SherlackHOLMES Posted September 29, 2017 Posted September 29, 2017 i have been hanging out with this dude for almost a month. Im hawaiian (living on the east coast ) and he is from OBX so we have the same mindset i find. We have had sex only once and it was after talking talking/ hanging out for a few weeks. we actually have a ton in common but he isnt a phone person. its just that he would be blantantly active on social media but wouldnt chat with me. we hung out the entire day today less than a week ago and he said he would text but never did......id text him 3 days later but no response. he still has his tinder and i have never asked him what his intentions are. im no where acting desperate towards him aside within my own mind aha. im actually scared to double text im nervous in front of him but thats because i dig him and i havent interacted with someone like myself in 3 years
Author SherlackHOLMES Posted September 29, 2017 Author Posted September 29, 2017 PS he is 25 and im 22
Zahara Posted September 29, 2017 Posted September 29, 2017 He likes having fun and sex when you are around him but out of sight, out of mind. He doesn't seem very interested in progressing into anything more. If you're looking for more than that, this is not the guy. 3
Miss Spider Posted September 29, 2017 Posted September 29, 2017 Why cant my luck be this good. In my experience, Tinder is full of overly verbose, uppity guys who don't even kiss and are stingy with the D. Sorry for the minirant, but I agree with Zahara this guy was probably just looking for sex. He may come back around when he wants some again, who knows. HOWEVER, I don't think this guy would even be a good F buddy. It seems it seems rude to not contact a girl AT ALL after sex with her. Even just a "had a nice time" "get home safe". It's just poor form. Sorry
OnlyHonesty Posted September 29, 2017 Posted September 29, 2017 he said he would text but never did......id text him 3 days later but no response. When someone doesn't keep their promise to contact you, why would you then contact them expecting a different outcome? Even if they did respond, it would only be because you had to nudge them. You would have been better off just not contacting him. This is the way I see it. Sex is one of, if not the most intimate act two people can do in their whole life period. When you casually hang around a guy, talk for a while, and then hop into bed with him, you send a message that you aren't to be taken very seriously. If that's the message you wanted to send, then there isn't much to worry about I guess. I think sex has been downplayed so much, but have you asked yourself why so many women start worrying about how a guy acts right after they have had sex.... When you mentioned the sex, you instinctively felt the need to mention that it was after talking for a few weeks... It seems to me you weren't even clear on your own intentions. 4
kendahke Posted September 29, 2017 Posted September 29, 2017 Have you asked him if he's a texter, as in did he spend his time texting his past girlfriends? Some people aren't texters in the one on one sense. Being active on social media is different--you're not being drawn into protracted conversations by and large. You drop a comment and keep it going. Why not just chill and see where things are going? You've only been dealing with him for about a month--it's still early days. Yes, it could be an indicator that he's got low interest in you, despite all you say you have in common with him. It's one thing to have things in common with someone; it's quite another where it's enough to motivate them into something they may not want to get into.
kendahke Posted September 29, 2017 Posted September 29, 2017 but have you asked yourself why so many women start worrying about how a guy acts right after they have had sex.... Excellent point here before you had sex, were you this focused on how often he texted you, or did you think sex conferred something that hasn't been discussed?
Author SherlackHOLMES Posted September 30, 2017 Author Posted September 30, 2017 he said he isnt a big texter, but neither am i. we hang out and just go on adventures together. Last weekend we woke up early and played tennis then went to the river. We actually arent intimate what so ever but dod have sex once and only once. so sex is definetly not the motivation i think. we talked today and he asked of wanted to play tennis but i couldnt. and he is always one of the first to open my snapchat stories. when we do text he uses a lot of exclamation points.
coolheadal Posted September 30, 2017 Posted September 30, 2017 Why cant my luck be this good. In my experience, Tinder is full of overly verbose, uppity guys who don't even kiss and are stingy with the D. Sorry for the minirant, but I agree with Zahara this guy was probably just looking for sex. He may come back around when he wants some again, who knows. HOWEVER, I don't think this guy would even be a good F buddy. It seems it seems rude to not contact a girl AT ALL after sex with her. Even just a "had a nice time" "get home safe". It's just poor form. Sorry Don't worry the right guy will be with you soon..
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