dumbass2 Posted October 2, 2017 Posted October 2, 2017 She never was working that Sat, her date just fell through and tried to get back in touch with you so her night would not be a loss. Fortunately for you you were busy or you would have gone as her plan b. I'm glad you've decided to move forward. Way too much work and poor communication with this one. 1
Author jimbo Posted October 2, 2017 Author Posted October 2, 2017 It's just weird, that is all. If you'd blow me off, then why contact me two days later that you'll be calling me later on that night. If one was going to ghost, why then re-engage and then disappear? Just trying to find some reasoning. Just very strange... It doesn't matter. I will not be reaching out. I hate wasting time.
knabe Posted October 2, 2017 Posted October 2, 2017 I didn't feel it was necessary to apologize for that; nor should anyone else for having a life outside a person I've only saw for 2 days. Bad grammar aside, she obviously feels the same way. You only saw her twice. She really doesn't owe you anything. There's nothing wrong with her or you necessarily. It just didn't happen. Instead of making it into some big nefarious deal, just let it go. That is dating - hits and misses.
LovelyRose Posted October 2, 2017 Posted October 2, 2017 Something pretty interesting happened to a friend of mine in this type of situation this past weekend after a conversation we had. He met a girl, had met up with her once or twice, said it was casual, they had fun, nothing too serious but both liked each other and made plans to meet again. She asked to see him on a day he was throwing a party at his ex-wife's house for one of his kids that was a really big event for the kid (not just a birthday or anything like that), but he said they could get together the day after the party. That was all he said about it to her, he was throwing a big party for his kid at his ex-wife's house. The day before the party, he texted her in the a.m. and asked if she wanted to meet up the day after the party for an event he wanted to go to. She didn't respond for a long time and when she did, she had sent a long text about how she was going to move on, he was too close to his ex-wife and she couldn't handle that. He told me he tried to think back and the only time he recalls mentioning his ex-wife in conversation or text was the one time to say the party was at her house and he said he hadn't mentioned his ex-wife at all other than that, and was really floored by her text to the point he read it like 5 time because he thought maybe she was joking. He was telling me everything and said she just stopped texting him after that when they were chatting every day throughout the day. I got that he was kind of into her so I told him I bet if he texted her and acted like he texted her by mistake and was talking to another girl, she'd probably be interested again. I more or less said it as part of a discussion, not exactly recommending it but the next morning he actually sent her a text like that, that said, ...Hey Mary (another girl's name), are we still meeting up tonight? Let me know so I can make plans... 2 hours later he got a response where she said...This isn't Mary, it's XXX. I thought you had your party tonight?... His response to that was basically...Sorry, how are you?...and ignored the part about going out with someone the same night he was throwing the party. lol The funny part was he said she asked right away if he wanted to meet up the next night and he said she texted him throughout the entire day like nothing ever happened. Not saying you should do it, but it did work for him. I guess she saw him as in demand and maybe that he did not have a lot of stock in her and it worked. I am not a fan of playing games, but frankly after he told me I think the next time I am ghosted or blown off I might try this if I like the girl. Maybe if the game works, the ends will justify the means. Well that's just awesome. Start everything with childish games, lol. Good luck to that.
ChatroomHero Posted October 2, 2017 Posted October 2, 2017 Well that's just awesome. Start everything with childish games, lol. Good luck to that. Dating anyone, anytime, anywhere on any level includes game playing. So, why not?
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