Jss24 Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 (edited) So ill give a cliff notes version of this to start the convo. Ive kind of had this on and off again relationship with a girl for years. We would be on for awhile then off. Id do my thing and she would do the same. Well in November of last year i decided this was it,enough of the playing games. I want to be with her and thats it. So i contacted her. She agreed to meet up and she even spent the night. I hadnt seen or talked to her in well over a year. It felt like old times just like that. Well we would hang out,go out and she would stay over all the time. Things seemed a little off though. So i took a step back. She did as well. Well anyways we started seeing less and less of each other until i said enough is enough. I got a hold of her and told her i love her and want us to be together. Something we never really acknowledged, being together. She wasnt having it. She came over to talk and informed me her feelings werent as strong anymore. That hurt but i said ok what can you do. She soon informed me she was "kind of seeing someone". Ouch that hurt. But she also said she was open to still being friends and hanging out. Well we started doing that. More and more i would see her. To the point i had to ask,whats going on with this other guy. She told me she basically hasnt talked him because he was disrespectful to her and she doesnt care to talk to him anymore. Great im in im thinking. Well we end up spending a weekend together shortly after that. Had an amazing time. We even ended up having sex. The next day shes not responding to me. She finally in a text responds and says she cant do this. I said what why? She started to tell me some reasons. Reasons i didnt think were deal breakers. But then she informed me of who the guy was she is seeing. My nephew!!!! I was floored. Someone please help me and tell me im not an idiot for thinking this is sick! Edited October 2, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs, merge threads and delete duplicate post
preraph Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 Sick or not, now you have to stop contact with her. 1
Author Jss24 Posted October 1, 2017 Author Posted October 1, 2017 Contact has been cut but what bothers me is she said she wasnt doing anything wrong if she wasnt serious with either one of us. She claims everyone she talked to told her that as well. Just wanted opinions on it because she made me look like a fool for being upset and thinking it was messed up
d0nnivain Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 Yuck. Of all the people . . . she picks people in the same family. Tell your nephew what she just confessed & put her in the rear view mirror. She had every right to date two men . . . just not two in the same family. 1
preraph Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 It's a bad situation. Before I got to the part where you said it was your nephew, however, here's all I'd have said. She knows you're not the one. She likes you more as a friend. She doesn't mind having sex, but she's not at all in love with you. She's past that. If no one else was the in the picture, it wouldn't matter. She knows you're not who she wants for long term. So it is always bad form to date someone your ex is close with. Obviously. And now you were on your way out anyway, so you may as well the hero and get completely out of her life here and not stay in the middle of this soap opera. Be the one who does the right thing because neither of them are. Sorry you are having to deal with this. Just get her out of your life and hope they don't marry and he doesn't bring her to Christmas. 1
Author Jss24 Posted October 1, 2017 Author Posted October 1, 2017 I made her tell him! She got mad at me! I said if she doesnt i will. And she stomped her feet. She originally didnt tell him much i assume. In fact probably lied because he still was seeing her. But i informed him of everything on my own. Now if he believes me or her is another question i dont know. Mind you that me and my nephew havent spoke in twenty years before this. But still its gross
Author Jss24 Posted October 1, 2017 Author Posted October 1, 2017 I dont speak to her anymore and in my nephews defense he didnt know either. Outside of that,she knew everything. Also her defense was that me and my nephew hardly know each other,so theres nothing wrong with it. She honestly feels she did nothing wrong,which sickens me. I thought i knew her 1
Divasu Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 Is this normal? Nope. Family members are off limits, regardless. 1
Author Jss24 Posted October 1, 2017 Author Posted October 1, 2017 Thank you!!!! She claims she did nothing wrong and everyone she knows told her the same thing. That cant be true!
Author Jss24 Posted October 1, 2017 Author Posted October 1, 2017 I dont speak to her. And in his defense he didnt know either. Her defense was we hardly know each other. Still doesnt make it right i dont think. I dont know if they are together or not. I would hope not. Any guy with an ounce of self respect for himself wouldnt let that slide i think
preraph Posted October 2, 2017 Posted October 2, 2017 I dont speak to her anymore and in my nephews defense he didnt know either. Outside of that,she knew everything. Also her defense was that me and my nephew hardly know each other,so theres nothing wrong with it. She honestly feels she did nothing wrong,which sickens me. I thought i knew her Well, she doesn't understand family then and so you certainly wouldn't have wanted to have one with her. Hope you and your nephew can get past this. Good luck. Sorry it's so much to handle at once. Bam.
MuddyFootprints Posted October 2, 2017 Posted October 2, 2017 Your nephew, with whom you haven't spoken in 20 years. But, she knew everything. You even slept with her once. What are the odds?
Author Jss24 Posted October 2, 2017 Author Posted October 2, 2017 Your nephew, with whom you haven't spoken in 20 years. But, she knew everything. You even slept with her once. What are the odds? Long story but she knew him for awhile. Some of her friends hung out with his friends basically. She already knew we were related. That was established years ago
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