People who co parent give me .

[Random.g1rl]

I am dating a guy who is married, but separated (not divorced) but plans to divorce. We have been together half of a year. He has 3 kids with his ex (wife), she moved to another county. She hates me for no reason at all but I’m sure it’s because she still has feelings for the guy.. but she left him. Anyways. They are tying to co-parent and I’m all for it because at one point she would call and text him to talk **** about the both of us and wish we were dead, and call me names.. she is starting to be rational (only toward him) but still hates me and calls me names etc,but I just assume it’s because she’s hurt because she’s tried to get back with him but he says it’s over. However when they communicate it’s supposed to only be about the kids, that’s what he’s told her. But for some reason or another she contacts him all times throughout the day just to talk about things that has absolutely nothing to do with their kids and I expressed to him how that annoys me because he will respond back to her but he says he sees no problem.. am I being irrational? Or is that just disrespectful??

[basil67]

You say she's in another country and calls you names. How do you know about the name caling? If she's saying stuff about you to your partner, then he should not be telling you about it. And he should be keeping her in check.

 

Who has custody of the children?

[Random.g1rl]

Another county meaning about 7 hours away. She has called my job to threaten to kill me and call me all kinds of racial slurs. She found out where I worked from another girl I use to be friends with, and yes sometimes he does tell me when she is talking crap about me. There’s no set custody because they are not legally divorced, they are just separated. He can go pick up the kids at any time but she has their kids because when she left she did it while he was at work and took their kids

[Gr8fuln2020]

You say she's in another country and calls you names. How do you know about the name caling? If she's saying stuff about you to your partner, then he should not be telling you about it. And he should be keeping her in check.

 

Who has custody of the children?

 

I believe she only moved to another COUNTY, not country. I also suspect that they both have custody for now as they are not divorced.

 

It is always SO risky to date someone who is still legally married. I don't blame his wife for feeling negatively towards you. You are dating a married man. Her man...

 

Don't be surprised if the children become weapons. This guy is playing with fire. She could use his dating, while married, as a weapon against him if and when the divorce proceedings go in full drive.

 

Be careful and think about what you may be doing to him.

[Random.g1rl]

She is the one who left him, and she moved to another county to be with another man. I can understand her anger towards me, but once again she chose to leave. She decided she was not happy with the guy she left him for and tried to get back with my boyfriend. However, he does not want her back. Neither of them have the money to divorce thus this is why the process is taking long. But she can not leave him for another guy and expect him to wait around and be alone...

[basil67]

County - not country. Sorry, my bad.

 

Ok, like it or not this situation is what it is. It's really up to you to decide whether or not you wish to continue. If she's making your life miserable then perhaps you're better off walking away.