get back together with my ex

[JesseH]

So my ex broke up with me about 4 months ago, and she was totally right to do so. I cheated a couple of times and she found out and I couldn't be honest about it at first. This behavior repeated itself until she decided she had enough. I used to smoke all day long and not want to hang-out that much. We also have a now 3 year old son who I have half of the week.

Me and my ex had been together for almost 4/5 years.

Now she said she needed space and time to see what she wanted, I continued to do my best and I quit smoking weed and cigarettes all at once. After a while I started noticing she was being more responsive, even wanting to hang-out again(although without affection) and even saying I love you on the phone when I did. So everything went well slowly.. until she found out I slept with the same girl I cheated with about a month after she broke up with me.

I know it was self-destructive behavior also having to do with me feeling like **** because of quitting my addiction and not feeling wanted anymore. I know it is ****ed up, but that's what it was. It happened one time and I regretted it instantly because of all the reasons mentioned. I just want to work on myself and getting back together.. But when she found out again I couldn't be honest..

No I wrote on last apology and send it to her after she said to me it's all said and done.. and my actions and words don't match. For every moment the last 5 months I've been busy with working on myself and showing her that all I want for us is work things out. The evening I let myself act the way I used to it was just really bad and negative moment for me, the last one of it's kind.

So now she is really acting distant again, and I've seeked therapeutic help but still all I want is for us to get together again.

Please help me talk about this and reconnecting with her again, I know I have changed and I will continue to work on it

[d0nnivain]

She could probably get past the smoking. She will never get past the other women or the dishonestly. Until you can learn to keep it in your pants & be truthful you have no hope with the mother of your child. She has no incentive to take back a cheating liar.

 

Think about it this way, would you date somebody who repeatedly disrespected you so much?

 

More importantly, what lesson is your behavior teaching your child? You are a dad. It's time to grow up.

[HiCrunchy]

I think you should take it as a lesson to learn to honor and respect your relationships.

 

Move on, maybe apologize to her without expectation of getting her back.

To be frank you don't deserve her.

 

Good luck!