Me91 Posted September 25, 2017 Posted September 25, 2017 Hi all, I have a best friend who is truly my best friend. This relationship did not start romantically, we honestly formed a really awesome friendship off the bat. As the months went by, it became more and more clear that I was the "substitute girlfriend" in every sense of the term. It went both ways but it was more proncounced in how he treated me vs. how I positively responded to it. He'd initiate and eventually, everyone thought we were dating because we looked so close, body language, familiarity etc. However, we were technically still platonic, besides a weird habit we'd developed for cuddling a lot. Most people would agree that if they were in those situations, they probably would have just made a move. We didn't. What the extra mile is, is he consistently says that "one day we'll marry cause we're perfect for each other" in regards to a marriage pact we joked around about a while ago. Now, he seems to be more and more serious about it as time has gone on. He's even told his other friend who is a girl, "I just need her (me) but younger". Granted, I'm only a few years older. The tables have turned and now he's dating someone. Casually. Not his gf. But WHAT THE HECK CAN ANYONE MAKE OF THIS? He does things like take care of me when I'm sick (and say it's cute), kiss me on the forehead while cuddling, and even yammers on about me TO THE GIRL HES DATING. Even still talks about marrying me with me while dating her.... help. I'm going to talk to him but some outside feedback would be nice.
Yumira Posted September 25, 2017 Posted September 25, 2017 Hi. I'm not a relationship expert but I think talking to him is really the only way out of this. I hope that goes well! Talking about marrying is probably really just an inside joke for him but he seems to care about you a lot. It's a good sign for you if he cares about you and doesn't just want to be friends with benefits. Just tell him that you are confused about him dating that other girl but still cuddling with you. Good luck!
preraph Posted September 25, 2017 Posted September 25, 2017 He likes you but he doesn't like that you're older and wants a hot young thing because he knows he'd lose interest once you start aging. Sorry. Know that's not what you wanted to hear. So he's a little cold-blooded.
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