Marx_is_him Posted September 30, 2017 Posted September 30, 2017 Today my partner of nearly two years punched a hole in our bedroom door after I tried to trip him during a heated argument. I have absolutely no idea why I did it. It was incredibly immature and I regret it, but I think this might be the end for us. We've been fighting about money and household responsibilities since we moved in together last August –– mostly because he couldn't find a job and his unemployment was contested at first. It was a hard few months, but he finally got some temp. work in the spring with the promise to hire. The temporary part lasted about six months instead of three, but they finally made him an offer, which basically doubles his income. We've been looking forward to this for so long, but now I'm afraid its come too late. I do love him, but lately everything feels like a fight. I know I'm not helping the situation and can be really verbally abusive when I'm upset, which I've been working on. Unfortunately with finances so tight, I've had to let my health insurance lapse, so I can't get my antidepressants which help keep me balanced. It's all such a mess and I really don't know what to do. I can't afford to move out, and I don't have anyone nearby that I can really lean on. I never should have moved here.
preraph Posted September 30, 2017 Posted September 30, 2017 This isn't fun and is only going to go downhill, so you need to just get out. When a relationship isn't fun anymore, why stay in it? Even if you have kids, a bad relationship with so much stress eats them alive so you don't stay for them either.
Author Marx_is_him Posted September 30, 2017 Author Posted September 30, 2017 No - no kids. Just us and my dog, who has since become "our" dog. We wanted children, and were talking more seriously about timing when things went back south. I know we're on the precipice of breaking up for good, but I don't know if I'm ready just yet. I do love him, but I need him to step up and be more consistent in his responsibilities. I keep saying this, but it doesn't sink in. I just wish he'd put as much effort into our relationship as he does D&D or video games.
Vinny56 Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 These are issues many couples go through somepoint in life. Talk to him about him stepping up and showing you that he respects and values you enough to try harder and make things work. And I know what's it's like to have a female partner who's verbally abusive so you may need to try harder on your part aswell to keep things from getting out of hand when you argue. (Ps I have also punched a hole my exes room before because when we fought she got verbally asbusive and there's only so much a guy can take). Remember a relationship is a two way street of love, communication and respect.
preraph Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 He cares more about the video games because he's childish, not a man. Go find yourself a man. Take the dog with you. He'll forget to feed it.
GemmaUK Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 Sounds to me like you'd both be better off without each other. You can't control him into being who you want hi to be with verbal and now physical abuse (by tripping him up). It doesn't sound like any of this will get better.
smackie9 Posted October 1, 2017 Posted October 1, 2017 Seek refuge with family to get back on your feet. Look up Dr. Amen. He has books on how to improve your life if you are a sufferer of depression and anxiety with simply changing your diet, and your lifestyle. It will help tone down your symptoms, with the possibility of being less dependent on meds. Sounds like higgery giggery bs, but the medical community knows that a healthy brain starts with a healthy body.
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