catcosz Posted September 26, 2017 Posted September 26, 2017 hello everyone me and my ex dated for 1 year relationship was good for the first 8 months then she started to avoid me and treat me like **** suddenly without any reason i have to admit she fooled me the whole relationship and figured out she was using me as a staircase to get her ex bf back and she did what really hurts and prove i was just stupid is she was texting her ex bf during the whole relationship ( her closest friend told me ) im posting this because i just want it all out and im really hurt we broke up 3 month ago and i totally blocked her from everywhere and i will never get her back i don't love her anymore but still i can't get her out of my mind because of the way she used me she didn't even try to contact me since the breakup I gave her mybest i even lost a scholarship just to stay around her ( yup i iknow my fault ) i treated her like princess , was there for her all the time and i was just being used and now she is the most happy person on this planet with her ex bf and i have been broken and sick for almost 4 months She and her ex bf broke up after 6 years relationship because of trust issues, she didn't cheat on him but got close to another guy so he dumped her and after me treating her like god he regret it and felt jelous and took her back ( she didn't tell him she got in a relationship with me , told him i had a crush on her lol ) all i wanna ask will this relationship work ? she had her happiness using me to get him back and turning my life into hell , is there karma ? , i really hate my life now and i feel so weak and small please any word would be appreciated guys and i hope you never be in the same situation iam Thanks
basil67 Posted September 26, 2017 Posted September 26, 2017 Oh man, that's a bummer about the scholarship. Unless her friend told you otherwise, I doubt she consciously used you. It was probably more about her being screwed up in her head and making really bad decisions. For future reference, don't go treating the girls you are in relationships with like Princesses. Princesses are needy creatures who expect everyone to be at their beck and call without having earned any of that treatment. If you treat a woman like a Princess, she may well act like a princess. Treat dates like women and equals. Expect give and take in all areas of the relationship.
d0nnivain Posted September 26, 2017 Posted September 26, 2017 We have no idea whether her reconciliation will last. It might or he might dump her again because he can't get the idea of her with you out of his head. There is just no telling You need to focus on yourself. Since you lost one scholarship, can you get another? Are you in school? If not, can you enroll for Spring? It may be too late for fall semester now, as we're almost in October. You are not a bad person, nor are you worthless. You believed. You risked. It didn't work but that doesn't make you wrong or bad. Hang in there. 3
Author catcosz Posted September 26, 2017 Author Posted September 26, 2017 We have no idea whether her reconciliation will last. It might or he might dump her again because he can't get the idea of her with you out of his head. There is just no telling You need to focus on yourself. Since you lost one scholarship, can you get another? Are you in school? If not, can you enroll for Spring? It may be too late for fall semester now, as we're almost in October. You are not a bad person, nor are you worthless. You believed. You risked. It didn't work but that doesn't make you wrong or bad. Hang in there. Thank you for your comment he doesn't have any idea we were together she told him i was begging her to give me a chance to get into a relationship with me actually im 24 one year ahead and i finish medicine in college i lost a scholarship for major and i can't get another one im a good guy with a clean heart but she is spreading rumors around me everywhere around college to my colleagues i even lost friends because of her lies thank you again
d0nnivain Posted September 26, 2017 Posted September 26, 2017 The people you lost as friends were never really your friends. If her lies are hurting your career, squelch them. Make sure your professors are not taking what she says seriously if it's not true
Giggles666 Posted September 27, 2017 Posted September 27, 2017 //all i wanna ask will this relationship work ? she had her happiness using me to get him back and turning my life into hell , is there karma ? , i really hate my life now and i feel so weak and small // If I were you I would want it to work for them, so she never communicates or is around you again. You are not weak and not small, hold your head high. She is weak and small and you are going to be a better person than the both of them. NC be firm and move on as best you can for now. I am in the same boat as you right now, only it was a friend of 24 years I dated 24 years ago. She came back recently, we dated for 6 wonderful months. She was my first real girlfriend and she used to be the sweetest most moral girl I knew. The other day she informed me she had a drug problem and needed to break up, she was damaged. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. So instead of telling me she met another man, she told me things that genuinely made me worry about her. I burnt that bridge so bad there is no going back....EVER. NC and the word hate was thrown around. Sometimes you have to burn bridges. So you are not alone. You're experiencing a rough one, when there is someone else and you got used to fill a void your pain is going to be great. NC, hold your head up and realize this is the best thing to happen to you, many lessons to be learned. You will grow from this and one day find someone who is good for you. Karma, I don't believe in it. But think of it this way, they will break up again and or stay together and from the sounds of it sounds like they deserve each other....one day you will be happy. They most likely won't. She sounds like a dumpster fire, he sounds like he just wants to use her.
rickwman Posted September 28, 2017 Posted September 28, 2017 You seem like a loving guy who cared deeply for her. You are not weak and small. Sometimes in relationships there are 'red flags' that can warn us about potential relationship issues. Have you had a chance to talk with an empathetic, understanding friend, counselor or pastor? I'm praying that someone will stand with you during this time and lift you up during this time.
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