Joga_31 Posted October 9, 2017 Posted October 9, 2017 My gf has a dinner tonight with her friend. I assume its a thanksgiving dinner since here in Canada its thanksgiving weekend. My gf this week has seen her friends at least 3-4 times. I did see her last night, but was looking forward to the weekend with her. She said I can sleepover tonight at 12 after her dinner. For tommorow though my friend wanted to hang out with me and have a guys night, my gf however wants to go to some food festival. Is it fair if I turn my gf down tmrw night? I know that festival she was really looking forward to it, but I want to reject her since she didn't make the weekend for us.
guest569 Posted October 9, 2017 Posted October 9, 2017 If the food festival is something you have agreed to go to together, I think it would be a bit jerkish to break the plans for the sake of "rejecting her back" as revenge. I think you should go with her and have a guys night another time since the food festival is not everyday event. But there seems to be a bigger issue here. do you two normally spend much time together? How long have you been together for? Do you see your friends often?
Miss Spider Posted October 9, 2017 Posted October 9, 2017 There is a bigger issue here if you cant resolve issues without passive aggressive maneuvers
basil67 Posted October 9, 2017 Posted October 9, 2017 I feel your frustration at not having enough time with your gf. But turning her down for the food fesival is just spiteful and yes, it would be a jerk move. If you've got problems, solve them through communication. Revenge and spite will not help matters.
Author Joga_31 Posted October 9, 2017 Author Posted October 9, 2017 If the food festival is something you have agreed to go to together, I think it would be a bit jerkish to break the plans for the sake of "rejecting her back" as revenge. I think you should go with her and have a guys night another time since the food festival is not everyday event. But there seems to be a bigger issue here. do you two normally spend much time together? How long have you been together for? Do you see your friends often? we spend a good deal of time together, but this week excluding last night's dinner. Once. I went to this festival back in July with her. But she really really loves this festival tomorrow is the last day until next year lol.
staggerlee71 Posted October 9, 2017 Posted October 9, 2017 this is a classic. If you agreed, then you have to go. if she mentioned it and it was assumed you would go, you have a choice. The underlying tone is she spent time with HER friends so why cant you. That's a loser. Also she didn't give you her time so I'm going with my friends. unless the pattern is you are available for her whenever, you need to tell her you need lead time on the matters because you have a life too have fun at the festival!!
joseb Posted October 9, 2017 Posted October 9, 2017 Had you already agreed to go to the food festival? If you have, then can you got out with the guys another night?
Poutrew Posted October 9, 2017 Posted October 9, 2017 You absolutely have to turn down your girlfriend. This is a classic power play scenario - your gf has friends over and tells you to stay away, but you can be allowed to come slinking back after the friends are gone at midnight - lucky you! Then she orders you to dump your friend the next day because your snowflake wants to get some Chinese food with you instead. Aren't you the fortunate one... next thing will be when she tells you to not visit your sick mother on her deathbed but to do a grocery run because she needs some milk and bread instead... Not only would I not see her tomorrow, but I would also not come over tonight. Tell her you'll be too tired and you have a full day planned with your pal, instead. Then wish her a good night and get some sleep. Time to reconnect with your bros, dude!
coolheadal Posted October 9, 2017 Posted October 9, 2017 we spend a good deal of time together, but this week excluding last night's dinner. Once. I went to this festival back in July with her. But she really really loves this festival tomorrow is the last day until next year lol. I wouldn't go out with friends if I had a chance to go out with my gf. So no to your friends and yes to her. Why because the entire time you will be with her. Stay over yes I would jump for that as well. You and her are dating and sleeping together. If she wants to hang out with her friends that's okay. You can do the same but really you sound like you missed hanging out with her. If all this doesn't mean much to you, and you two sound young adults then the entire concept might be okay to brush off the gf and hand out with your friends instead. If I had a choice again I would not hang out with the friends because you can always hangout with them anytime. But your gf time is limited now.
Author Joga_31 Posted October 9, 2017 Author Posted October 9, 2017 I wouldn't go out with friends if I had a chance to go out with my gf. So no to your friends and yes to her. Why because the entire time you will be with her. Stay over yes I would jump for that as well. You and her are dating and sleeping together. If she wants to hang out with her friends that's okay. You can do the same but really you sound like you missed hanging out with her. If all this doesn't mean much to you, and you two sound young adults then the entire concept might be okay to brush off the gf and hand out with your friends instead. If I had a choice again I would not hang out with the friends because you can always hangout with them anytime. But your gf time is limited now. I work 3-11 this week and the week before. The weekend finally came and she made plans with her friends once again. During the week she saw her friends. she ate dinner with them, she went to a concert and even solved one of those girls drama. It was supposed to be "me time" now. I think I will hang with my buddy tommorow since I don't know when I can schedule to see him again. My gf can wait just like I was waiting for her.
Author Joga_31 Posted October 9, 2017 Author Posted October 9, 2017 I feel your frustration at not having enough time with your gf. But turning her down for the food fesival is just spiteful and yes, it would be a jerk move. If you've got problems, solve them through communication. Revenge and spite will not help matters. So she was cool about letting me see my friend. But its almost as if she did not care, which made me more angry.
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