minou23 Posted October 2, 2017 Posted October 2, 2017 So I met this new guy. He seems like he could be the perfect boyfriend. He's pretty much everything I'm looking for (on paper). The thing is I'm not sure if he's into me as he's been pretty flaky which I'll elaborate on. We met online and have mutual friends. He's very religious in the sense that he's observant and he was born in a different country. He is 28 and still lives at home but his parents have a beautiful home so I would too lol. Plus it could be cultural. We've hung out 3 times in 2 weeks but we were supposed to have hung out more. He flaked on me twice because he got caught up in dinner (one time was for a religious thing) with his family that lives about an hour away. He also flaked another time when he was too tired. I understand the family thing and I told him it's not a big deal as long as he lets me know ahead of time. Anyway it makes me think he doesn't take me seriously but then he texts me every morning and talks about wanting to see me and tells me he misses me. This weekend we couldn't hang out because of another holiday so he called me both nights. I thought it was sweet and made me think oh maybe he is just THAT busy but he's obviously showing me that he's thinking about me. Anyway we were supposed to hang out tonight after he was done studying. He called me to let me know he was visiting his cousin about 30 mins away and will call me when he gets home. I'm just frustrated because we had this planned. I didn't know he was going to go to his cousin's after studying and by the time we could hang out there will be nothing to do. I feel like he doesn't respect my time. If he knew we were going to hang out he shouldn't have made plans with his cousin. Do you think he's just clueless about wasting my time? I feel like he thinks if he calls me to let me know then it's ok. I'm bothered and don't know if he just doesn't get it or he's not that into me though his words say otherwise. I'm over waiting on him. What should I do? Thanks!
GemmaUK Posted October 2, 2017 Posted October 2, 2017 So far it's been OK when he's flaked so there's no reason for him to think planning something with you then going to visit his cousin will be a problem either. I don't believe in dropping things to see a new dating prospect from either party but if you have a plan it's disrespectful to just keep flaking last minute. Right now you're showing him it's OK to have no consideration for your time. This early on though I wouldn't even bring it up. I just let the guy go. He lacks manners.
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