MarvelFan1 Posted September 26, 2017 Posted September 26, 2017 After me and my ex split (I did the dumping, I wasn't happy at the time, you can read my old posts), we were were both doing the 'Unfollow' option on FB, so we couldn't see feeds, but curiosity always got the better of me, so removed her off FB and went NC after we had a brief chat (a month after splitting) as I didn't want to see what she was up too, and I wanted to start moving on and healing. We have been split up for 5 months, NC for 4. Her business account on Twitter is still following me on there, from way back, and that's all it is used for, her business. I guess she still follows me as a way to have some connection to me, as she couldn't bring herself for remove me off FB, she said when we last spoke, (she had other ex's on there still from the past who she mutually broke up with). But over the course of the NC period I have been lonely and missed her and even seeing her out and about (were in the same town) has made me take to twitter to put pathetic stuff about how lonely I am and how much I miss her and want to fix us etc. Then I remove it after 6/12 hours, as I know I don't really mean it, or do I? Then I say to myself that I know full well I could contact her any time via text or IM, but I don't, I can't bring myself to do it because I know it would be wrong and also scary. So why do I use twitter? I know I should block her on there, I know the answers but I'm just so afraid to take that step and truly sever ties. I think maybe I still cling on to her maybe talking to me or messaging me that I need an outlet, whenever i know if she wanted to she would do. I think passing her in the street yesterday in the flesh for the first time since we split, has set me off, and also on FB the other day where she commented on a post I put on her wall last year, about loving her, saying it was a "load of *****", (even after you remove people they can post on your old stuff and it notifies you, it seems). Probably because I waved at her as she drove past, she wanted to have her say, who knows. I know you'll all be harsh and tell me what I need to do, but I feel weak and scared, so i welcome the home truths I need to hear.
PegNosePete Posted September 26, 2017 Posted September 26, 2017 We have been split up for 5 months, NC for 4. What you're doing is not NC. Not even close. You're facebook stalking her and using your twitter to passive aggressively send her messages. You even waved at her as she drove by! How do you call this NC? Do you even know what NC means? NO CONTACT.
Author MarvelFan1 Posted September 26, 2017 Author Posted September 26, 2017 What you're doing is not NC. Not even close. You're facebook stalking her and using your twitter to passive aggressively send her messages. You even waved at her as she drove by! How do you call this NC? Do you even know what NC means? NO CONTACT.You're so right. I'm just deluding myself with what I think is NC. This is what happened when I was with her, deluding myself into thinking I was in a good place and happy with her. My head needs to play ball and do NC properly... Thank you for your stern, yet very true words, PegNosePete.
PegNosePete Posted September 26, 2017 Posted September 26, 2017 Try to read and digest this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/470829-all-new-2014-no-contact-guide Good luck!
Author MarvelFan1 Posted September 26, 2017 Author Posted September 26, 2017 Try to read and digest this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/470829-all-new-2014-no-contact-guide Good luck!I've just blocked her on FB and Twitter, I now have no way to see or hear from her. I feel so relieved. Thank you for the push, PegNosePete, you're a diamond I will read through that guide again if I need to, such a great read, and lays it out so well.
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