clawyer3 Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 My ex and I were together for 2 years, we've lived together for 1 whole year and continued our lease because we had no real issues of concern. She broke up with me about a month ago due to an unbalance in our relationship....2 weeks later she still was unsure about reconciling. We ended up at an event together and long story short, everyone got pretty drunk and one of her friends boldly kissed me in front of her. I hadn't even lead this girl on! I spent the next week apologizing, despite the fact I didn't even want it to happen but I knew my ex was hurt so I just comforted her. Days later she came around saying she would try to make things work because she still loves me. My ex however, told me she wasn't talking to anyone or interested in anyone and would focus on us. I found out she lied this whole time, even before the kiss had happened. The day after we broke up she consistently texted this guy and yesterday i read their conversation as we were OUT ON A DATE TOGETHER. I was so caught off guard because the words exchanged made it seem like they were in a full on relationship. She called him babe, he was calling her baby and everything. She even had plans to see him later that night! I was so angry and so hurt that this whole time I thought we were working on us, beating myself up as if I was somehow at fault and she kept this from me. She assured me she wasn't interested in anyone else. She told me she didn't even want to date the guy yet the messages clearly showed otherwise. When i confronted her about it, she told me her personal life was none of my business and that she thought me and her were just "going with the flow". I am so over this relationship now, but I can't move out and she refuses to. She keeps bothering me, asking me to do things for her, wanting to be friends, and acting like she did nothing wrong and says that I messed us up our chance to get back together. I want nothing more to be entirely rid of her, but I can't find a way to move on when we have another 7 months in this lease together.
Soak Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 Takk to the real estate and see how to get your name off the lease and still getting your bind back (maybe new person would pay this at changeover).Give her thirty days notice and put an ad in the personals, saying there is a room for lease. Get out of there, your sanity is worth more than a lease, but break the lease legally 2
Maldives Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 God, it kind o rem8nds me of my situation my ex moving interstate a 1000 kilometres to work in the same co as me and bringing her kids along even though we were going rough at that point. 9 mths of her moving she breaks up wth me and I'm stuck having to work wth her watching her date work colleagues.the problem is it's a really good job and big co she lost her kids u would think she would leave to go be wth them nope. Still here. My advice though to u mines a little more tricky is if you stay these next 7 mths are going to be hell for u. My suggestion is try and find a way out of the lease I'm sure u can break it considering the circumstances get some legal advice about ur rights in a situation like this plus talk to ur real estate agent and her for that fact sign over the lease into her name if she so wants to stay and u get out. I can tell u friend from my own experience seeing her everyday and she will bring that guy there trust me on that at some stage is going to blow ur mind apart get of there anyway u can u are much more fortunate than me as where I live it's a holiday destination and not that easy to get such a well paid job. I can garauntee if u stay it's gonna be a hell of a 7 mths for u u might even come out of it traumatised like I have leave dude that is the best advice get away from ur lying ex gf who's full of it
Soak Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 Takk to the real estate and see how to get your name off the lease and still getting your bind back (maybe new person would pay this at changeover).Give her thirty days notice and put an ad in the personals, saying there is a room for lease. That is meant to be *talk, and *bond, not takk and bind! Blaming the iPad for typos, lol. 1
SevenCity Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 God, it kind o rem8nds me of my situation my ex moving interstate a 1000 kilometres to work in the same co as me and bringing her kids along even though we were going rough at that point. 9 mths of her moving she breaks up wth me and I'm stuck having to work wth her watching her date work colleagues.the problem is it's a really good job and big co she lost her kids u would think she would leave to go be wth them nope. Still here. My advice though to u mines a little more tricky is if you stay these next 7 mths are going to be hell for u. My suggestion is try and find a way out of the lease I'm sure u can break it considering the circumstances get some legal advice about ur rights in a situation like this plus talk to ur real estate agent and her for that fact sign over the lease into her name if she so wants to stay and u get out. I can tell u friend from my own experience seeing her everyday and she will bring that guy there trust me on that at some stage is going to blow ur mind apart get of there anyway u can u are much more fortunate than me as where I live it's a holiday destination and not that easy to get such a well paid job. I can garauntee if u stay it's gonna be a hell of a 7 mths for u u might even come out of it traumatised like I have leave dude that is the best advice get away from ur lying ex gf who's full of it Yea dude. Get the hell out. Goodguy is right - this will be utter hell for you. 1
Jchav123 Posted September 25, 2017 Posted September 25, 2017 Most landlords would understand if there is a situation like this they are better off loosening the lease agreement. ESPECIALLY if you mention you will need to talk to a lawyer about this because it's a mentally destructive situation for you. Many lawyer practices will give you a free consultation at least so hopefully even just mentioning it to the landlord would be enough to get some action for you.
d0nnivain Posted September 25, 2017 Posted September 25, 2017 Landlords won't understand. You signed a legal binding document. They want their money. They don't give a flying fig about your love life. If it's a high demand place with a wait list you may be able to get out of the lease but if there are vacancies you may be stuck. You can move out & leave her stuck with the lease. Do tell the landlord how to contact you because if she stays but stops paying the rent they can sue you so you need to know what's going on. Another option would be for you two to both move out & find someone to sublet the place.
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