Fooled around with my guy friend now he won't talk to me

[MysteriousMoon]

*Me - 28 was in an abusive marraige

- went to event with friends bumped into Steve who was friend with Alfie who is also my friend

- I became good friend with Steve

- me and Steve admitted we had feelings for each other

- didn't do anything about it because of marriage but still wants to be friends so we leave it behind us.

- I went out to a club and got sexually assaulted by Alfie so I got him arrested which made things awkward between me and Steve

- eventually me and Steve put it behind us and still continue to be friends

- march 2017 I leave my abusive husband and me and Steve nearly kiss. He tells me he would take on a woman with children ( I have kids) if he loves her and tells me he thinks about me all the time etc. We nearly kiss but I pull away.

- a month later I bump into him and we touch each other kiss etc whilst he was drunk.

- I thought he probably just saw me as a fling so I told him that in happy for casual sex or we can put it behind us and carry on being friends

- he ignores me for a whole month and won't reply to my messages. I find out through a friend hes started taking cocaine and ectasy whilst mixing it with anti depressants. He comes back for a while and tells me he's not looking for a relationship but I have a decent body and he would have e sex with me.

- I give the go ahead for casual sex, we meet and we are talking nicely and stuff then we get a bit flirty and he touches me. He seems a bit hesitant and keeps stopping like he is trying to tease me. But he won't kiss me etc

- we were supposed to meet up for coffee after this but he tells me he's chucking me out of his life because I was judging his messy house ( I wasn't) and tells me his life was happier without me in it. I can tell this is not the real reason he's chucked me out of his life. That was 29th August it's now October and I still haven't heard from him. Xx

Edited October 2, 2017 by MysteriousMoon

[CaliBabe]

I hate to say this but he used you. You said you were okay with casual sex and now it seems like you are wanting more. Never offer this as it totally lowers your value. When you offer yourself this way no guy will ever respect you. Walk away and start over with someone else. Lesson learned.

[Buriall]

Gee, this sounds like chaos.. Why don't you stop looking for mr.right for awhile , instead focus on your kids and their life.

[MysteriousMoon]

I hate to say this but he used you. You said you were okay with casual sex and now it seems like you are wanting more. Never offer this as it totally lowers your value. When you offer yourself this way no guy will ever respect you. Walk away and start over with someone else. Lesson learned.

 

That's the thing he didn't even use me. Every time I tried to go get us to be intimate he was freaking out