all the "disrespect" and blame assignment. Communicate, don't blame.

 

If you feel the need to blame and one-up her, move on.

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You're currently taking time to figure out what you need and what you want. Good for you.

 

But how is you taking time for yourself different from her taking three days to figure out what she wants and what she needs?

 

I feel like you're trying too hard to appear detached. You're trying too hard to be the tough guy. If you're not ready to be vulnerable at all, then you should move on and continue with one night stands. If you're ready to open up and feel attached to someone, then stop with all the "disrespect" and blame assignment. Communicate, don't blame.

 

If you feel the need to blame and one-up her, move on.

 

I think there’s too much venom between us for it to work out. It’s over. Girls need to begin to understand that ghosting is a very serious offense. Guys take that personally. Once you ghost there’s no turning back And the relationship is irreparably damaged.

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