GF (now ex) says I can have the money back I paid to her for the flights but..

[fmfan08]

She hasn't transferred it yet and I want to keep "no contact" with her?

 

After 2 months relationship (3 months together), she broke up over text with the usual excuses, etc.

 

We had a holiday to Italy planned in 4 weeks but she told me in the breakup text "Obviously that means cancelling the Italy trip but as Italy means so much to you I would rather you go away with someone who you can have a better time with. The hotels are refundable but as we have paid for the flights we can't get the money back but because I'm the one who has decided this if you want the money back that you've paid for the flights I will give it you back"

 

After I phoned her to talk about the breakup, I asked at the end if she would be able to send me the money I paid her for my part of the flight and she told me to send her my account details to transfer it across.

 

It's Sunday night now and that was a whole day ago and she hasn't. We still have each other on Facebook and she posted a picture of herself this afternoon smiling holding her medal from a race she did, which I thought was a bit raw after breaking up with me.

 

How should I approach this? I don't exactly want to contact her as I'd rather stay no contact so 1) I can move on and 2) as I've sensed she was acting interested in person right before the breakup so I want to see if "no contact" might make her miss me and I can improve on myself in that time.

 

Could I get my sister to contact her on Facebook asking if she can transfer the money?

 

I wouldn't have gone with this plan as it means she would have to pay both of our tickets, but she broke things off and offered the money back and everyone I know has told me to take it. In addition she did thank me for making her feel great these last few months (her heart was broken by her ex a year ago after a 6 year relationship) but that made me feel used like I was intended as a rebound, etc.

[d0nnivain]

What do you want more -- your money or never to speak to her again? Don't have your sister contact her. That is immature grade school behavior.

 

 

Send her a text. Tell her to write you a check or send a money order in the amount of [$xx.00] and mail it to your house [give address].

[springy]

I'd give it a couple more days and then reach out with a reminder. If her FB posts are unsettling you should consider unfollowing/unfriending her. It seems unlikely that she will censor her posts for your benefit and you may end up seeing something really painful.

 

Alternatively you could forget about getting plane ticket from her, or see if someone who you would enjoy traveling with will take you up on the trip and help reimburse some of your expense for the ticket.

[amazonrambo]

I'd give it a couple more days and then reach out with a reminder. If her FB posts are unsettling you should consider unfollowing/unfriending her. It seems unlikely that she will censor her posts for your benefit and you may end up seeing something really painful.

 

Alternatively you could forget about getting plane ticket from her, or see if someone who you would enjoy traveling with will take you up on the trip and help reimburse some of your expense for the ticket.

 

Saw my statement this morning, she sent the money but only £250. It was supposed to be £275 but not chasing £25 lol. End of the day it could have been 0. She must have sent it at the weekend but took a working day to process which is what I expected, was going to wait until Wednesday at the latest.

 

I know for starters she has not uncensored her posts as she posted Sunday and in her about section says "single", but I will be unfriending her either tonight or in a couple of days. Had to wait until I got the money.

[d0nnivain]

Glad you got most of your money back.