Gargomo Posted September 26, 2017 Posted September 26, 2017 Hey Guys, I already made a post explaining the reasons of my break up with my 6y old relationship but I was thinking about some stuff which happened during the break-up : When she broke up, she said and did the followings : - that she loves me and always will because I was her first love. - She wanted us to be friends (classic) - She didn't want to hang up the phone first when we talked over the phone - Before I blocked her on every social media, she asked how my flight went, that she was happy for my new job and that the trip went good. But I replied politely and in a cold manner. - She stayed in front of her house's gate because she wanted me to leave first (that's when we saw each other for the last time during the break-up) - She asked me how I wanted to continue our relationship after the break-up, if I wanted to get some space or if I wanted to talk to her (as friends obv) - She said that she'll be always there for me anytime I need to talk or if I am having hard time in my everyday life. Despite of those statements or acts, when I asked if we had any future together because I didn't want to give up on her, she said that she isn't seeing any future for us together, or at least not in her current future. Since then I am in NC mode for a week, I haven't received anything from her but I am keeping the NC because it makes me feel better. I am working towards a better version of myself and I am making some changes. I just wanted to know how to interpret those signs listed above. Was she just being nice or trying to feel less guilty ? Or she was expecting something from me ?
d0nnivain Posted September 26, 2017 Posted September 26, 2017 She was both being nice & trying to feel less guilty. She doesn't want to date you but doesn't relish causing you pain either. She doesn't want anything from you. Go back to your NC. Continue healing & when you are ready again, enjoy life.
Author Gargomo Posted September 27, 2017 Author Posted September 27, 2017 I guess this is what I should do. There is a part of me still hoping but it'll go away with time...
snowboy91 Posted September 27, 2017 Posted September 27, 2017 She was both being nice & trying to feel less guilty. She doesn't want to date you but doesn't relish causing you pain either. She doesn't want anything from you. Go back to your NC. Continue healing & when you are ready again, enjoy life. This. The way I see it, she's trying to make the break as clean as possible. Which is to her credit, but was probably a bit too nice about it so caused confusion. You sound fairly optimistic, so give it time and you'll be on top of your game.
Author Gargomo Posted September 27, 2017 Author Posted September 27, 2017 It's hard to say to myself that she isn't the one anymore. I thought she was...
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