avoiding drama

[primer]

Did you ever break up with someone and then do whatever it took to avoid drama?

 

 

We live in a small town so it is hard to "get away" with anything. I need some work done around my house and I haven't asked anyone because I don't want the ex to get mad. I am afraid to stop at the local bar to get a beer or a sandwich because I don't want the ex to get mad that I am out. (He would see my car there.)

 

 

The above things would result in drama. I am isolating and depriving myself to avoid an argument.

[Frostedflake]

Isolating and therefore you are not moving on.

What is it going to take? Hearing your ex is in another relationship and they have moved on so now you can too?

 

Our biggest mistakes are holding ourselves back for others. While that seems "good" and "generous", it's not. If you are already aware you can move on but you're holding back for his benefit- you're wrong.

Instead, live your life. Succeed. And in doing so, challenge this petty dramatic ex to rise up to your level. It doesn't make you look bad for moving on. Just him, for not letting you.

[carhill]

I presume other people in town have broken up or gotten divorced. Know any who made it without drama? Perhaps they'll have tips.

 

Life isn't fair 101: Tongues wag. Think of this experience as tuition at the school of life. It'll pass.

[d0nnivain]

I have avoided certain places to avoid the drama of seeing an EX. But I would not allow my house to fall into disrepair just because he'd get mad.

 

 

You are allowed to keep living your life. Please do so.

[springy]

don’t answer the phone, respond to texts or emails, or a knock at your door. Matter of fact block him. You aren’t required to communicate with your ex. Can you go to the grocery store? My goodness. Sounds like you are well to be rid of him.