Vinny56 Posted October 5, 2017 Posted October 5, 2017 (edited) So I met this girl online two months ago and we began dating (not boyfriend and girlfriend), it was absolutely amazing from the point where we started talking to all our dates. And shortly after I fell in love with her I let my guards down around her because of her loving and kind soul. She came with baggage and I already had a fair idea about it. One day she accidentally tells me she loves me this was while we were at line in a shopping centre and I had asked her if she liked me which she accidentally replied "I love you", I shortly followed with the same words by the end of the date because I had never fallen in love like this before but didn't want to say it so soon. We stay in a hotel together for two nights where everything feels absolutely perfect and she talks about me meeting her friends and family. Fast forward a week and her replies get cold and short and she blows off my suggestions with dates saying shes sick or busy which I understand if she's sick. We finally met yesterday for lunch and she seemed distant didn't hold my hand like she usually would and her kisses felt empty, so I bring t up and she tells me she wants to stay single and focus on herself (she did tell me in the beginning she wanted to take it slow and focus on her self as she had gotten out of a LTR) i asked her if what she said about loving me was true and she said yes but she knows I want her to be mine and she wants to stay single and that seeing her more often will make me more attached and more memories, she also told me her anti anxiety meds were making her feel numb. I told her if that's what she wants I'll stop messaging her and we'll stop seeing each other. I feel absolutely heartbroken and I feel my heart actually aching I have never loved someone so much and I didn't think love like this was even possible! I have no idea what to do I can't eat and being a gym junkie that's hard I haven't gone to the gym since she went cold on me I dreamt about her with another man and woke up in the middle of the night to see if she messaged me last night. I didn't get out of bed this morning till 1pm as I work afternoons most days. However she snapchatted me her outfit that came in the mail today and that made me so happy but I'm sure she sent it to others aswell. I'll try go no contact and hopefully she comes back she told me I treated her like a princess. And as for the no contact since there is a possibility for her to realise she made a mistake and come back so I reply if she sends me snapchats or txts? And what if she finds someone else I don't care if she sleeps with anyone but what if she falls in love with someone else? Edited October 5, 2017 by Vinny56
d0nnivain Posted October 5, 2017 Posted October 5, 2017 If she was coming off an LTR you were an unexpected surprise. When she realized she had feelings for you that scared her & she retreated. She is not ready to be vulnerable again so she's pushing you away. It's a timing thing. She doesn't want a relationship. You are falling & she's scared so she's running. You can't stop her. You can't talk her out of it. She won't realize what she's throwing away & come back I'm sorry but it just wasn't meant to be.
fred123 Posted October 5, 2017 Posted October 5, 2017 If she was coming off an LTR you were an unexpected surprise. When she realized she had feelings for you that scared her & she retreated. She is not ready to be vulnerable again so she's pushing you away. It's a timing thing. She doesn't want a relationship. You are falling & she's scared so she's running. You can't stop her. You can't talk her out of it. She won't realize what she's throwing away & come back I'm sorry but it just wasn't meant to be. Shes not into you. Not what donnivain wrote. Next month she will meet a guy shes into and watch what will happen. Its all bull****
d0nnivain Posted October 5, 2017 Posted October 5, 2017 If she was more into him, she'd be more open to getting over her fears. It doesn't mean the fears aren't real. It does mean this relationship has no future. 1
Author Vinny56 Posted October 5, 2017 Author Posted October 5, 2017 Shes not into you. Not what donnivain wrote. Next month she will meet a guy shes into and watch what will happen. Its all bull**** I'm afraid of that happening but why still snapchat me if she's not interested and spend so much time with me? I just don't understand could it be her anti anxiety meds? She also sees a psychiatrist and psychologist
Author Vinny56 Posted October 5, 2017 Author Posted October 5, 2017 If she was more into him, she'd be more open to getting over her fears. It doesn't mean the fears aren't real. It does mean this relationship has no future. Could it be she genuinely wants to be alone after being in a relationship for 6 years? And only broken up recently?
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