Should I move on based on the past?

[DazedNConfused24]

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so I’ve been in a relationship with my bf about two years. He had treated me well but he lied about stupid situations and makes dumb decisions and often has excuses to explain them. I know we are human but little lies are just pointless and destroy trust. These make it very hard to trust his word when he might be telling the truth. He has admitted to having anger issues in the past and getting counseling but due to money no longer goes . He grew up with a single mother that isn’t supportive and no father which I understand is a reason for anger but he should be able to control it. We have been in a physical altercation before after him being drunk and angry to which he apologized and swore it wouldn’t happen again. We were fine and he didn’t drink for a while then we were out with his friends and he was drunk which isn’t a problem but we got in an argument and it got physical once again. This time I pressed charges and broke up with him. He swear he knows it’s the anger and drinking makes it worse and it won’t happen again. This time he is taking classes to control his anger. Other than those two times we have been fine other than petty arguments. I know he loves me but it’s hard to forget the past. My parents and family,y love him. I also recent contacted his ex from about 4 years ago who told me she would leave him alone. I understand the bias but the behaviors she told me he displayed are the same I have been seeing in him even though recently he has started therapy and is insisting he is changing which I am 50/50. I don’t know if I should just judge him by his past, take the past and realize I should leave based on what I’ve heard or realize he can change. I do love him and I’ve been less than perfect as well. I can get spiteful and petty when angry but it always seems to stem in stupid choices he makes and I know it sounds silly but I would be embarrassed to even have him around seeing as though my friends and family know of the situations or have seen how he has no control first hand. I don’t think he has ever cheats and I know he loves me and I can maybe believe he will change but I doubt I can let go of the past. Is the ex valid? Or should I dismiss that because it was 4 years ago and even though I saw the same behaviors in the beginning of our relationship he is taking the steps to change. Should I see if thetherapy works and belive what he is saying despite feeling like it’s no trust based on the past or move on to a new guy?