blackchild Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 Hey i know it's been a long time since ya heard from me! Ok ladies help me out. I want to get revenge on this guy. lately i've been noticing that this guy that i've been with has only kept me around for bragging rights and to get quick access to pussy whenever he wanted. He only calls when he wants to show his friends that a filipino man can catch a beautiful black woman, and whenever he wants a quick bang , ( ladies you know men with little wee-wees can't last more than an hour!)anyways i don't like that feeling. I want someone who wants me for me, and not for what i have to offer. I'm a beautiful person on the inside and after 7 months of being with him he has never seen it no matter how hard i try! I hate the way he makes me feel. I feel used and unwanted. the only reason why i get in the bed with him is because i enjoy the four-play(ladies he can eat a mean puss!) any-hoo! nothing hurts a man worst than his ego! so my plan is to perform a wild-out strip tease, put hickies in all his turn-on spots, and just be all out nasty! and as soon as he's ready to go ahead and get straight to da banging; i roll out of bed, put my clothes on and leave!imagine what that image would be like, to wait till a man pulls out a small dick and look and him and leave. Ladies i know the message is hard to comprehend but i have a hard time getting my emotions out on paper, but so far do you guys think that this is a good way of turning the tables on this man? holla back ladies! Candace p.s.= men please don't get mad cuz if ya acted right from da jump we wouldn't do things like this!
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 as soon as he's ready to go ahead and get straight to da banging; i roll out of bed, put my clothes on and leave!i That sounds more like teasing than revenge. I doubt it would have the effect that you think it would.
animo Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 Revenge is a virtue of the wicked... Do you think that getting revenge will make you feel better? I can tell you right now it will only be bitter. You need to let this go and get off this trip before it turns you into a nasty bitch (no offence intended at all). If you really want to hurt his ego then all you need to do is reject him. You don't have to tease him at all. Next time he calls you and treats you like a booty call you simply say 'No, i don't have time for you right now, maybe next week or something', don't be mean! Then you simply stop returning his phonecalls. The ods that you actually 'hurt' him with this are dependant on himself. If he's a practiced player you will not hurt him...you can't! Either way the point is for you to get him out of your life. Deal with your self respect (i imagen it's dented right now) and move on to a guy who will treat you as a person instead of a booty call or just a piece of meat. Now before you start a rant on playboys you need to understand that women who think they are 'soooo sweet' create players . Just let it go. There are players, there are teases out there, nothing you can do about it. Tend to your self respect and refuse men who try to use you. Treat the ones who don't play and like you good and i promise you will forget all about this quickly and be on your way to a happyer life.
Author blackchild Posted August 15, 2005 Author Posted August 15, 2005 take like this i pay my own bills, take care of my own business, and MINE MY BUSINESS! so techincally i'm a grown woman. all i asked you was how you felt about my plan not to critic me, cuz if i wanted that i would've called me mom up and asked her. but yes i am over 18.
SoftDrink Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 i don't think this will work out the way you're thinking. he's going to think you are a crazy bytch, and perhaps rightly so. and the term "eat a mean puss" is starting to make me gag.
Author blackchild Posted August 15, 2005 Author Posted August 15, 2005 animo that other message wasn't for you. i appreciate your advice. i guess my point was to make him feel unwanted, just like how felt unwanted. i wanted to take him on the same high he took me and then drop him just how does me. plus i know he feels insecure about his penis size and i wanted to think that he wasn't good enough, just like how i felt like i wasn't good enough. no bitch personailty here. well i take that back. every girl has a little bitch in her. i'm a sistah what do you expect?
SoftDrink Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 Originally posted by blackchild i'm a sistah what do you expect? oh lordy, one of those. just let it go. end it. if you always give up the goods regardless of his treatment of you, then it's your fault, not his. don't blame him. but don't play little games either. instead of acting like a "sistah", try acting like a lady by simply ending this nonsense.
animo Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 That's ok... Like i said, just reject him. It's a win win situation. you get him out of your life and he gets the door thrown in his face... Anything you feel could 'add' to the pain is just overkill. And it shows that you once again go 'out of your way' for HIM. If you set up this whole sceme and whatnot just to 'get back' at him then you are just proving to him once again that he is worth your time and effort... Which he isn't, so don't go there. Reject him, takes 2 seconds, no explanations needed, just leave him guessing. And all of this can be over and done with in 2 seconds flat... no more wasting time on him and no more feeling used. And the best part of it all is that you will never have to look back at what you did and feel guilty or like you let your emotions get the best of you. You retain your integrity and self respect and THAT is what being a lady is all about... So just dump the sucker, get over him and move on with a better bf. It's the best and greatest revenge you could ever take basically.
animo Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 Originally posted by Star Gazer Move on. The best revenge is a life well lived. Let him hear through word of mouth how happy, content, successful you are. THAT will eat at him more than anything you could do to get "revenge." Couldn't have and didn't say it better myself
JPMorgan Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 Originally posted by A Fly onThe Wall You have the maturity of a 15 year old.. Hey now! I was a LOT more mature than that when I was 15! blackchild - your post sounds childish and petty and very, very small-minded. What do you hope to accomplish by this? YOU are the one who stayed with him. YOU are the one who allowed yourself to feel hurt. You are not taking back control of your emotions/self by staging this ridiculous sex-play. You are still allowing him to manipulate you. i'm a sistah what do you expect? I hope you are not attempting to speak for all black women or to make a statement that all black women behave in the same way that you are behaving. Paying one's own bills and taking care of one's own business does not a mature adult make. You can claim maturity on a technicality, but its your actions and attitude that demonstrate if maturity is reached. None of your posts sound very mature at all. When you come to a public forum such as this you can expect to receive comments that do not support your views. If you can't deal with that then find a forum where no one is allowed to disagree with you or give you an answer that you don't like. And good luck with finding either an internet forum or a real-life social setting that disallows opposing opiniongs or the freedom to express oneself.
animo Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 I hear alot of critisizing here but less good advice.... Have an immature POV doesn't make you a bad person. Just a person who had bad rolemodels. I agree that paying your bills and 'handlin' yo bizz' doesn't make you an adult, but there is no need to bash Being an adult is abotu what's between your ears and HOW you handle your bussiness. That being said, everyone is always up for improvement and learning by mistake is not a crime...so yeah, take it easy
animo Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 Originally posted by Star Gazer I LOVE being quoted in agreement! Seriously though, I just ran into my ex the other day at the shopping center as I was getting into my new car. I had just had my hair done, and was carrying quite a few shopping bags. I was lookin' good, feelin' good, and we stopped and chatted. "What do you have there?" (referring to the shopping bags) "A couple things for my vacation with B - bikinis, little skirts, you know..." "Oh really, where are you going?" "Tahiti - end of the month. Got a huge bonus and just decided to treat myself to a trip...and him too." The last time I drove away from him I was hysterical, in tears. But this time? Oh wow, I couldn't get the grin off my face. Yup, you can rest assured that was a kick in the nads for him, hehe. Guys who break up with women don't want to know they are doing well and feeling better then ever. they want to think they are feeling miserable without him and making big mistakes and generally making a mess of things...lol Thank god for women this isn't always the truth!!
noname Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 the sweetest revenge is to leave the man and work on your self respect. that way you don't feel so smited when someone you allow to take advantage of you does exactly that... Originally posted by A Fly onThe Wall BC I was just asking to get a little background .. Your age would change my advice.. You have the maturity of a 15 year old.. FOTW - if you have ever read any of her previous posts on this subject, you would have probably known that one. Originally posted by Star Gazer and response to FOTW demonstrates you are acting like a crazy psycho monkey b!tch... whoa Star Gazer... i think i am going to let this one slide and try to believe that you don't realize how much like a racial slur that reads as... hopefully, i am right... Originally posted by JPMorgan I hope you are not attempting to speak for all black women or to make a statement that all black women behave in the same way that you are behaving. no. i just think that she was saying it to be funny and doesn't realize that it is reinforcing yet another racial stereotype...
SoftDrink Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 Originally posted by Star Gazer I use the phrase "crazy psycho monkey b!tch" to describe the craziest of the crazy women out there - like "circus psycho crazy" (a phrase from Will & Grace). I've used it several times before. There are absolutely no racial undertones intended. i wouldn't take it too personally, star gazer. people who want to find racism will find it even where it doesn't exist. **for the person who said "read her other posts" well, for the record, when you read one post, you don't necessarily read them all. the reason for criticism in this case was her immature, unwarranted outburst at an innocent question. in your logic, blackchild should also have researched all of FOTW's posts to see he's not usually being a sarcastic a-hole and is asking her a legitimate question.
smile95 Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 blackchild---if I did all that to my ex.....I do not think I would want to jump out of bed! I would want him! That is not revenge???? All he will do then is go please himself and not even be affected by what you just did. He will probably think it is funny. I thought you broke up months ago? Why are you doing this now?
noname Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 Originally posted by Star Gazer I use the phrase "crazy psycho monkey b!tch" to describe the craziest of the crazy women out there - like "circus psycho crazy" (a phrase from Will & Grace). I've used it several times before. There are absolutely no racial undertones intended. i had a funny feeling you didn't mean it that, so i didn't want to accuse, just to inquire. just checking. no love lost...
noname Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 Originally posted by SoftDrink i wouldn't take it too personally, star gazer. people who want to find racism will find it even where it doesn't exist. **for the person who said "read her other posts" well, for the record, when you read one post, you don't necessarily read them all. the reason for criticism in this case was her immature, unwarranted outburst at an innocent question. in your logic, blackchild should also have researched all of FOTW's posts to see he's not usually being a sarcastic a-hole and is asking her a legitimate question. i'm sorry. i didn't mean to come accross like i was accusing her. i don't try to find racism in everything. i was actually trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. it is just that the term "monkey" has often been used as a racial slur regarding Black people. my point was actually to let her know that some people may interpret it that way and not a personal attack on her character. i guess i should have sent her a personal message and explained that. probably a bad judgement call on my part. and since it was i who had made the comment about reading the other posts (some about the subject, what i meant is that in her other threads, she has shown a history of replying a little immaturely...
noname Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 Originally posted by Star Gazer I would hope that we're not all so jaded that one can't speak of circus animals without thinking racism is involved! i hear you...
noname Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 Originally posted by Star Gazer You know, I honestly did not know/realize that until you pointed it out. I'll stick with "circus psycho crazy" from now on. No harm done. that was the only reason for me posting that. so again i apologize if i gave you the impression that i was calling you the "R" word...
RecordProducer Posted August 16, 2005 Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by A Fly onThe Wall BC I was just asking to get a little background .. Your age would change my advice.. You have the maturity of a 15 year old.. If you really want to hurt him just tell him he has a small penis. But you'll never see him again after that... probably.
Craig Posted August 16, 2005 Posted August 16, 2005 Be a "grown ass" woman, empower your bf to find happiness with someone else and find yourself a bf that will treat you right. You're the only one to blame for your current situation because you could have stopped it anytime. Anytime at all. Revenge is for the nerds anyway.
SoftDrink Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 it is ridiculous that we live in a world where the utterance of the name of an animal could be so offensive. some people need to get the f*uck over themselves. monkeys are monkeys. if you are black and you get offended by that, then you're the one with the problem. i don't get pyssed when someone says "polar bear" and i wouldn't get pyssed even if it was in reference to my behaviour. ack. people are irritating. anyway, i wonder what happened to blackchild...?
JPMorgan Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Originally posted by SoftDrink it is ridiculous that we live in a world where the utterance of the name of an animal could be so offensive. some people need to get the f*uck over themselves. monkeys are monkeys. if you are black and you get offended by that, then you're the one with the problem. i don't get pyssed when someone says "polar bear" and i wouldn't get pyssed even if it was in reference to my behaviour. ack. people are irritating. anyway, i wonder what happened to blackchild...? ""APPLAUSE"" I stopped walking on tip-toe. If something I say or do inadvertently offends someone -- that's their problem. I never thought of the crazy monkey dance being racist at all! Reminds me of that stewardess who was fired because she was saying "E-ny, Me-ny, My-ny, Mo" and some passenger claimed that it was racisist and sued. How stupid - if people are that sensitive they should stay home -- the world isn't here just for them. I'm offended by a lot of things but I'm mature enough to cope with it or ignore it. Most people are. I wonder if blackchild sent the letter?
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