NC for 5 weeks but her social media (Instagram) is giving me signs to reach out?

[txmusic4502]

Don't buy into hints and games. If she wants to talk she knows how to contact you.

 

I guess my concern is that she thinks that I dont want to talk to her because i blocked her. Hence, what her caption was on her most recent pic about someone not wanting to be in her dreams.

 

If I reach out, it would clear it up one way or another.

[stillafool]

She's 25, I'm 32. We've been together all together for about a year and fell in love this year.

 

She's definitely playing games, and knows I'll see these. Each time she does it, it's more obvious. Part of me things to let her keep missing me and eventually she might reach out.

 

But the most recent post caption makes me feel like she thinks I'm moving on "I saw you in my dreams. I don't think you wanted to bet here." with the pic that I took of her in Mexico.

 

Drama? Perhaps. But there's always drama in breakups. I usually don't read too much into social media, but in this case it makes sense given how things have gone in the past and it's the only communication we've had, albeit it's been indirect and she keeps viewing my stories.

 

25 isn't that young. I thought she was like 19. She should not be playing games.

[PegNosePete]

Do you even know what NC means? It means NO CONTACT. For someone who is supposedly in NO CONTACT, you are sure having a lot of CONTACT.

[elaine567]

If I reach out, it would clear it up one way or another.

 

Yes it would, but do not send a huge long "pour your heart" out email or text message, that never works.

BUT

Ask to meet her and see how that goes.

Some dumpers can get caught up in the "romance" and nostalgia of the break up, hence the cryptic messages and airy fairy nonsense, but in the cold light of day know they NEVER want to go back.

 

Call her bluff, put her on the spot.

 

Does she want you back as in a proper relationship or does she just want to be friends, or is she simply keeping an eye on you (people often do that with exes, it can actually mean nothing), or is she just trying to exert some sort of revenge, or is she just posting stuff on SM as she has little else to do or are her little "vague" messages meant for someone else?

 

YOU want her back and you are "waiting" for her, which is what you are actually doing and calling it NC, so it is spoiling your life.

Get it over with, sink or swim.

[Captivating]

She dumped you, she should reach out if she wanted to get back together.

This passive aggressive attention seeking behavior on her part is childish ... she needs to miss you (given that you let her miss you) and be worried that you might find someone else. If she wanted you she must reach out directly instead of trying to manipulate you to reach out to her. You explained everything to her in an e-mail, she did not even respond ! SO, NO... do not contact her, have self respect please !

Would you be able to stay away from social media for 2 months ? If not, then give her her own medicine, you should post photos where you have been, example: sunset at national park or a photo at a restaurant - show a photo of a dish you like and rave about it She will start wondering who you went with etc ... I know this is childish but you can manipulate her too (if you guys get back together, do not reveal these to her)

 

Let her sweat getting you back, let her work on this. Dumpees should never reach out, dumpers do.

 

On the other hand ... while you guys were not together she was with someone else.

You were broken up at the time ... she was dating someone else, right?

I don't know the whole story here.

Get over this, you should not bring this up at all to her, because it shows you have no self-esteem ... how can she respect you if you do not respect yourself?

[txmusic4502]

Yes it would, but do not send a huge long "pour your heart" out email or text message, that never works.

BUT

Ask to meet her and see how that goes.

Some dumpers can get caught up in the "romance" and nostalgia of the break up, hence the cryptic messages and airy fairy nonsense, but in the cold light of day know they NEVER want to go back.

 

Call her bluff, put her on the spot.

 

Does she want you back as in a proper relationship or does she just want to be friends, or is she simply keeping an eye on you (people often do that with exes, it can actually mean nothing), or is she just trying to exert some sort of revenge, or is she just posting stuff on SM as she has little else to do or are her little "vague" messages meant for someone else?

 

YOU want her back and you are "waiting" for her, which is what you are actually doing and calling it NC, so it is spoiling your life.

Get it over with, sink or swim.

 

Ok so for all intensive purposes, let's say I'm not in NC right now due to these indirect communications. Regardless it had been several weeks of NC and I am in a great place, obviously, I still want to be with her.

 

Definitely not going to pour my heart out. But last night she apparently posted another photo that I took when we went out for drinks before our Mexico trip with the caption "Reflect." Right after she watched my story again.

 

I'm not trying to manipulate her, I'm not trying to play these games which is why I think I might just call her after work today. But it seems like from what she's been posting, that she's thinking about me, reflecting as the post says or missing me or whatever. One would think that I broke up with her based on all this stuff.

 

I have been posting things I've been doing, having fun, going out, hanging with friends, parties, restaurants, dates etc... and yes my profile is public which is how she's been able to watch all my stories like she did yesterday.

[txmusic4502]

She dumped you, she should reach out if she wanted to get back together.

This passive aggressive attention seeking behavior on her part is childish ... she needs to miss you (given that you let her miss you) and be worried that you might find someone else. If she wanted you she must reach out directly instead of trying to manipulate you to reach out to her. You explained everything to her in an e-mail, she did not even respond ! SO, NO... do not contact her, have self respect please !

Would you be able to stay away from social media for 2 months ? If not, then give her her own medicine, you should post photos where you have been, example: sunset at national park or a photo at a restaurant - show a photo of a dish you like and rave about it She will start wondering who you went with etc ... I know this is childish but you can manipulate her too (if you guys get back together, do not reveal these to her)

 

Let her sweat getting you back, let her work on this. Dumpees should never reach out, dumpers do.

 

On the other hand ... while you guys were not together she was with someone else.

You were broken up at the time ... she was dating someone else, right?

I don't know the whole story here.

Get over this, you should not bring this up at all to her, because it shows you have no self-esteem ... how can she respect you if you do not respect yourself?

 

Thanks for the reply. I actually have gotten over what happened. So it's not an issue anymore.

 

I understand about the Dumper always being the one to reach out. But she's definitely throwing these signs out there in the hopes that I'll reach out. It's all just too coincidental and she's posting photos from our trips and photos that I took. She posted another one last night with the caption "reflect" that I took when we went out to a bar once.

 

I've been posting all the things I've been doing. And I think she is missing me, given everything that's been happening the last 2 weeks. Today is 7 weeks since we broke up and all these "signs" are just now happening

 

I'm torn between calling and just finding out, or letting her continue to miss me and not have me in her life and maybe she will reach out.

[Captivating]

You should not reach out ... you cannot crawl after her ! She dumped you.

If she wants you back she needs to make amends.

If she gets you back easily ... these breakups might constantly re-occur.

[Buriall]

You should not reach out ... you cannot crawl after her ! She dumped you.

If she wants you back she needs to make amends.

If she gets you back easily ... these breakups might constantly re-occur.

 

Let this sink in for a bit.....read it over and over again if you have to.. This is REALLY important

 

 

 

That's exactly what ****ing happened to me.

[OutKast100]

Dont contact her first!!!!

If she missed you bad enough to want a relationship with you then she would contact you since shes the one who ended it.

Even if she misses you as a friend, then do you want to be just friends?

Or would you rather avoid her until you are over her completely.

A lot of times an ex will reach out just to let themselves know that they still have the dumpee wrapped around their twisted lil finger and once they see that they do then they will start going cold etc.

Dont do it!

[txmusic4502]

UPDATE HERE

 

To get it over with and move on one way or another, I called her last night she picked up and we talked and caught up briefly.

 

A few minutes later she said she was actually going to call me later that night.

 

I told her that I don't want to play games and if she's been wanting to talk let's talk. If I've misinterpreted the posts and social media stuff, then please let me know so we can both move on.

 

She said that she's been thinking about us and everything that's happened a lot recently and has been wanting to reach out but wanted to make sure that she should. Apparently, I just beat her to it.

 

She said that her best friend told her "I've never seen you this distraught about a guy, you've brought him up every day the last few weeks."

 

Anyway, we are meeting up tomorrow to talk for the first time. I'm not going into with the expectation that we will get back together. I'm sure she has things she wants to say, as do I along with some questions.

 

Steps in the right direction, even if all I get from this is some closure.

[d0nnivain]

I do hope you get a resolution one way or the other.

[Captivating]

So , what's the verdict ?

How did the meeting go ??

[txmusic4502]

So , what's the verdict ?

How did the meeting go ??

 

It went as well as it probably could have. We met up last night and talked about a lot of things.

 

She wants to get back together and said this time apart has given her space to really reflect on things. We got into a lot about how the past few months have been going and what we both need moving forward.

 

We haven't made any decisions just yet but it seems like we're on the same page and are going to take it slow for now.

 

She seems to really want this and wants to put the work and effort in. Still lot's to discuss but a step in the right direction.