lar92 Posted September 29, 2017 Share Posted September 29, 2017 (edited) Hey, I was in a sort of LDR relationship (we were trying to be just friends towards the end but we kept falling back to flirting and behaving like partners again) and recently he did something that I do not understand. Basically last week I mentioned a belief of mine that differs to his religious beliefs, he shut down (said he couldn't speak as he felt depressed about it), said he couldn't accept it, I thought he would be silent for just a few days but he didn't speak for 6 days, he comes back asking how are you, then when I reply the next day he says he simply wanted to know the previous day how I was before studying today bye. I didn't receive closure from him about us not being friends anymore, he just suddenly stopped and comes back acting like we are totally not close anymore. We were very close and speaking all day everyday before that so it feels odd. Especially since he said I was his best friend and nobody else supported him like I do. These are some important things to know: he is of religion I am not of. I am not part of any religion as I am learning about several at the moment. I fell in love with his religion when I met him and thought I could accept it but I had been feeling insecure lately as I was discovering myself more and what I feel in line with and realised I didn't think I could convert to his religion. But, I hadn't built up the courage to break up as I loved him and didnt want to lose him and was lost in confusion. I understand he's disappointed in me as he hoped I would convert to his religion. But this feels a bit harsh and I feel confused he can just drop the friendship like that. It was very special to me and to him too. ******** Today, I tried to be assertive but kind and said that I didn't think it was fair for him to not speak for a week without telling me things have changed. I said since we were so close I didn't understand him being so harsh, but that he could at least tell me he plans not to be friends anymore. I also eventually said goodnight I don't want to continue this discussion because I felt rude vibes from him (read below). His replies in this conversation were what about his feelings, speaking to me isn't useful, that he was thinking of not speaking anymore because he got tired/ depressed, that now I know (that he would stop speaking for so long). He said I don't see anything wrong in my words, and that I think everyone is rude to me. That he doesn't in fact want to be friends because he doesn't want problems. I don't know if he's playing games or actually was capable of dropping care, both are things I can't wrap my head around. ?? Edited September 29, 2017 by lar92 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted September 29, 2017 Share Posted September 29, 2017 I'm sorry to tell you that he has told you everything you need to know. Your relationship is over and he doesn't want to be friends. There's nothing more you can do here, except to move on. It doesn't matter what he's thinking or why he has chosen the choice that he has. All you can do is to accept it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lar92 Posted September 29, 2017 Author Share Posted September 29, 2017 Yes I know for sure we can't be together, and I knew we couldn't towards the end of the relationship but hadn't worked up the courage to leave. But I guess I'm just wondering how he can be so cold. I feel very disrespected by his reaction. Link to post Share on other sites
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