Subconciously pushed her away?

[Downanddown]

Hey guys

 

2 months post break up. 6 years together. She ended up going back to her ex husband. She has 2 kids who i absolutely adored. Love them like they are/were my own. Still vert shaken up about the whole situation but just trying to get some clarity.

 

Lived together for abiut 4 years. I paid the rent for ababout 3 of those years. She was in school which i helped her through financially and emotionally.

 

Problem is i was paying for 90% of everything. Even helping with the kids. Bills. Dinners out. Events. Trips etc...it got financially draining on me.

 

Im just wondering if this impacted our relationship as it begun to get stail near the end. Obviously this does not excuse her ( most likely cheating) with her ex behind my back..also she had major trust issues with me always accusing me of either talking to other girls or other stuff.

 

Anyways..just curious if subconsiously the money issues and trust issues and a bunch of other stuff can push you away without even reallt knowing it until the damage is done. Miss her alot and still lover er dearly

[ExpatInItaly]

Well, did you engage in distancing behaviour? Did you detach emotionally or physically?

 

She was likely accusing you of cheating because she was doing it herself.

[Maldives]

Dude don't beat yourself up u did absolutely nothing wrong she's a user and a cheater.

 

What was she doing exactly when u were working ur arse off paying for her and her family exactly? My guess is she was probably watching the nail polish dry on her nails!!!!

[Downanddown]

Well we had up and downs physically and emotionally near the end. But yeah, projection seems pretty obvious here.

 

 

Man. You think you know someone.