Staystrong08 Posted September 25, 2017 Posted September 25, 2017 Hi ... I have been working at this place and i met a guy over there and we fell in love and was really good together...but then eventually we use to end up fighting on small things as it really bothers him abt what i do ..whom i spk to n all.. so i tried to be how he likes to make sure he is happy ..i just want him.his happiness is all that matters to me After a year . We had a fight on one night and day after that i called him up and said sorry ..i apologised for whatever happend and expected that he would also do the same nd we both would move on frm that fight...but instead he said that he just wants to stay friends... I was shattered...couldnt speak for few minutes..i was doing a job which i didnt like much but because of him i stayed .. and now he also left me like this.. i was so broken inside..i immidiately gave my resignation and went back home... for days i waited for him to call or msg me but he didnt. And then i fell sick ..and when he came to know that..i received a msg from him askin abt my health..n everything.. .. i told him again n again n again..i was sorry but he didnt respond good. He acted so formal..like i was talking to a friend who is msgn me after 3-4 yrs... then one day he again started fighting and then blocked me on whatsapp. Before whenever he use to do that i texted him from another no. But this time i did not. After 2 days he unblocked me.. and keeps a constant check on my status as what m.doing n all... I m so tired of feeling like broken..its been a month since our break up.. and now i have made a decision to move to another city. He keeps tryin to show me he is doin good without me.... m really messed up. Will moving to a new city will.help... i tried goin out... meeting friends...making new friends...everything... it doesnt works...my heart beats so fast.. everytime i wake up. Go to bed...eat..sit..or do anything... i feel scared..of everything..irritated..angry..sad...depressed..i dnt wanna talk to anyone..i dnt wanna be with anyone..even a little sound of anything makes me angry and irritated... i dont know what to do... tried talking to my friends about it.. nothing works.... m fed up... sometimes i think if moving to a new city wont work either... i will just quit... just end up my life.....i need help..
smackie9 Posted September 25, 2017 Posted September 25, 2017 This is what it's like to be in a controlling abusive relationship. He continues to manipulate your emotions even after a breakup. He is a jerk.....But this isn't all on him, this is on you too for making the choice to "change" in order to keep him. And look what it got you. You can have control over this but you have to be strong, by completely blocking him, so he cannot contact you. AND YOU stay off his social media, YOU should be the one blocking him. Completely wipe him out of your phone and your life. Once you break free from this ass hat, you will feel much better about yourself, and be done with the pain. 1
Author Staystrong08 Posted September 26, 2017 Author Posted September 26, 2017 Yeah..Thanx alot... i should have done this before... today is the day we met.. n i know he wont be even thinkin about it.. its better i only block him and remove him from everywhere. . THANKS ALOTTTTT
jstar845 Posted September 29, 2017 Posted September 29, 2017 Hello, I am so sorry to hear about your breakup. It’s understandable that this hurts and it takes time to heal. I know you care about him as he cares about you. It’s difficult to say why relationships end, but this is not your fault. I know that you left your job and went back home and the other feelings you described but this is good for your healing. Therefore, if the two of you are friends this is better than not speaking and you never know what could happen in the future. I know that your life is worth the fight and that your life is very valuable. Please don’t let what happened change your perspective of your life and of how valuable you are because you are just as valuable without him as you were with him. Yes, you are truly a lovely person and if he couldn’t see this it’s his lost. Please call these two numbers if you need them in the future the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). It’s a 24- hour confidential hotline. They can talk to you when you feel this way and help with preventive measures. Also, you can call; The Samaritans it’s a 24-hour confidential hotline at (212) 673-3000. They help through anything. These numbers should help you when you need someone to talk to in the future. Also, post here anytime we are here for you. Hugs. Please try these helpful coping 1. Take a time-out- Practice yoga, listen to music, meditate, get a massage, learn relaxation techniques. Stepping back from problems helps clear your head. 2. Exercise daily- makes you feel good and maintains your health. 3.Slowly count to 10- Repeat and count to 20 if necessary. 4.Accept that you cannot control everything 5.Give back to your community- Volunteer. This creates a support network and gives you a break from everyday stress. 6.Talk to someone-vent and let them know you need help. Friends, family, doctor, therapist 7.Eat well-balanced meals- Do not skip meals and eat energy boosting snacks. 8.Take deep breathes- Inhale and exhale slowing throughout the day when you are feeling stressed. 9.Do your best- Instead of aiming for perfection which is not possible. Be proud of how close you get. 10.Maintain a positive attitude- Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts. 11.Write in a journal 1
coolheadal Posted September 29, 2017 Posted September 29, 2017 (edited) Yeah..Thanx alot... i should have done this before... today is the day we met.. n i know he wont be even thinkin about it.. its better i only block him and remove him from everywhere. . THANKS ALOTTTTT You got to change your cell phone number, because they can get around those blocks because of a defect in cell phone programming. SMS you can block them but they still can message you no matter what you do. The only way around this is to change your cell phone. I know your hurting but this guy isn't good for you he's nick picking at you, and you really don't need a such a jerk in your life. You sound a like a nice women sorry the guy is doing this emotional torment to you mind! My ex did the same thing ex wife she was mean and nasty comments daily. I don't know how I made this far, but I had a well and mindset to make it happen. Today I stay positive and free from worry and stress. Yes you can move away and make new friends. Go somewhere different. I was going to live in Hawaii get a beach bungalow is a nice way to live.. Do not end your life over this guy it sounds like you are heading that way. I can't stress that we all have been hurt deeply you need to change where you live and work and get away from that area. Start fresh and meet new people when you are ready. Take some to get over past loves. I've done this myself. I always have a house to live in, I did the same thing left the state behind where the ex wife and ex family of hers lurked in my deepest nightmare. Edited September 29, 2017 by coolheadal
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