HotShotChinez Posted October 9, 2017 Posted October 9, 2017 Hi all! So I've been getting to know this shy girl better, we're usually out running and walking together almost everyday and talk about anything. The thing is, one of her close friends is a good friend to me as well. The shy girl brought me up during a conversation when my good friend visited her and told her that she really enjoys talking to me and that she likes me, in what way she didn't say. The thing is, this shy girl hasn't even kissed a guy or ever had a boyfriend. So I'm kind of looking for different opinions and tips of what I might do or what I might consider, because I've never been with such a shy girl, but she really seems to be comfortable in my presence and I guess I feel attracted to her as well:) Thanks in advance!
coolheadal Posted October 9, 2017 Posted October 9, 2017 (edited) With a shy girl you can't rush things and you going to have to take your time with her. Feel her out (assess the situation). By doing this you would get some sort of idea to when to say "hey would you like to go to Starbucks for some coffee, tea or hot coca). Once your there you can slowing talk to her and ask to the movies, but first find out what she likes to go and see. This is a work-in-progress. Remember she never been with a guy never had boyfriend. You have to treat he with the up most respect at all times. You have to say the word "I appreciate the time you spend with me" always more than once. Don't try to kiss her at all if you do it has to be on the cheek. It's going to be a lot of work not that easy. Do not push sex at her, and she going to be one those who rather have sex after marriage. Be a gentleman always with her. You are also teaching her new things new ways a new life she's learning by example from you with relationships and dating. Do not argue, do not fight, listen to what she has to say and you do it! Always listen to her wants and needs first. Then you should be okay. Remember don't assume with her. Ask her a question. Give her time to answer you in her own way. With my help you will have a great date with her. I've dated one in the past she was virgin also. Got to be patient with her also. I that should be it down when your ready ask to our favorite place, but it should not be a crowded on or noisy one too. But it has to be a nice place, good food some where quiet for you too chit chat. Edited October 9, 2017 by coolheadal
girlinNYC Posted October 9, 2017 Posted October 9, 2017 Start with a low key sort of date, like a coffee shop or a picnic in the park for example. She obviously isn't the most out there character so you need to start small so you don't shock her, and then as she gains more comfortability around you then you can do more adventurous 'fun' things. Girls notice effort, and if she sees the effort you're putting in to make her comfortable she'll really appreciate it. Considering she enjoys your company you've already won half the battle. Good luck.
Author HotShotChinez Posted October 9, 2017 Author Posted October 9, 2017 With a shy girl you can't rush things and you going to have to take your time with her. Feel her out (assess the situation). By doing this you would get some sort of idea to when to say "hey would you like to go to Starbucks for some coffee, tea or hot coca). Once your there you can slowing talk to her and ask to the movies, but first find out what she likes to go and see. This is a work-in-progress. Remember she never been with a guy never had boyfriend. You have to treat he with the up most respect at all times. You have to say the word "I appreciate the time you spend with me" always more than once. Don't try to kiss her at all if you do it has to be on the cheek. It's going to be a lot of work not that easy. Do not push sex at her, and she going to be one those who rather have sex after marriage. Be a gentleman always with her. You are also teaching her new things new ways a new life she's learning by example from you with relationships and dating. Do not argue, do not fight, listen to what she has to say and you do it! Always listen to her wants and needs first. Then you should be okay. Remember don't assume with her. Ask her a question. Give her time to answer you in her own way. With my help you will have a great date with her. I've dated one in the past she was virgin also. Got to be patient with her also. I that should be it down when your ready ask to our favorite place, but it should not be a crowded on or noisy one too. But it has to be a nice place, good food some where quiet for you too chit chat. Thanks a lot for the opinions and advice! Really appreciate it! Take care!
Author HotShotChinez Posted October 9, 2017 Author Posted October 9, 2017 Start with a low key sort of date, like a coffee shop or a picnic in the park for example. She obviously isn't the most out there character so you need to start small so you don't shock her, and then as she gains more comfortability around you then you can do more adventurous 'fun' things. Girls notice effort, and if she sees the effort you're putting in to make her comfortable she'll really appreciate it. Considering she enjoys your company you've already won half the battle. Good luck. All these tips will be useful as well! Really thankful for the support! Thanks a lot!
girlinNYC Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 All these tips will be useful as well! Really thankful for the support! Thanks a lot! No worries all the best with her!
The Urbanyst Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 Treat her like any other girl you want to date or really like. Don't calibrate yourself to other people. That is what's called "being fake" and its not a good way to start a relationship.
firestar Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 I'd say to become friends first, so she gets more comfortable with you. When the opportunity is right share something a little personal about yourself and hope she does the same. Approach her like you would any new friend. The key is to go slow. Then after your run/walk go to Starbucks or somewhere to get a nice cool drink and chat. Do this a few times. If she doesn't mind spending time with you often it means she at least likes you as a platonic friend and that's a good place to start. Everyone's time is precious, so if they're spending it on you it's always a good sign. Then after you get to know each other better ask her out to dinner! And you know the rest! Good luck and keep us posted!
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