Author CountrySoul Posted October 17, 2017 Author Posted October 17, 2017 I'm glad it went well. What have you learned from this? I've learned that it's possible not to know someone even after knowing them for over a decade. I'm thinking I'm better off just having one night stands or FWB than an actual relationship. At least them I won't have to out my heart on the line again, I won't be ready for that for a very long time.
Miss Spider Posted October 17, 2017 Posted October 17, 2017 (edited) Hearing stuff like this makes me rage uncontrollably. I feel for ya. Dump and move on to someone more deserving. Don' t let one person's bad character put you off love for good. So sorry. Edited October 17, 2017 by Cookiesandough
kendahke Posted October 17, 2017 Posted October 17, 2017 (edited) I've learned that it's possible not to know someone even after knowing them for over a decade. I'm thinking I'm better off just having one night stands or FWB than an actual relationship. At least them I won't have to out my heart on the line again, I won't be ready for that for a very long time. No, you'd be better off not rescuing able bodied women from their living situations just because their parents want them to grow up. Stop being "Captain Save-A-____". The woman needs to prove over the course of time that she is worthy of you love, respect and support. The thing is: you never really know a person until you live with them. Spend some time addressing your need to rescue this woman from what sounded like a stable living environment that she had for her child; certainly be wary of women who want to uproot their children willy nilly like this one did just because she couldn't live as she pleased in her parent's home. There are signs. Take an evening and write down every sign that you missed with this chick and look at that list. Try to remember when the first flagged and what you told yourself to ignore it. You're a good man. You will meet a good woman--even more so because you now know what to look out for and will be more inclined to trust your gut when something doesn't seem right. Don't invest until they've proven themselves worthy of your investment. Take your time--never rush into relationships. If it's meant to be, it will develop in its own time. Edited October 17, 2017 by kendahke 1
coolheadal Posted October 17, 2017 Posted October 17, 2017 I've learned that it's possible not to know someone even after knowing them for over a decade. I'm thinking I'm better off just having one night stands or FWB than an actual relationship. At least them I won't have to out my heart on the line again, I won't be ready for that for a very long time. No my friend you do not want to go that path. There are other women out there, don't let a few bad apples sour your mindset over them. We get hurt as men just have pull yourself together and move on to the next.
Author CountrySoul Posted October 18, 2017 Author Posted October 18, 2017 I never tried to play captain save a hoe. As I've said, I've known her for more than 10 years, yes she was living with her folks but that was for help with her daughter as she went to school and was working. I brought her out her because I believed she loved me and wanted to build a life together. Guess she just said all the right things, I'm not likely to have been the first guy she has done this to. I don't think her folks know, they do like me and think I'm good for both of them. Making a list will be difficult, my dating experience is very small. Jr high sweetheart who cheated on me with ever guy she met, my ex wife who cheated on me on our wedding night then left because she was tired of being a mom after nearly 14 years of marriage. And now her, someone I thought I could trust after being a friend for so long, that just wanted to use me as a stepping stone to find something better. I just have no desire to put myself or my kids through this again. Having 2 mother figures walk out on them. It just isn't right.
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