GTR King Posted September 30, 2017 Posted September 30, 2017 (edited) I am 27 (28 next year) I don’t know why but lately when I have been chatting To girls (24-30) (Tinder pof etc) they have been super fit, with 1 child sometimes 2. I usually find out after talking to them for a bit & they don’t state it in their profile (annoys me) I do want kids in the future but not ready right now... Why do they not state it in their profile & wait to tell me after a few days of chatting... & the ones without kids don’t reply or when they do they are usally really fat/huge (Don’t mind bit over weight that’s fine with) Am I being fussy? Edited September 30, 2017 by GTR King
d0nnivain Posted September 30, 2017 Posted September 30, 2017 They don't mention the kids in their profile because they know some guys, like you, will just skip over them because of the kids. Instead they hope that once you get to know them, you won't mind the fact that they have children. 6
Author GTR King Posted September 30, 2017 Author Posted September 30, 2017 But I like to know before I message them if they have kids or not..... The girls without kids don’t bother replying or are really fat... I am not fussed if they are a bit over weight.... Once a girl told me all she wanted was a farther for her daughter (ASAP after the first date) and didn’t put in her profile as wants the guy to like her not the fact she has a daughter (They should be honest not tell u at a later date)
CryForNoOne Posted September 30, 2017 Posted September 30, 2017 Welcome to the world of OLD where people get nexted for having a beauty mole on the left cheek instead of the right cheek. Paradox of choice... Those women are doing that because they want to cast a wide net and hope to get you emotionally invested before revealing they have kids. If they are willing to do that with such a white elephant in the room as having children, imagine all the other things they are faking. The sad part is men lie much more online than women. They feel they have to because the women are MUCH MUCH pickier - due to the overwhelming amount of attention they get... The fat chicks reply because the only thing worse than being an average guy in OLD is being an overweight female. The Internet just multiples the cruelties of real life by 100x... 1
Author GTR King Posted September 30, 2017 Author Posted September 30, 2017 Those women are doing that because they want to cast a wide net and hope to get you emotionally invested before revealing they have kids. If they are willing to do that with such a white elephant in the room as having children, imagine all the other things they are faking. I think that is wrong. Also when a girl has only a face photo (makes it look really good) I feel they are hiding there weight.. Inlike to see body photos so i know what I am dealing with... The fat girls usally message me first 1
spiderowl Posted September 30, 2017 Posted September 30, 2017 (edited) It is possible that one reason women don't state that they have children in their profiles is because guys might be put off. But actually, it is probably best not to mention children in a profile. A single mother would be wary of attracting paedophiles who might claim to be interested in her when they are actually seeking access to children. You obviously prefer slim women. That's fine and your preference. You do seem to be focusing on looks more than anything. Attractive women pick up on that and can be turned off by it. It is often clear if all a guy is interested in is looks. Even attractive women are often looking for guys who are interested in them as a person, not just in the way they look. It is possible your attitude is coming across and putting off the women you are most attracted to. Just a thought. Edited September 30, 2017 by spiderowl 2
Miss Spider Posted September 30, 2017 Posted September 30, 2017 (edited) They don't say it because a lot of guys do not like it. They are hoping that you will be attracted to other things about them on the first few dates and be more likely to overlook it. Looks like it kind of works. I had a guy ask me on a first date if I had any kids or surprises. It didn't bother me that much. You could just say it like that. Edited September 30, 2017 by Cookiesandough 1
greymatter Posted September 30, 2017 Posted September 30, 2017 Women (or as you call them, girls - by the way if they have female children, those daughters are girls), may not advertise that they have kids for safety reasons. 4
Chilli Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 Yeah , just say you prefer no kids in your profile and when you do start talking ask her early in if she has kids just to be sure. l know when l was on it l realized a lot didn't even read the profile anyway or ignored things you had on it. Nothin wrong with not wanting kids mate , or not wanting someone elses kids. 2
joseb Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 OP, dont swipe on profiles that have no body shots. That avoids one issue. Secondly, if they have kids you are free to say thanks but no thanks at that point. 3
CryForNoOne Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 Women (or as you call them, girls - by the way if they have female children, those daughters are girls), may not advertise that they have kids for safety reasons. This is absurd. Are you suggesting that pedafiles who look like Chad's (because we all know how easy it is for average Joe's to get laid on OLD) target women who list that they have kids, seduce them, get invited to their homes, then try to molest their kids??? C'mon. They're just omitting undesirable traits to attract more men... 1
bluefeather Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 Only ask out the ones that state on their profile that they don't have kids.
Author GTR King Posted October 1, 2017 Author Posted October 1, 2017 It’s not all about looks... I don’t mind little overweight Women....but if they are massively overweight is a big no no for me
coolheadal Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 It’s not all about looks... I don’t mind little overweight Women....but if they are massively overweight is a big no no for me if your thin/skinny or average build you not going to want someone who doesn't take care of their size. So do you want them with kids already? I get you not ready to have kids so I guess you won't be dating moms and grandmoms or moms who are now grandmons. Funny when that happens. Date who you want to date only you know what you want to date. We all don't know what you want until you say it. So I see you will date someone overweight but not too huge but that's what overweight means then really huge is obsess. Profiles can be lied about so be careful.. Good luck!
Author GTR King Posted October 1, 2017 Author Posted October 1, 2017 Thanks coolheadal I don’t want to date women with kids or really overweight women Thanks for the reply’s
GemmaUK Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 Yeah, just add it to your profile. Be aware that it could stop someone who might have been interested - as in a slim one with no children - from contacting you. If you don't want to add it you just have to go with the flow that you can't control others. A huge part of OLD is people not looking anything like their photos nor portraying all of their lives - important aspects too. Meet soon, don't become emotionally invested before you meet.
d0nnivain Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 This is absurd. Are you suggesting that pedafiles who look like Chad's (because we all know how easy it is for average Joe's to get laid on OLD) target women who list that they have kids, seduce them, get invited to their homes, then try to molest their kids??? C'mon. They're just omitting undesirable traits to attract more men... I posted that I think women don't lead with that because they know some men will reject them for having kids. I am not a mom but I think the safety angle could be a consideration. While nobody is suggesting that every man is a pedophile, on the remote chance that somebody is, a good parent won't take the chance & jeopardize their child's safety. A parent shouldn't be chastised for being cautious. Better safe then sorry. GTR King -- to avoid wasting your time, ask for a full body shot before meeting someone if only a face picture is posted. Also ask about kids before meeting. 3
elaine567 Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 Problem here is that only the "fit" women with kids or overweight women are considering talking to him. The "fit" single women he wants, are not seeing him as a potential date. He needs to work out why that is. 2
Author GTR King Posted October 1, 2017 Author Posted October 1, 2017 Well I haven’t been using OLD sites much lately as been so busy.... That’s in the last week or so... I do get other girls message me
GemmaUK Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 Well I haven’t been using OLD sites much lately as been so busy.... That’s in the last week or so... I do get other girls message me So, just go for those who aren't too overweight and who don't have children then, maybe? 2
elaine567 Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 Well I haven’t been using OLD sites much lately as been so busy.... That’s in the last week or so... I do get other girls message me OK so why are you getting so upset about the single mothers and the fatter girls.... You said originally the ones without kids do not reply or are overweight... People tend to put stuff on their profile that works FOR THEM, it is their "advert" so they get to decide what to put in it or to miss out all together. 1
Miss Spider Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 I'm thin with no kids and if a guy put no single moms or overweight women in his profile or anything close to that he would be missed Don't think it's a good idea and I'm sure a lot of other women can vouch. It's not attractive to advertise you're a bit shallow 2
Author GTR King Posted October 1, 2017 Author Posted October 1, 2017 I don’t advertise that at all in my profile... Not upset at all... Just wished they said it in profile & show body photos but that’s dating for you Thanks for all the replys
greymatter Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 (edited) This is absurd. Are you suggesting that pedafiles who look like Chad's (because we all know how easy it is for average Joe's to get laid on OLD) target women who list that they have kids, seduce them, get invited to their homes, then try to molest their kids??? C'mon. They're just omitting undesirable traits to attract more men... Deleted after thinking about what I wrote. Edited October 1, 2017 by greymatter
Chilli Posted October 2, 2017 Posted October 2, 2017 Thing is , plenty of women put all sorts of things in theirs , much more and much much worse than that, l couldn't believe some of the stuff, so why not.
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