Trying to split with someone who is being unstable & we have kids

[LovecraftLavender67]

I don't know what to do. I'm at a loss and I have no one to talk to. I don't really have any friends besides the people I talk to at work.

 

I'm with someone who got pregnant within a month of dating. We are not compatible and we fought a lot through her pregnancy. Our son is almost two and I absolutely adore him. She stays at home and I work full time. We get along for the most part but sometimes we have bad arguments. She's a really negative person and it bothers me, she's quick to anger and she just talks to me like **** a lot. Well we stopped having sex for a long long time. She had a bad pregnancy and during and after the pregnancy she lost interest in sex. It really use to bother me and then I got over it and started to not want sex from her either because of how negative she is

 

We started having sex maybe once a month and she ended up getting pregnant. She is now 5 months pregnant and lately all we do is fight. She is impossible to reason with. She always calls me out on anything I do but she just denies doing the negative things that she does so it's sort of impossible to reason with her. Lately we've been fighting a lot and I don't like our son around that. She keeps telling me she's over me but she won't get a job or move out- even before she was organs she wouldn't do that. The house (we rent it) is in both our names and I can't have someone take over the lease (it's in the contract) and she knows this so she won't leave and than she makes me miserable so I'll leave and than I find myself sitting in a hotel room all alone.

 

When she leaves she just takes our son and drives around all day and it's not good for him but she doesn't care. She threatens to "tell everyone" how horrible o am if we split up and basically threatens that she will make me look awful to a judge and I have a last history of misdemeanors and she has a clean record. I know she can't keep my son from me but lately she tries to start fights and she is really awful to me. I don't know how to end this or what to do or how to get her to leave or how to make sure hat my son is safe if she does leave. I just don't know what to do.

 

If she's going to stay than that's fine but I don't know how to bribe a door mat because I want to see my son and she knows I'll give in to her demands. Lately I have found myself quick to anger with her because I'm done tolerating how she treats me and I just feel like we are headed down a bad path that isn't good for our son or either of us. I'm just overwhelmed and don't know what to do. Any suggestions?

Edited September 26, 2017 by LovecraftLavender67

[oldbutcurious]

talk to a lawyer to learn your best options.

[Maldives]

Get a solicitor and get legal advice where u stand I'd u initiate a break up. It doesn't seem ur in love and only staying for ur kid but ur miserable. This could take a toll on ur health and mental well being and trust me nothing is worth that. Take me for example I've stayed where I am now because it's a good job but have been traumatised working with my ex and watching her go from one work colleague to another. It's made me physically ill some of the time. Me staying could derail me so take it from me get out before u go mentally crazy