shahjskalio Posted September 30, 2017 Posted September 30, 2017 So I met a guy on a dating app. We met a day after talking on the app. We've been on 4 dates. He told me he's emotionally jaded and everytime we meet he talks about himself and I ask him questions but he doesn't ask about me and he might ask about how my day was but that's like hours after is meeting. Also since day one he was very touchy feely and sexual but he always drives me home. He also never paid for me and I'm not expecting him too but it would be nice to offer. Im also a funny quirky girl and sometimes id make jokes and hed say thats not attractive or sexy and he always would talk about how if we had sex we'd get more closer. Other than all those things he seems like a good person. So last night I told him how I felt and it was all about him again and he got mad and blocked me everywhere. Did I dodge a bullet? Am I crazy for thinking most of those things were res flags?
basil67 Posted September 30, 2017 Posted September 30, 2017 I wouldn't go as far as saying they were red flags, but there's nothing wrong with ending things with a person who you don't connect with. 3
BaileyB Posted September 30, 2017 Posted September 30, 2017 It's a good thing that you didn't have sex with him... I'm not sure why you would want to, after what you have described. You clearly didn't connect with him... I wouldn't have connected with him either. 2
d0nnivain Posted September 30, 2017 Posted September 30, 2017 Because his response to you when you tried to share your concerns was to block you instead of talk, you are better off without him. 6
mortensorchid Posted September 30, 2017 Posted September 30, 2017 Sounds like a nutjob. You're better off without him. 2
limichelle Posted September 30, 2017 Posted September 30, 2017 Yeah, consider yourself lucky! That type of guy wouldn't appeal to me either. Lisa 2
spiderowl Posted September 30, 2017 Posted September 30, 2017 Yes, you did the right thing. It sounds like it really was 'all about him'. You deserve better. 2
basil67 Posted September 30, 2017 Posted September 30, 2017 I would add that I don't see any point in raising issues about personality with a person you've only been on four dates with. Not many people take personal criticism well - especially from someone they barely know. If you're not connecting with a guy, just end it with vague reasons. Only give details if they really want to know. 2
Author shahjskalio Posted October 1, 2017 Author Posted October 1, 2017 Thanks so much for your advice guys! I love you! It sucks how most guys can't communicate and just run. We spent 4 while days together I got a good sense of his personality and it was very narcissistic. 1
love.sick.101 Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 Yes you did the right thing. I promise you will find someone who will find your jokes attractive and will pay for You!!
Addius Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 Sounds like he’s such a turn off honestly more than just red flags. Glad you didn’t have sex with him.
act00 Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 You're definitely better off. He's not interested in you as a person. He is selfish and uncaring. He's not ready for a commitment and what it takes to nurture one. I know it hurts, but this guy sounds like a jerk. Good riddance!
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