hawx79 Posted September 27, 2017 Posted September 27, 2017 My ex girlfriend wrote me yesterday because she said she was worried about me but that I also need to forget about her. She wants to stay friends with me. But I refused as I can't bear the thought of her being with another man. I also found new pictures of her on her facebook wearing a red dress, clearly to attract men. I feel lost and broken without her. I deleted everything about her recently, but then she wrote me again yesterday apologizing for her betrayal as she ended it with me a few months ago telling me that she didn't feel love for me and that she likes another man. I was shocked because I thought everything was fine between us. We did have a few arguments lately but there weren't a big deal to my accounts. She also said yesterday that she really wants to have a friend as me and that we could communicate as friends but nothing more or just forget her. It felt like a stab in my heart because I still love her. I told her there cannot be friendship if there is love and that it would be too painful for me to witness her having romantic relation with another man while I will keep an eye on her!
d0nnivain Posted September 27, 2017 Posted September 27, 2017 Block her so she can't message you. What she's doing or what she's wearing are no longer things you get to be concerned about. 1
Giggles666 Posted September 27, 2017 Posted September 27, 2017 Stay NC and move on. Make sure she can not contact you, and if it continues let her know as firmly as you can that you are no one's plan B and to leave you alone if she cares about you. It's great that you told her you can't be friends. 1
ontheway Posted September 27, 2017 Posted September 27, 2017 My ex girlfriend wrote me yesterday because she said she was worried about me but that I also need to forget about her. She wants to stay friends with me. But I refused as I can't bear the thought of her being with another man. I also found new pictures of her on her facebook wearing a red dress, clearly to attract men. I feel lost and broken without her. I deleted everything about her recently, but then she wrote me again yesterday apologizing for her betrayal as she ended it with me a few months ago telling me that she didn't feel love for me and that she likes another man. I was shocked because I thought everything was fine between us. We did have a few arguments lately but there weren't a big deal to my accounts. She also said yesterday that she really wants to have a friend as me and that we could communicate as friends but nothing more or just forget her. It felt like a stab in my heart because I still love her. I told her there cannot be friendship if there is love and that it would be too painful for me to witness her having romantic relation with another man while I will keep an eye on her! I feel your pain bro. I'm going through a breakup right now. 2 weeks of no contact. I'm meeting and dating other women, it gets easier, trust me. Here is your action plan. 1). The next time she contacts you, you say, "Hey, great to hear from you. Listen, I love you, and adore you, I know I've made mistakes in the past and I want a romantic relationship with you. I'm not interested in just being friends, or your gay male girlfriend. Give me a call if you change your mind." And you walk away and never look back. No contact from you again ever, she's dead to you. 2). If she contacts you again, you ask her this on only 2 separate consecutive occasions. "Hey, great to hear from you, when are you free to get together, i'd love to see you." If she gives you any response other than, "I'd love to meet up with you", you end the call or texting conversation by saying "It's was good hearing from you, but I'm really tied up right now, have a good one!" If she blows you off twice, the next time she reaches out be short and sweet and say, "Great to hear from you, but I'm really tied up at the moment, good to hear from you". This is your response every time from then on, until SHE offers to see you. Then you make her come to your place, you don't go to her. She broke up with you. 3). You need to work on yourself. I'm willing to bet you became needy, insecure, complacent, in your relationship. You probably are looking to her to make yourself feel better about you. You need to let go of the attachment, and looking to her to fill your voided ego. In essence you are acting like the woman of the relationship, and it's putting her in her masculine. She probably left you for a man that was acting like a man towards her. No disrespect. I've been there, and have learned a lot. 4). Start meeting, talking, and dating other women. Start listening to and reading Coach Corey Wayne's book and videos on YouTube. 1
Been Posted September 27, 2017 Posted September 27, 2017 No contact means they can't contact you in ANY way. By text,fb,whatever they've been blocked. If yo had done that you wouldn't had to deal with her meaningless texts which will have a negative impact on you. 1
Marc878 Posted September 27, 2017 Posted September 27, 2017 No contact means they can't contact you in ANY way. By text,fb,whatever they've been blocked. If yo had done that you wouldn't had to deal with her meaningless texts which will have a negative impact on you. Exactly. Friend = honest, loyal and trustworthy. Don't waste anymore of your time on this. You love your idolized image of her. That's not who she is. 1
Been Posted September 27, 2017 Posted September 27, 2017 You gotta love though how an ex can treat you like garbage but then all the sudden be concerned with how your doing lol. 1
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