ExposedBrick Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 I met a woman via OLD. We had a nice date with great conversation, we seem pretty compatible. However, she sort of over promised and under delivered on her photos. I wouldn't say she was unattractive but the photos were misleading, so my expectations were thrown off. It oddly made me question my level of physical attraction at the end of the date. I feel torn as to whether I should ask her for a second date or not. What would you do?
smackie9 Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 I wouldn't. You ask for a second date if you are attracted, not in hopes you will find them attractive eventually. Make sense? 2
Author ExposedBrick Posted October 1, 2017 Author Posted October 1, 2017 I wouldn't. You ask for a second date if you are attracted, not in hopes you will find them attractive eventually. Make sense? It's really hard. I kind of want to give it a chance because we seemed really compatible. However, I feel like I've been down this road before though where I'm compatible with someone but not particularly physically attracted. I tried a couple more dates but nothing changed in terms of physical attraction. I've also experienced the flip side where I am very physically attracted but not compatible. Have these situations happened to you? What do you do if someone shows up to an OLD date and there is no or little physical attraction?
limichelle Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 Honestly OP If you think there is no attraction then there won't be any later on. Unless it's a weight issue that can be resolved. Otherwise her deceiving you with how she looks is someone not trust worthy to begin with. She should have been her authentic self right from the beginning. I would let her go and keep looking honestly for that happy medium. Lisa 1
Author ExposedBrick Posted October 1, 2017 Author Posted October 1, 2017 Honestly OP If you think there is no attraction then there won't be any later on. Unless it's a weight issue that can be resolved. Otherwise her deceiving you with how she looks is someone not trust worthy to begin with. She should have been her authentic self right from the beginning. I would let her go and keep looking honestly for that happy medium. Lisa The more I think about it, it was actually difficult to evaluate her physically. She was wearing a loose fitting skirt, so it was difficult to really check her lower body out. I've been out with a few women with more pear shaped bodies that try this strategy to seem more flattering. I will admit that I went to kiss her at the end of the night and it felt forced
smackie9 Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 Oh lord I tried that route many times....nope, attraction never came. 1
Miss Spider Posted October 2, 2017 Posted October 2, 2017 (edited) Been in this situation before. Never again. Total waste of both our time. BUT based on your past experience is attraction something that can grow. I vote no to secónd date Edited October 2, 2017 by Cookiesandough 1
Miss Spider Posted October 2, 2017 Posted October 2, 2017 I will admit that I went to kiss her at the end of the night and it felt forced Sorry to derail your thread, but may I ask why you kissed her if you were not attracted to her? You could have gone for a hug perhaps. Was it a French kiss ? 1
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