ttgu Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 My boyfriend and I have been broken up for two weeks. Then on Saturday night he texted me and said he was sorry for the way he treated me during our relationship. I texted him and told him that I wasn't mad at him anymore. Then he said "my door is open if you want to come and talk. I knew he was coming from the bar (what are the chances he would text at exactly 2:30am ) but for some reason it didn't occur to me he would be the booty call type of guy. DUH!! On the other hand, he is very good...but that is off the point. During the night, after the deed, he was snuggled up to me most of the night. When we weren't in a position to cuddle, he would make sure he was touching me somehow with an arm or leg. Then in the morning we lazed around in bed, sort of talking, but it was a little uncomfortable for me b/c I didn't know if he was regretting his drunken decision. Then he took me out to breakfast and we talked like we normally did, then we went shopping and he was his usual fun loving self. I was the one to make the decision to leave after we got back to his place. He didn't give me a hug or kiss goodbye, but I didn't give him much of a chance to either. I don't know if he was regretting apologizing and asking me over, or if it was just my over-reacting imagination. I really love him. But for some reason with him my feelings and emotions get all mixed up. I am always second guessing myself with him because I care to much and don't want to mess it up (which ironically is what messed it up ). I know him well enough to know, if I ask him about it and he was assuming we were back together he will be very unhappy with me for thinking he was "that type of guy". It would probably cause another breakup. But I don't want to assume either. What a mess! What should I do??
dr strangelove Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 A booty call usually is pretty short lived. He cuddled with you and then went breakfast. I guess you just have to wait and see what happens.
bhsunny21 Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 Ask him! If I find that is the easiest way to get information Good luck!
Mr.positive Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 Just enjoy that you guys had a good time and see what comes out of it.
bhsunny21 Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 For some reason, I didn't catch the last paragraph of your post where you said you didn't feel like you could ask him Sorry! I think that you could, still, ask him, but when you do make sure you aren't calling him out on being the type to make a booty call. Just ask him where he thinks things are going with you. If he gets upset with you for that, then you may want to rethink why you guys broke up in the first place. Sorry again for the first hasty response! Good luck!
Opium Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 So, he doesn't want you to think he's "that type of guy" yet he's treating you like "that type of girl" that just comes around when he has a hard-on or feels guilty?! If you don't give yourself respect he won't respect you. Next time he calls you at 2 in the morning say 'no thanks'. If he wants to be with you again it needs to be the right way, talk to him and tell him what you want if he gets upset or mad, you're better off alone.
Author ttgu Posted October 13, 2005 Author Posted October 13, 2005 Thank you everyone for your posts. I've not done this before and it was nice to have your insight. As a followup. The man is an idiot. I was being the understanding girlfriend while he went through some tough stuff. As soon as he resolved the financial and emotional issues I found out he had posted his ad on most of the personal sites. What the hell? And men ask why women start being b*tchy. My next relationship I am not going to put up with any crap. Being the understanding, nice, sweet affectionate girlfriend has gotten me nothing but a slap in the face. What a mess!
whereismylifegoing Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 now see you can't look at things like that because you will turn a possible good male away. i am also the sweet, caring, loving type but i won't give up on finding somebody that appriciates that kind of stuff. keep being nice because there are too little people like you in this world.
Bluewind Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 Just you be yourself. This one was a jerk but not all men are like that. Do not assume, but try to find more information in order to make your decisions. Good luck!
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