Author GTR King Posted October 3, 2017 Author Posted October 3, 2017 That is true some women put silly things in there dating profiles
Miss Spider Posted October 3, 2017 Posted October 3, 2017 Yes, but a lot of guys on there are so desperate they are willing to overlook huge personality flaws for a cute chick. Such as one so shallow she puts "If your not over 6ft swipe left ️"
greymatter Posted October 3, 2017 Posted October 3, 2017 I don’t advertise that at all in my profile... Not upset at all... Just wished they said it in profile & show body photos but that’s dating for you Thanks for all the replys I think you should advertise it so women who wouldn't want to be with someone with your values can avoid you as a potential partner and not waste their time. Be clear about what you don't want. Be honest about who you are. It is better for everyone.
Author GTR King Posted October 5, 2017 Author Posted October 5, 2017 In the last day or 2, I had 2 girls reply back to me (One had faviourted me match.com) say thanks for the message but not interested. All the best happy fishing Grey matter thanks for your advice
SevenCity Posted October 5, 2017 Posted October 5, 2017 I think you should advertise it so women who wouldn't want to be with someone with your values can avoid you as a potential partner and not waste their time. Be clear about what you don't want. Be honest about who you are. It is better for everyone. No no no no no!!!! Don't do it dude. Listen to what Cookies said. You have to understand the difference in the way a man thinks and how women think. Men are often ok with parameters and logic as long as it doesn't come off as demanding (i.e.: "PLEASE be over 6ft tall and have extensively traveled overseas" - yuk) But women aren't like us. If you say you don't like fat chicks a girl can take it as "What a shallow jerk". "What happens if I put on a few pounds?" "What if I get pregnant - will he leave me?" The no kids thing can also be a turn off. Every woman loves kids and you can come off as a jerk by saying you don't want any. Nothing wrong with asking about it before you meet "My niece is so cute! Do you have kids yourself?" I'm in your boat - I don't want either but I'm also older so it's harder. You have to be careful with photos as women are masters at hiding fat. Don't fall for ones that hide behind trees, a dog, a huge dress. Also, the pics can be old which has happened to me. And just food for thought...many of the thin women will eventually become fat after having a kid. A single mom in shape has proven that won't happen. Just something to think about. 4
Author GTR King Posted October 8, 2017 Author Posted October 8, 2017 (edited) Thanks for the reply. Will take your advice... Just started talking to girl on match.com today (only messaged me twice). But early days so will see what happens. She looks really nice & the messages have been good, not quick replies as she is shy Edited October 8, 2017 by GTR King
staggerlee71 Posted October 8, 2017 Posted October 8, 2017 your frustrated but that is going to happen with OLD. These women don't mention kids because they want a broader net. Personally, if I met a women OLD who didn't mention she had kids in her profile(at your age), I would consider that a flag, not a big one. realistically, she is wasting her time too by going out with guys who don't want to date a single mom at your age. So its counter productive. I do feel however, that a women in her late 20's is more than willing and also can be a great candidate to make a new life with, both you and her. If you hit it off, I would think having a kid with you a starting a family with you would be completely viable. Ofcourse, loving a kid that's not yours would be new but if you love her, I would think it would fall in line. Your not fussy and you know what you want and that is perfectly honorable...im just sayin, there are plenty of awesome ladies with a kid
Author GTR King Posted October 9, 2017 Author Posted October 9, 2017 Yep that is so true, will see how it goes with this girl & go from there
elaine567 Posted October 9, 2017 Posted October 9, 2017 But women aren't like us. If you say you don't like fat chicks a girl can take it as "What a shallow jerk". "What happens if I put on a few pounds?" "What if I get pregnant - will he leave me?" The no kids thing can also be a turn off. Every woman loves kids and you can come off as a jerk by saying you don't want any. Nothing wrong with asking about it before you meet "My niece is so cute! Do you have kids yourself?" Well if you ARE going to dump her if she happens to like donuts or she turns out to have kids and wants more kids, then is that not just a complete waste of her time? Why bother pretending? It may do your ego the power of good to think more women want to date you, but if they are NOT what you want, then it is a bit cruel to lead them on to think you may be interested... 1
Author GTR King Posted October 9, 2017 Author Posted October 9, 2017 Elaine567 your so right I would never lead a girl on... Kids & tattos are a big no for me (Small one are ok)
knabe Posted October 9, 2017 Posted October 9, 2017 This is absurd. Are you suggesting that pedafiles who look like Chad's (because we all know how easy it is for average Joe's to get laid on OLD) target women who list that they have kids, seduce them, get invited to their homes, then try to molest their kids??? C'mon. They're just omitting undesirable traits to attract more men... I recommend you go to sites that will educate you on child predators. They absolutely DO go on dating and hookup websites. For that very reason. So yes, it does happen. OP, you cannot change what other people put on their profiles. You CAN, however, change what you put on yours. Just make it clear that you are not interested in women with kids and that if they are noticeably overweight not to message.
Author GTR King Posted October 9, 2017 Author Posted October 9, 2017 Update Girl I am talking to (Match.com) (Think she is very good looking, someone I think is way too hot for me) since yerstday. She is shy & always replies with good long messages, take ages to reply (will reply instantly/within 20 mins once she longs on, hardly logs online) Was thinking (if still talking) give her my number tomz or Wed/Thurs. Then arrange to meet up next week... don’t like the idea of messaging for ages & it lead to nothing.. Am I being too quick? Don’t wanna rush things etc
SevenCity Posted October 9, 2017 Posted October 9, 2017 Update Girl I am talking to (Match.com) (Think she is very good looking, someone I think is way too hot for me) since yerstday. She is shy & always replies with good long messages, take ages to reply (will reply instantly/within 20 mins once she longs on, hardly logs online) Was thinking (if still talking) give her my number tomz or Wed/Thurs. Then arrange to meet up next week... don’t like the idea of messaging for ages & it lead to nothing.. Am I being too quick? Don’t wanna rush things etc You're too slow. Some valuable advice I learned here and through trial and error: 1) Ask her out. If she's interested she'll say yes. Simple. 2) Ask for her number to plan it out. 3) Call her up rather than text. I've found this work better than texting. You can also get a sense of who she is better than text and may not want to see her after you speak. 4) Don't give her your number until she gives you hers. For some reason women often get upset when they are given a number by a guy. I think they feel like it makes them the aggressor and they want the guy to do that. 5) If she says anything like "Want to get to know you better before meeting" she likely has no intention of ever meeting and every intention of wasting your time. From your post it sounds like you are vested in this girl. I would hold off on getting excited until you meet her in person and continue to message other chicks.
Author GTR King Posted October 10, 2017 Author Posted October 10, 2017 SevenCity thanks for the post, I have asked her if it’s easier to talk via WhatsApp Or IMessage & will let her give me her number, (hopefully she will) One I got her number will message for a day or 2 then ask her on a date etc I will still talk to other girls who messsge me
Miss Spider Posted October 10, 2017 Posted October 10, 2017 (edited) Well if you ARE going to dump her if she happens to like donuts or she turns out to have kids and wants more kids, then is that not just a complete waste of her time? Why bother pretending? It may do your ego the power of good to think more women want to date you, but if they are NOT what you want, then it is a bit cruel to lead them on to think you may be interested... Lol @ donuts... the point is not scaring away the women who will judge you on your candidness about your preferences..not even your actual preferences... The fact that OP is hesitant about putting that in his profile says that being candid and open about his preferences isn't actually who he is. Truly, a woman could go her whole life with him without ever knowing he never dated or wanted to date women with children before they met. And that's prob for the best Edited October 10, 2017 by Cookiesandough
Author GTR King Posted October 10, 2017 Author Posted October 10, 2017 I like everyone to be open about there profiles so I know what she has/don’t like etc Telling the truth is always a good start 1
Miss Spider Posted October 10, 2017 Posted October 10, 2017 (edited) I like everyone to be open aboyt there profiles so I know what she has/don’t like etc Not every truth needs to be said. But if you appreciate it from others did you end up putting in your profile No overweight women or single moms pls just a preference ? Edited October 10, 2017 by Cookiesandough
Author GTR King Posted October 10, 2017 Author Posted October 10, 2017 (edited) I haven’t put that in my profile yet, not every truth but just the basic ones e.g smoking kids etc Woman I am talking to hasn't replied yet so gonna leave it for a few days (If No reply) then either move on or message again... Hopefully she will reply if not it's not the end of the world there is someone out there for everyone Update she replied to me, got her number only auckward thing is I go swimming 2-5 times a week at my local pool she might be going there tomz & that’s where I will be. Not that bad Edited October 10, 2017 by GTR King 1
olivetree Posted October 10, 2017 Posted October 10, 2017 SevenCity thanks for the post, I have asked her if it’s easier to talk via WhatsApp Or IMessage & will let her give me her number, (hopefully she will) One I got her number will message for a day or 2 then ask her on a date etc I will still talk to other girls who messsge me She sounds like how I was on OLD. I didn't log in all the time and I would have longer exchanges going. I didn't want to have instant back and forth chats of meaningless crap. So, she probably isn't going to want to exchange numbers and have boring chats with you before meeting. That could feel like a step backwards if you are presently sending long messages. Ask her out on the app. THEN get her number. Save most of the getting to know for in-person. That will keep momentum going.
Author GTR King Posted October 10, 2017 Author Posted October 10, 2017 (edited) Update she has got my number & message me a few times so all good. Will ask her on a date soon... so I can see her face to face etc Edited October 10, 2017 by GTR King
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