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Have I been let off nicely or is he just a bad texter?

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I met this guy at a party and he was great, we really hit it off. He is French and was visiting but went back to France to return to Australia months later. When he returned to Australia he tried to get in touch with me but I had deleted my social media and no one he knew had my details. Anyway, I got Facebook again last week and he messaged me promptly.

 

We spoke a lot for a week and the more we spoke, the more we connected. He told me that he thinks that I am 'perfect' and that I am 'unreal' and 'incredible' and he has been waiting so long to meet a girl like me. We organised to meet last Friday but he had to cancel as he had accidentally double booked plans with his friend. I was understanding of this and asked him when he would like to meet again and he didn't respond until Saturday night. We met up on Sunday and had such a wonderful date from 6pm to 12am and connected on so many levels.He did come across quite nervous at the start of the date but as time went on he relaxed quite a bit.

 

At the end of the night we kissed and I asked him if he wanted to see me again and he said he did. I asked him what it is he wants and he told me he is concerned that him going back overseas in a year will be a problem for us. I told him that if things were to get so serious, I have a French Passport and am able to live there if need be.

 

The next day I sent him a message thanking him for such a nice time and I told him I would love to see him before he does a one month trip around Australia which he is leaving for this week. I didn't get a response until a day after so I sent him another message today asking if he is still interested in me and the only response I got was 'I am interested!'.

 

I won't be sending him any more messages and will leave the ball in his court, but I don't understand any of this. Does it sound like he is just letting me down nicely or is he just a terrible texter?

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smackie9 Established Member

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sounds to me his focus is on what he is doing....traveling and seeing the sights or getting ready to. He's interested but isn't going to "invest" in this yet. You are on the list so to speak. Doesn't mean he's not going to see other people, so don't "wait" for him.

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I met this guy at a party and he was great, we really hit it off. He is French and was visiting but went back to France to return to Australia months later. When he returned to Australia he tried to get in touch with me but I had deleted my social media and no one he knew had my details. Anyway, I got Facebook again last week and he messaged me promptly.

 

We spoke a lot for a week and the more we spoke, the more we connected. He told me that he thinks that I am 'perfect' and that I am 'unreal' and 'incredible' and he has been waiting so long to meet a girl like me. We organised to meet last Friday but he had to cancel as he had accidentally double booked plans with his friend. I was understanding of this and asked him when he would like to meet again and he didn't respond until Saturday night. We met up on Sunday and had such a wonderful date from 6pm to 12am and connected on so many levels.He did come across quite nervous at the start of the date but as time went on he relaxed quite a bit.

 

At the end of the night we kissed and I asked him if he wanted to see me again and he said he did. I asked him what it is he wants and he told me he is concerned that him going back overseas in a year will be a problem for us. I told him that if things were to get so serious, I have a French Passport and am able to live there if need be.

The next day I sent him a message thanking him for such a nice time and I told him I would love to see him before he does a one month trip around Australia which he is leaving for this week. I didn't get a response until a day after so I sent him another message today asking if he is still interested in me and the only response I got was 'I am interested!'.

 

I won't be sending him any more messages and will leave the ball in his court, but I don't understand any of this. Does it sound like he is just letting me down nicely or is he just a terrible texter?

 

The bolded is you pursuing him, all in the span of one date!

When he cancelled plans, you don't ask him when he is free next, you let him make the offer to reschedule.

If a man doesn't respond to you saying you'd love to see him again, you don't send another message, you take that as a no.

You're not leaving much room for him to come to you or show you he is interested in you first.

Most men like to pursue, not the other way around.

All this pursuit on your end might have been a bit of a buzz kill.

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He is French

. He told me that he thinks that I am 'perfect' and that I am 'unreal' and 'incredible' and he has been waiting so long to meet a girl like me. We organised to meet last Friday but he had to cancel as he had accidentally double booked plans with his friend. I was?

 

Player alert :laugh: I think he Lays it on and is multidating so he is preoccupied at the moment xD

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coolheadal Established Member

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You got your answer "He's interested!" Leave at that, and see what he does next? If nothing happens in 1, 2, 3 or even 4 weeks? Cut your loses and move on and find a real man that would be interested, respect and appreciate you more than this guy is doing!

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sounds to me his focus is on what he is doing....traveling and seeing the sights or getting ready to. He's interested but isn't going to "invest" in this yet. You are on the list so to speak. Doesn't mean he's not going to see other people, so don't "wait" for him.

 

100% agree. Also IMO, OP you are asking for a touch too much in the way of promises, that kind of stuff. Idk, "are you still interested" is not something I would ever imagine asking in the context (or maybe any!) that you did. It conveys too many insecure and need for assurance type things, anxiety whatever. I'd be embarrassed to come off that way and turned off if someone did it to me (in a similar way, shape or form) from that question alone.

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