Dating A Man Not Into Sports?

[normal person]

There is a difference between playing sports and watching sports. I've seen many balding men sit around yelling at a TV with such passion their beer bellies jiggle. I can promise you most women don't find that attractive and it's got nothing to do with being alpha.

 

Yup.

 

I'm surprised that grown men being absolutely fanatical about sports isn't a turn off to more women. I used to like sports a lot more, but the older I get, the worse I feel investing my time in watching them (playing is a different story). I understand the occasional escapism, but if you religiously spend all of Sunday revering other men, wearing a jersey with someone else's name on it (essentially broadcasting to the world "this is the guy I wish I was"), it might be a sign that you have little else going for yourself; you're just a passive observer. You don't derive joy in life from your own accomplishments, you derive it from someone else's, someone who couldn't care less about you. You want to waste countless hours watching people achieve their dreams rather than work to achieve your own. It seems like such a waste of time. I saw a video of some people in South America mercilessly attacking a referee at a kid's soccer game. I can't fathom how on Earth anyone could care that much about a game, let alone a children's game, to practically kill a guy. How can you care so much about something so trivial?

 

I think it's really unattractive for people to define themselves by what they watch other people do (sports, television, movies) rather than what they do themselves.

[SwordofFlame]

I'm a sports fan, I enjoy both watching and playing. I never thought being one really impacted my chances positively or negatively with women though. OP, what's your rationale here? What's the concern?

[smackie9]

It's not so much about sports, but having a manly hobby does. The majority of guys that I dated were car guys and had a construction job of some kind, and liked hanging out with his buddies drinking beers.

 

What I avoided was desk jockeys that had many female friends, was interested in wine and fashion, obsessed with going to the gym. (metrosexual) lol

[newmoon]

i've dated a few guys who weren't into sports AT ALL. one was Mormon and said being competitive wasn't allowed, or something like that. not sure how true that is/was. i love sports personally, but liked that he didn't. i found him less competitive overall and he didn't find it necessary to "win" at all costs, whether in arguments, cards, board games, bowling, stuff like that. it was nice. no issues with it at all.

[Miss Spider]

Love it! I personally can't stand guys obsessed with group sports or watching sports in general... I tolerate it if it is a hobby but barely The guy that I wanted to date last attracted me big time with his sports aversion

 

I'm not into watching sports, so at best it's something that I can't enjoy with him!

 

I think also to me, interest sports of a sign of conventionality I'm not that into. I'm from Midwest USA so when a guy says he into football it's like "tell me something I don't know >.>" I like men with intellectual interests in the arts or sciences. I don't know. I guess it's a little impressive when guys know all about specific teams and who scored what and when but jeez lol

 

 

It will obviously just come down to the particular woman and what she appreciates in a man. I once knew a girl who said she wasn't into men who were not really built. She said she liked the feeling her man could defend her in the unlikely event of a physical attack. She associated a good mate with brute strength. I'm cool if a guy I'm with just decides to run with me and call the cops lol.

Edited September 29, 2017 by Cookiesandough

[knabe]

I am seriously laughing out loud at the idea that you have to be into sports to be alpha. That is hysterical and offensive all at the same time.

 

Then again, jocks weren't known for there brains....see? See how dumb those kinds of statements are?

[coolheadal]

How many ladies would still date a man who is not into any sports? Or do you consider it a red flag? I'm one of the few men in America who has no interest in watching football or playing any sports whatsoever. In fact I find the topic about who won the last football game rather boring. I don't know how to play football and have no desire to learn.

 

I play tennis, and I like volleyball and beach volleyball. I don't watch sports on TV can't get into it. There are many men like me and most of my friends are this way too. Those who like sports will only be around people who are into it. So if you guy likes sports to the point he can't be with you or he rather watch the game then your going to have problem with him. I try not to date women into sports because I would just get bored. I've been to hockey, basketball, baseball games as well as Super-ball Game Parties.. Zzzz!

[Woggle]

I used to enjoy going to Yankees games because a close friend had box seats at Yankee Stadium. It was like a party in there with any food you can imagine and all kinds of booze and the game was kind of fun as well. Other than that I am not really into it. I don't get the utter obsession over football that some people display. I see people getting into physical fights over their favorite teams and I just think it is stupid. The idea that you have to be some grunting oaf in a football jersey to be a real man is just absurd.

[AnnaN88]

I would not consider dating a guy who is massively into sports. Recently I went on a date with a guy who was obsessed with hiking and suggested indoors climbing for a second date.

Needless to say, I cancelled the second date.