figgurinoutlife Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 I guess I need to vent some, always makes me feel better. My ex is w/someone else and just moved in w/him because she cannot afford her rent on her apt. Seems she sends me mixed signals all the time. I told her I had a big date Sat. and she wanted to know what we were going to do on the date and I told her, and she says "you never did that w/me." I told her I was broke when we dated. She called this morning wanting to know how it went. Then she made a comment about my cologne, that it smelled good and she said I should buy her some perfume. I was like "okay, whatever." I told her to get her boyfriend to buy her some. As I was helping her move some stuff she started wrestling w/me and playing around. Then she asked me how she is supposed to tell her dad that she is moving in w/her boyfriend because he doesn't like him at all. I guess he didn't like me too much either but she said he told her he likes me more. She put her cellphone down as I was helping her move and said to remind her to get it before she left, I forgot. She goes back to get it then calls me jokingly to say thanks for letting me forget, and I said "you need to keep it on a leash," and she said "I should have kept you on a leash." What in the world does that mean? My friend says she still wants me, after how I told him she acts, but I think that if someone wants you they would say something and he says that she won't say anything. I on the other hand am not initiating anything and am not coming on to her at all, but just being strictly her friend. Is my friend right? Has anyone been in a situation where they have liked their ex again and didn't want to say anything because of pride or afraid of getting turned down. I was the last one to try to get back together w/her last March, but she didn't want to. I have made if clear that I have moved on since then. She still is attracted to me though because 2-3 weeks ago she told me she still had feelings for me and was attracted to me and wanted to kiss me to see if the feelings were still there, and I said "what if we kissed and the feelings are still there, what about your boyfriend, what would you do?" She said "I don't know." She says she loves her boyfriend. I didn't say much about the whole thing other than I still cared for her. Then after a week of beating around the bush about wanting to kiss me she dropped it and hasn't brought it up since.
Jayhawks Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 She's playing with you and you are falling for her game. She makes these comments because she knows it will get a rise out of you and you will think she is still interested in you. If she was she would not be moving in with another guy. Quit being her second guy. All you are is a stroke for her ego. It is time to end YOUR feelings for her and move on. She knows YOU still want her.
Author figgurinoutlife Posted August 15, 2005 Author Posted August 15, 2005 I don't know, I have been doing a pretty good job of acting like I don't. I don't initiate contact, and don't answer right away when she calls. I never ever bring up our old relationship. I even did NC for 2 mos. until she started calling. I really don't do anything to make her think I want her. I am strictly her friend.
Jayhawks Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 She says she loves her boyfriend Believe her when she says this. It really doesn't matter if she does or not because she wants YOU to believe she does. If you want to hope and hang on then that is your business but in the end she will not be with you and you will have wasted lots of time needlessly.
lostinmymind Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 Like Jayhawks said that is a bad sign. If she talks about her boyfriend at all, let alone tells you she loves him things aren't looking good at present. I would for sure move on if I were you, you'll find another wonderful girl.
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