Do women think that you like them, if you talk to them all the time?

[Sdives]

Everyone has basically the same advice: ask her out or quit talking about it.

 

 

 

You assume.

 

This is painful to read. Everyone has given you similar advice. If you think you know better than everyone, what's the point of the thread? Why not just wait it out until it's no longer "weird?"

 

You really think I just ask partially blind? I mean I don't see the harm in getting to know someone a bit. Then seeing if I want to see them further rather than trying to get someone's time right off the bat.

 

I mean I could talk to her here and there, then decide. A date would be too much time even coffee.

 

I just think there too many unknowns from her and me. I honestly feels she's unsure I know I do.

 

her looks tonight tell me she knows somethings up

Edited October 4, 2017 by Sdives

[GemmaUK]

her looks tonight tell me she knows somethings up

 

I'm not surprised, you seem to be changing your behaviour every day.

 

Where I work we have customers onsite, men mostly. Due to the fact I work there it's part of my job to be kind, friendly, smile, be sociable.

If someone changed their behaviour with me one day to the next I'd find it really strange too and would think something was up.

 

Part of her job is to look at people, make sure they are alright, much of which involves checking out people's expressions and eyes.

 

Agree with the above though, this is painful to read.

Makes me wonder how on earth you will navigate a date if you ever did ask her out and she ever accepted.

[Sdives]

My behaviour hasn't changed.

[coolheadal]

My behaviour hasn't changed.

 

So what do you want? Do you really see yourself being with her as full-time gf or is this more of a social want-a-be where you just seeing where all this goes. I see no problem for you to date a 23 year old at age 37. Everyone so hang-up on ages. If she's over 21 then she can see whoever she wants too. Same with you. I like it that she gives you 100% attention, respects you an appreciates what you say to her. Once I was in your shoes I ended up marrying the girl.

[GemmaUK]

My behaviour hasn't changed.

 

You said you did. You said you pulled back and didn't speak to her.

 

I'm going to take this right back to the original question.

 

She works there, it's her job to be friendly to customers.

She sees you talk to everyone, not just her so it's not as if you are singling her out for attention.

You, so far it seems have talked about traffic, nothing personal, not a good signal of interest.

She is a lot younger than you so unless she dates much older men then it's unlikely she would even think about you in that way.

If this is the same gym where you dated the other gym worker and she or her colleagues have picked up on any vibes from you then they may well have told her you dated another gym worker.

If a woman is interested she will find lots of ways to let you know that asking her on a date will get a positive response. This doesn't seem to be happening here. Perhaps initially (?) but not any longer.

If a woman is interested but a guy takes too long to summon up the courage to just ask her for a coffee then she will fast lose interest as it's a big signal that he lacks confidence and dating him will be an awful lot of hard work.

A guy being totally unclear in his intentions is also very off-putting - a woman will simply assume friendship.

A man of your age, well, a woman will assume that you are old enough to know what you want and what to do about it.

 

I have one question for you and something I find strange is that you said going on a coffee date is too much time - why is that?

[Sdives]

You said you did. You said you pulled back and didn't speak to her.

 

I'm going to take this right back to the original question.

 

She works there, it's her job to be friendly to customers.

She sees you talk to everyone, not just her so it's not as if you are singling her out for attention.

You, so far it seems have talked about traffic, nothing personal, not a good signal of interest.

She is a lot younger than you so unless she dates much older men then it's unlikely she would even think about you in that way.

If this is the same gym where you dated the other gym worker and she or her colleagues have picked up on any vibes from you then they may well have told her you dated another gym worker.

If a woman is interested she will find lots of ways to let you know that asking her on a date will get a positive response. This doesn't seem to be happening here. Perhaps initially (?) but not any longer.

If a woman is interested but a guy takes too long to summon up the courage to just ask her for a coffee then she will fast lose interest as it's a big signal that he lacks confidence and dating him will be an awful lot of hard work.

A guy being totally unclear in his intentions is also very off-putting - a woman will simply assume friendship.

A man of your age, well, a woman will assume that you are old enough to know what you want and what to do about it.

 

I have one question for you and something I find strange is that you said going on a coffee date is too much time - why is that?

 

One thing for sure is that age is no problem here for me. I don't know if I want a full coffee with this person just yet. That's too much as I want to know someone a bit before that.Yes before that.

 

If she expected me to ask her out then, well I wasn't ready. I wasn't sure if I wanted to ask her just yet. I don't want to commit myself too much until I feel like I want to.I'm working on it.

[in_patient]

I'm sorry, I just don't understand what you're trying to achieve, here. You sound a bit obsessed

[Sdives]

I'm not obsessed. This is the topic of the thread.

 

Shall we change course and talk about which comedy team you all prefer more? Laurel and Hardy or Abbott and Costello?

 

I was talking to another female of the staff tonight about health related things by total happenstance and the girl shot me some dirty looks. We talked about an hour later and she wanted to continue the talking.

 

Great.

 

I'll see her tomorrow.

 

Eventually I'll ask her out if this pace keeps up.

 

I wasn't trying the jealousy thing at all. Not in the slightest but it seemed to might have had that effect. Or at least lost attention from me.

[TheTraveler]

Srsly the reason I'm relunctant to get a gym membership. I'd be over in the 'guy area' (only need to free weights and leg press). Don't need someone trying to "help" me with my form or "talking to me all the time". I wonder how typical that is.

 

It's not

 

Quit making excuses and join the gym if you want to.

 

She works there, Im 99% sure she's single as she a couple times hinted at it.

 

My point overall is if I asked her out now it would be weird as we haven't talked that much and since we run into each other all the time as opposed a random meeting I can take sometime to talk a bit.

 

My point is overall I can't tell if she is interest or not. Sometimes and somedays I think for sure, somethings up. Some times it doesn't seem like it.

 

If I keep talking to her she's gotta catch on. I mean I want to make sure that I have a good idea if she's interested or not before I bother and we are familiar enough that it wont seem weird. I want it to we have talked enough and it would seem logical to make a move. Hopefully she can throw me a bone that she would be receptive or not to an advance. Eventually she's gotta clue in here.

 

Ahhh I remember you! The guy at the gym who likes to hit on the young workers

 

Same as two years ago. Ask them out

[Sdives]

It's not

 

Quit making excuses and join the gym if you want to.

 

 

 

Ahhh I remember you! The guy at the gym who likes to hit on the young workers

 

Same as two years ago. Ask them out

 

Her interest may fluctuate but Im starting to feel a bit more confident