trevjim Posted October 2, 2017 Posted October 2, 2017 I was dating this girl (both late 20s) for a couple of months. Things were going great, she even said how much she likes me and its crazy how well we get on. About 2 weeks before we split, I mentioned about becoming bf/gf and whilst she said we are exclusive she said she has commitment issues (scared of being hurt and hurting me apparently) and wants to take it slower. So i said ok and didnt push the subject. She has a holiday coming up in 2 weeks (which is now) and said maybe when she is there it will make her realise what she wants (relationship or not) However since i mentioned about becoming bf/gf i noticed her act a little distant, nothing major but i could tell. She eventually decided to call it a day last week as she "didnt feel she could give me what i needed, which in her mind was a GF" We left it on good terms but i have remained no contact since. She has started her 2 week holiday now, is there any chance that maybe when she is away she will miss me and realise she does want a relationship with me? The friends she has gone with all have BF's. I really liked her and am gutted she ended it. Is it stupid to hold out hope or am i letting my emotions cloud my judgement? Or has anyone experianced someone coming back after similar circumstances?
PegNosePete Posted October 2, 2017 Posted October 2, 2017 She has started her 2 week holiday now, is there any chance that maybe when she is away she will miss me and realise she does want a relationship with me? There is a much bigger chance that she is off partying on holiday, she won't think of you one single time because she is having fun and enjoying the company of other guys. The friends she has gone with all have BF's. They will be doing their best to set her up with someone. Is it stupid to hold out hope or am i letting my emotions cloud my judgement? IMO, yes. She has told you that she doesn't want to be your GF. Best thing you can do is move on, and find someone who is looking for the same thing as you.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 2, 2017 Posted October 2, 2017 I wouldn't hold out hope, OP, sorry to say. She was hesitant before, and now has decided she doesn't want to be your girlfriend. That will likely override any moments of missing you. And really, do you want to be a with a girl who only decides she wants you when she is away? Because more likely than not, she would change her mind again once she's back in your vicinity and call it all off.
d0nnivain Posted October 2, 2017 Posted October 2, 2017 I was your non-GF. When I said I didn't want a BF/GF relationship I meant it. I was a huge commitment phobe & really wanted nothing to do with labels. Eventually I matured out of that fear but it was of my own doing, not because a guy wanted me to do that. I had friends in committed relationships, including LTRs, engagements & marriages at the time, so I don't think her friends' relationship statuses will influence her. She's scared & you can't fix that. Sorry.
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