johnnyboy4ever Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 Thanks to all in advance who even read this. I wasn't sure where to post this, but since I missed out "get together", this seemed like the proper place. Let me first start out by giving you a little bit of background information about "us" and "our" situation. I am involved in a long distance relationship with someone i usually spend the better part of my summers with. She is 7 years younger than me (and legal, but thats besides the point) and lives approx. 300 miles away. Due to some family complications, me, and her were only able to see each other for 5 minutes this year, and were unable to see each other last year (will be explained upon request). Before our short meeting this year, we had been speaking on the phone, every chance she could when her mother wasn't home, and her sister was asleep, and text messaging the rest of the time... We managed to keep it under 600 txt msgs and 2000 minutes for the month though.... ANYWHO... During our 5 min meeting, we discussed a "midnight rendevouz" (as i called it) were she was going to sneak out of her house at midnight, and we were gonna goto denny's, or something of the like, and just hang out (nothing serious). At this time, and for a few days before and afterwards, I was staying about 15 min from her. I was going to take a family member's vehicle in the mid of the night to accomplish this. However, the ONE night, that she was afforded this chance, I got worked to the bone, doing manual labor for the better part of 10-12 hours (another long story, available upon request), and fell asleep, an hour before she sent me a txt message. I woke up 90min after that txt msg, txted her twice, called her thrice, but she was asleep. Although I talked to her 2 days afterwards (she called me) I had been really pushy about saying I'd come to see her, despite anyone finding out (another long story, available upon request). I promised her I would make it up to her in any way I could... Then I was prompted with the question, "How?" Which is why I'm here. Wednesday I will be in her vicinity again. I have only spoken to her for a min on the phone since being given that question. Once her mother got the phone bill, she threatened to take the phone from her if she ever made another txt message. I'm not 1000% sure she's mad at me for being pushy about trying to meet again, but I know i still have to make up to her not being able to go the one night. So I ask you all. How do I make it up to her? I can't outright call her (maybe tomarrow night) or else she could get in trouble for talkin to me, and I can't see her (maybe wedn. night, or soon there after) and even if i could, I need to possibly make it up to her before I even get to that point... Sorry if i sound like im rambling, im sure i am. How do you make up to someone, what was though at the time (and may still be) your only chance at seeing them for more than 5 min in an entire year? I dont think an "I'm sorry" speech and jewelery would be enough I am a very sweet talker, extremely poor, and if I do get to see her, it will be only at night. Any suggestions? Thanks to all who help in advance.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 How old is she and why does she have to sneak out to see you?
debs Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 Oh come on now an adult doesn't have to "sneak" out the house! You stated she is "legal"? Does she live in a jail house type or a religion that does not allow her to see men UN escorted? So if i seem sarcastic but this sounds like teenagers still living at home!
Author johnnyboy4ever Posted August 15, 2005 Author Posted August 15, 2005 She's my 3rd cousin. That help? And she's 17. The legal age of concent is 16 in the state that she lives in, but we aren't interested in that kinda relationship, yet... God, ask a simple question, and people ask stupid questions ... I just wanna know what do i do to make it up to her To further the story... There is a conflict between her mom and her mother's father in law (she's related to me though her father, her father's mother, and so on...) Due to this conflict, her mother has forbade her from seeing any part of this side of the family. That's why she has to sneak out. NEED TO KNOW ANYTHING ELSE TO ANSWER MY QUESTION? TOUGH
debs Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 Ouch! Sorry Johnny but if you do not give us details we are having to guess! I can understand the secrecy, but your parents will not! What I worry about with this union is your genes? Unfortunately I have seen the after affects of gene pools as I am a nurse! I am old enough to say it is NOT a good idea! You can HATE us all you want young man but remember alot of us are wise because we have been there or seen the after affects!
Author johnnyboy4ever Posted August 15, 2005 Author Posted August 15, 2005 Will someone plz answer my question as opposed to giving me the third degree? Debs: did you know, that the US is the only western country that has restrictions on cousin marriage? Did you know, that the chances of the "union of our genes" going wrong, even if we were first cousins, as opposed to third cousins, is less than .005%? Did you know, that despite the laws in the US, over 1% of all marriages are between cousins? WILL SOMEONE PLZ ANSWER MY QUESTION! Geez, meanies. making me give you the fruits of my research.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 16, 2005 Posted August 16, 2005 How to make it up to her: Kidnap her and take her out for a night on the town. She seems to love the danger, why else would she sneak out to see you? I am not kidding here, but make sure you have her consent. Can she not just (gasp) lie to her parents for once and go out with you at a normal time for a normal date? Send her flowers and don't sign your name. Leave a nice card of apology at her window. What does she during the day? She's obviously not locked in her room....can you take her to lunch? While I understand she is only 17, I don't understand why your time together has to be so limited, because, yeah this makes it very difficult for you to make it up to her when you miss that rare opportunity to meet.
Author johnnyboy4ever Posted August 16, 2005 Author Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 How to make it up to her: Kidnap her and take her out for a night on the town. She seems to love the danger, why else would she sneak out to see you? I am not kidding here, but make sure you have her consent. Can she not just (gasp) lie to her parents for once and go out with you at a normal time for a normal date? Send her flowers and don't sign your name. Leave a nice card of apology at her window. What does she during the day? She's obviously not locked in her room....can you take her to lunch? While I understand she is only 17, I don't understand why your time together has to be so limited, because, yeah this makes it very difficult for you to make it up to her when you miss that rare opportunity to meet. [color=blue]I love it. But, the her getting to leave the house thing, even with her mother's concent, is out of the question. · She is figuratively locked in her room. Her mom is a control freak. · She's not aloud to go see her best friend, even if she comes to get her. · She don't have a license, or a car. · They live in the middle of nowhere (5 houses within a mile [in any direction] of her house.) · Her sister is always home, and a snitch. I got to talk to her last night, and she claims I made up for it (dont ask how), but I think she deserves more. I do plan to "kidnap" her. She don't like to make plans though. We have to wait for a night that her mom don't come home, and until after her sister falls asleep. I will be stealing one of my family member's vehicles in order to accomplish this too Any other suggestions of what to do that night? Where I can take her? It's not like we can get in a club or anything... Denny's is my best idea... Although, i did find out last night that she likes bowling [/color]
tegteg Posted August 16, 2005 Posted August 16, 2005 Ok im going to state this once... Its seems to me as nothing good can come outta this.... BUT with that said..... Heres what you can also TRY........ Write her a letter... If she has internet then use that... If she likes pizza send her a pizza one nite... (i know you said your poor but its just a lil somthing) Theres many many things, just gotta use that brain of urs... But i dont understand, if shes SOOO sucluded why does she have a fone to txt on? Cause she dont have many freidns then??? and if she is legal, isnt there something bout she can leave on her own will? But i guess shell have to deal with the mom... Just sounds like a real protective mother, and yes i did read your familys dont get along, but thats besides tha point to me... IF you like her then you like her, simple as that... Just dont take it to were some one gets hurt... ya know?????? Now what you can do IF you ever accomplish this is....... Bowling, Movies, Some place to eat, the park/river etc, i salsa dance at a all ages place thats open till 2, drive somewere and just park and talk, Go back to ur place, uhhh sorry im outta ideas right now im a bit tierd... Ill post more later... GL tho
Author johnnyboy4ever Posted August 16, 2005 Author Posted August 16, 2005 [color=blue]TegTeg: Oh Yeah... Ok, yeah, there is alot of things i forgot to explain. The mail thing... Her sister is a control freak too. She doesn't get the mail ppl send to her. I already sent a blank letter to her to test that She also lacks constant internet access. She can goto the public library to get online, but that's it for the moment. The phone thing... Her mother keeps constant surveilance (I wouldn't imagine i spelt that right) of her. When her mom aint at home, she calls constantly. If her mother knows she's going somewhere (alone, with her sis, etc), she calls every 10 min, ask how life is... That's the point of the phone. She has now been forbid from sending txt msgs, or calling anyone b4 9pm. The "ur place" (my house) thing... When I am in the vicinity of her, I'm staying at her uncle's house. The closest thing we would have to a place to take her to would be a hotel room, and although she'd probably like that... no... And you apparently missed some stuff. Read over my other comments. Because it aint "our families" its our family.[/color] [color=green]But yeah... She don't dance. She's sickened even by the idea of playing DDR (Dance Dance Revolution, which for those of you who dont know what it is, is that game where you dance around on the pads at arcades/home/etc). And I LOVE, the river/park idea but, the county she lives in, has like the 3rd highest crime rate in the world. They broke their yearly record this year, and if you didnt know, this year aint over yet... And I think thats just a bad idea. Unless you wanna suggest that i pick up a gun b4 i go to see her. I've thought about getting her a cell phone when i get the money, one that she could only use to talk to me (primarily)... Also thinking about (for our rendevouz) taking her to her old house (dont ask, just know that I can) to "hang out". Think that might bring up bad memories perchance, but it would be a place we could spend some time together. I also wonder if bringing energy drinks along would give her the wrong impression (even though she's the pushy one, and I don't think she'd understand that flaw of it). Because, I think they would be a great help in staying up most of the night (as much as I would love to take her home, carry her back into bed, and sneak back out afterwards, undetected).[/color] [color=red]OK, NEW INFO PEOPLE. We will be meeting SOUTH of the DC area. Anyone know anywhere to go around there? Wanna help me look for something? Thanks. Time is running short!!!![/color]
tegteg Posted August 16, 2005 Posted August 16, 2005 Ahhh gotcha... Seems like theres MAJOR prob. goin on... Man if was me i would just stay outta it for awhile... That sux tho.... Ppl are just to uptight and get butt these days to easy.......
Author johnnyboy4ever Posted August 18, 2005 Author Posted August 18, 2005 Originally posted by tegteg Ahhh gotcha... Seems like theres MAJOR prob. goin on... Man if was me i would just stay outta it for awhile... That sux tho.... Ppl are just to uptight and get butt these days to easy....... I've been in love with her for 7 years. She just decided to give me a chance. I'm not gonna "stay outta it for awhile". Any other advice anyone?
tegteg Posted August 18, 2005 Posted August 18, 2005 7 yrs?? WOW how old are you??? Ive BEEN in LOVE and it was only for 2yrs, i cant imagine 7.... Uggg i dont mean acually not talk to her, i just ment dont push your luck... And then have real probs with her mother ETC... U know??? And how can she give you a chance if she cant leave & cant talk to you??? I know what your sayin, but if shes not old enough to be able to do things she would like, then she cant really give YOU a chance... U see were im coming from??? In other words, yes yes yes shes givin you a chance, but SHE cant really GIVE YOU a chance cause of the fact the you 2 are not able to have ANY contact WHATSOEVER! This is a situtaion were you ar the only one to do things and see what works... Especially since you cant acually just talk to her or see her.... Do some more search round the net and forums and get some ideas that way to, or google search books and what not, that may also help! Theres the old sayin: That if things were ment to happen they will!
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 18, 2005 Posted August 18, 2005 Is there any way you can see her at the library when she goes there to use the internet? I love the pizza idea....but i love pizza too
tegteg Posted August 18, 2005 Posted August 18, 2005 Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Is there any way you can see her at the library when she goes there to use the internet? I love the pizza idea....but i love pizza too Pizza pizzzza... haha remides me of a movie...... I like the libarary idea, but shes never alone and with a tatle tale sis...
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