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Okay so here is my situation. Me and my ex dated for 3 years and had a great loving relationship. Of course we had our problems or she wouldn't be my ex right now. So, the reason we broke up is because she said we needed to take time to find ourselves and that she didn't feel the same way about me as she once did. Our problems were due to my lack of affection, neediness, and things of that nature. She said that we might try again sometime in the future, but that it was best for us to split right now. However, we were really close friends before we started dating. She wants to still be friends, but I still have feelings for her. Should I go NC or should I still stay in contact with her? She texts me every day asking how my day was and tries to make conversation so I don't know what to do.

Since she wants to be friends, will she just move on if I go NC, or will she start to miss me?

 

CLARIFICATION ON TITLE: We didn't break up 3 years ago. We dated for 3 years and just broke up. Sorry if that didn't make sense.

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This is a tricky situation to be in. Most of these types of relationships where there is an existing friendship before the relationship begins there's almost always a promise of 'if things don't work out we will still be friends' but the reality is once you have been in a relationship with that person, it's near impossible to go back to being friends (at least this has been my experience).

Sounds to me that she is confused and still trying to keep you in her life while she discovers what she wants and what she wants to do. What you need to ask yourself do you want to be hanging around having contact with her daily and then she decides she doesnt want a relationship in the future, then what?

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Disappear. She needs to know that you are now gone.

 

Women will be happy to keep you waiting in the wings as plan B while they go bang other guys. She will be fine with the emotional connection you have while she builds a sexual connection with another dude.

 

Let her eat silence. You also have to think of yourself first - do you really want to hear how great her new bf is?

 

No thanks.

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Disappear. She needs to know that you are now gone.

 

Women will be happy to keep you waiting in the wings as plan B while they go bang other guys. She will be fine with the emotional connection you have while she builds a sexual connection with another dude.

 

Let her eat silence. You also have to think of yourself first - do you really want to hear how great her new bf is?

 

No thanks.

 

Seconded. Go NC for a while and reflect on yourself first and foremost. Don't be tricked into the "Well if you wanted to be my friend you would have reached out" nonsense. If she is friend worthy she will understand you need some alone time to think this through at least.

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Seconded. Go NC for a while and reflect on yourself first and foremost. Don't be tricked into the "Well if you wanted to be my friend you would have reached out" nonsense. If she is friend worthy she will understand you need some alone time to think this through at least.

 

This is the direction I've been leaning in the most. I'm going to get the rest of my things from her, take care of other responsibilities, then go NC.

 

Thanks!

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