whatwhit Posted October 4, 2017 Posted October 4, 2017 Hello All, I was have a conversation with a close friend, I was talking about how this guy I've casually talked to takes a while to respond. And when he thought I assumed he wasn't interested he picked up the phone and called me to explain things instead of text. He is older than me I am 30 and he is 37. My friend was telling me most people over 35 don't text like younger people do, you know where we are constantly on our phones and our primary way of communicating is through text. Do you think this is true, do you think most people over 35 prefer straight phone calls? I know that guys in general can tend to be single minded and are not that great at multitasking.
heavenonearth Posted October 4, 2017 Posted October 4, 2017 I am 30 too, and my guy is 38. He said he never 'apped' as much with anyone as with me. Supposedly this is very new to him. We text all the time, although I am a bit more enthusiastic about it than he is. He does indeed prefer to call at the end of the day or meet in person.
LovelyRose Posted October 4, 2017 Posted October 4, 2017 Hello All, I was have a conversation with a close friend, I was talking about how this guy I've casually talked to takes a while to respond. And when he thought I assumed he wasn't interested he picked up the phone and called me to explain things instead of text. He is older than me I am 30 and he is 37. My friend was telling me most people over 35 don't text like younger people do, you know where we are constantly on our phones and our primary way of communicating is through text. Do you think this is true, do you think most people over 35 prefer straight phone calls? I know that guys in general can tend to be single minded and are not that great at multitasking. I don't think age is the major factor of not wanting to text a lot. My bf is 34 but hardly texts. We talk on the phone every night for about an hour. But during the day it's usually just a simple good morning from him then nothing much after. Even when I text sometimes he will reply and sometimes he won't until he is home. Same on weekends. Mind you, we are LDR. But it doesn't matter what other people do, it's about how you would want your communication to be. If it's obvious you two are different then present a compromise where both of you can be ok. If he's at work and not responding fast you can't really do much with that. But if you want him to respond a bit faster when he's just at home then you have to discuss with him. But being that you guys are just "casually" talking then I guess it may not be ideal to do so.
MajesticUnicorn Posted October 4, 2017 Posted October 4, 2017 Idk. Maybe I am one of the few people my age (23) who isn’t obsessed with texting. To me when I’m getting to know a person, I want to do that. In. Person. So many people my age seem to be obsessed with texting, and I just don’t like it honestly. I rather talk on the phone or FaceTime. For me I prefer to use texting as a way to make plans or share info if I’m not in a place where I can easily make a phone call. I love it when guys call me on the phone too because it does show added interest. But again, hard to come by in my age group. That’s why I think it’s hard to generalize. Maybe stereotypically older folks may be more “old school,” but both of my parents prefer texting to calling..
Gaeta Posted October 4, 2017 Posted October 4, 2017 I would say yes, in general people over 35 aren't text-crazy as the youngest generation. I am 50, sure texting is fun but I would never get into getting to know someone over text. I much prefer hearing their voice. On the other hand my mom is 70 and is an avid texter lol. It may not be a matter of age but a matter of gender. I know men with big hand and fingers aren't big texter, they usually lose patience with it.
RecentChange Posted October 4, 2017 Posted October 4, 2017 I could see calling it a generational thing if there was a 15+ year age gap... But not 7 I am 39, and a huge texter. But I also love communicating through the written word - long texts (I don't use text speak) and emails. My husband is 37 - and not a texter. I text him, he often picks up the phone and calls. I have known mad texters in their 40's, and people in their early 30s that hardly text at all. 1
No_Go Posted October 4, 2017 Posted October 4, 2017 When I met my ex, he was 37, I was 30. He was texting me a lot, much more that what I was used to. We would have a phone call only after we argue or something like this. Otherwise - text only. After we broke up though we went through a phase where we'll talk on the phone each night for 3-5 hours. Didn't reverse the break up. I tend to say - it's a personal preference, not that much an age thing.
No_Go Posted October 4, 2017 Posted October 4, 2017 It may not be a matter of age but a matter of gender. I know men with big hand and fingers aren't big texter, they usually lose patience with it. I am then maybe lucky I get involved with men that are avid texters. I'm talking pages of text. We usually transition to e-mail if it gets excessive, I think the longest one I received from a former crush was 6 full A4 pages :lmao:
mortensorchid Posted October 5, 2017 Posted October 5, 2017 I am 42. I was there before texting as well as before the internet. Sometimes I have to remind myself that I spent age 18 and under without the internet, which blows my mind. As for texting for the older/younger age groups? Yes, I agree that older people (me being one of them) do not text as often as younger ones do. I think younger people text for more conversational things, older people will text for more business related things (as I find myself doing, spending about half my texting time for business as well as personal). In the dating world? Yes, certainly younger people will text more than older ones will. But despite these changes, nothing will take away from a good, old fashioned phone call. Texting is a passive way to communicate, phone calls are more priorities. I think people are more serious about their wants/needs when they communicate via phone rather than texts. I've been out on internet dates where the man (my age, younger or older) will send me a text the next day saying "I had a nice time last night" or "You seem cool", and I usually will respond with "Thank you I did as well". And ... Nothing. Or it will taper off after a day or two of texting and then we never end up speaking again. Phone calls are better no matter what your age.
coolheadal Posted October 5, 2017 Posted October 5, 2017 I agree on cell calls but a lot of women don't like to talk on the cell, they like to text as I don't like to text that much. Text is so impersonal already. Best to be in person but if that can't happy some small talk on the cell or text will have to do it.
LovelyRose Posted October 5, 2017 Posted October 5, 2017 I agree on cell calls but a lot of women don't like to talk on the cell, they like to text as I don't like to text that much. Text is so impersonal already. Best to be in person but if that can't happy some small talk on the cell or text will have to do it. Specifically for dating, I still prefer if a guy calls me. Now talking on the phone in general, I would prefer text, lol. So funny because I used to see FB status about calling someone and they don't answer but if you comment or text them they respond right away.
act00 Posted October 5, 2017 Posted October 5, 2017 Definitely it's a "thing." The older generation does tend to migrate towards phone calls and meeting in person over texts. Consider how they grew up. Cell phones barely existed and texting was not what it is now. There may not have been cable TV and you got cartoons on Saturday morning only. The constant, instant communication can be overwhelming. Me, as someone in their 40s, has come to really like texting over phone, but really only for short updates, and some connection, save the real communication for phone or when we see each other. You'll get people on all ends of the spectrum regardless of age, but as a general rule, I would say people in their late 30s and beyond are going to migrate towards phone over text.
CptInsano Posted October 5, 2017 Posted October 5, 2017 It depends more on the individual than the age, IMHO. I know a guy in his 70s who responds to every text but hardly answers his phone. I know people younger than me who can talk on the phone for hours. I'm in my late 40s and love texts for short notifications, such as letting me know if you're 15 minutes late. Lengthy discussions I'd rather have in person than on the phone, but I'm a big fan of any form of video chat, which I also use at work extensively.
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