vauank Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 hello everyone i dated this girl for 6 months she faked love for the first 6 months and then she got really close to her new girlfriend and then everything changed and she started to treat me like crap ( i know my fault ) unfortunately i did beg her after leaving me to get back to each other even though i didn't do huge mistakes things turned bad and she started to make me a joke with her closefriend and throw dirt on my name that im weak and im not man enough for her ( again my fault for letting somebody treating me that way ) today i figured out that she is back with her ex and she was using me all the time to get him back and she is more happy than ever and i have been broken to my knees for 7 months in the pain of regretting and feeling guilty to allow her treating me like **** and making me a joke and all i did was giving her my best Need advice here : i have been no contact with her for 3 months and blocked her from everywhere she wanted to be friends but after telling me im not man enough for her i blocked her .... i need advice please its killing me inside figuring out i was just used as a rebound the question is should i call her and tell her how low she is and i figured that she is back with him ? or should i stay no contact ? Many thanks
Sweetfish Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 hello everyone i dated this girl for 6 months she faked love for the first 6 months and then she got really close to her new girlfriend and then everything changed and she started to treat me like crap ( i know my fault ) unfortunately i did beg her after leaving me to get back to each other even though i didn't do huge mistakes things turned bad and she started to make me a joke with her closefriend and throw dirt on my name that im weak and im not man enough for her ( again my fault for letting somebody treating me that way ) today i figured out that she is back with her ex and she was using me all the time to get him back and she is more happy than ever and i have been broken to my knees for 7 months in the pain of regretting and feeling guilty to allow her treating me like **** and making me a joke and all i did was giving her my best Need advice here : i have been no contact with her for 3 months and blocked her from everywhere she wanted to be friends but after telling me im not man enough for her i blocked her .... i need advice please its killing me inside figuring out i was just used as a rebound the question is should i call her and tell her how low she is and i figured that she is back with him ? or should i stay no contact ? Many thanks Most likely she did not fake love you. When she broke up with her boyfriend she simply transferred all her emotions from the ex to you. Its your responsibility as a guy to learn from these instances and to understand that any person (male or female) who gets into a relationship after leaving one should not invest TOO much of them selves into the other person. Now that she realize she really cannot commit to you... she will do everything and anything to make you look like the villain and her the victim. her close friend throw dirt on my name that im weak and im not man enough for her This is a shaming tactic to qualify why she left you and not make her be the reason the relationship failed. Basically its over. 1
Buriall Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 You dodged a bullet my friend. 6 months isn't that long, some people do this for years. Now imagine that.. You've seen her true character, she ll probably dump her ex in near future and try to come back to you.. Don't let her meaningless words get to you. And her friend should just mind her own business, why is she involved in this? Sounds like these people love drama. These people's opinions don't define who you are.. You know yourself, don't get down to their level. Ignore them both and be glad you only wasted 6 months of your time. Learn from this so you don't miss the red flags next time around. Don't call her don't text her don't get involved. You will only feed her ego.. Just ignore 1
Author vauank Posted September 24, 2017 Author Posted September 24, 2017 You dodged a bullet my friend. 6 months isn't that long, some people do this for years. Now imagine that.. You've seen her true character, she ll probably dump her ex in near future and try to come back to you.. Don't let her meaningless words get to you. And her friend should just mind her own business, why is she involved in this? Sounds like these people love drama. These people's opinions don't define who you are.. You know yourself, don't get down to their level. Ignore them both and be glad you only wasted 6 months of your time. Learn from this so you don't miss the red flags next time around. Don't call her don't text her don't get involved. You will only feed her ego.. Just ignore Thank you for reply why would she come back if she didn't love me and used me as a rebound ? dude she treated me like dirt and made fun of me with her friend and she didn't even try to contact me for 3 months and happy af in her life where im broken and turned into sick person i would never get back to her if things happened i won't accept being a doormat everagain just wanted to let all the things out and call her you got me ? thanks again
Author vauank Posted September 24, 2017 Author Posted September 24, 2017 Most likely she did not fake love you. When she broke up with her boyfriend she simply transferred all her emotions from the ex to you. Its your responsibility as a guy to learn from these instances and to understand that any person (male or female) who gets into a relationship after leaving one should not invest TOO much of them selves into the other person. Now that she realize she really cannot commit to you... she will do everything and anything to make you look like the villain and her the victim. This is a shaming tactic to qualify why she left you and not make her be the reason the relationship failed. Basically its over. any advice how to deal with all the rumors then ? im really hurting because of her words and not stopping at me inly she is spreading it everywhere
Buriall Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 She's "smear campaigning" you. She is looking for your reactions.. If you give that to her you show her that she owns you emotionally "manipulating" you she's "gaslighting you" look up these things. I can't tell you why she'd come back.. Maybe **** ain't working with her ex.l.now?you can literally drive yourself crazy with whys and how's... You shouldn't care anyway. You said you're done right you don't want to be doormat anymore.. Don't give in 2
Author vauank Posted September 24, 2017 Author Posted September 24, 2017 She's "smear campaigning" you. She is looking for your reactions.. If you give that to her you show her that she owns you emotionally "manipulating" you she's "gaslighting you" look up these things. I can't tell you why she'd come back.. Maybe **** ain't working with her ex.l.now?you can literally drive yourself crazy with whys and how's... You shouldn't care anyway. You said you're done right you don't want to be doormat anymore.. Don't give in thanks buddy you helped alot wish you all the best
Sweetfish Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 any advice how to deal with all the rumors then ? im really hurting because of her words and not stopping at me inly she is spreading it everywhere Last thing you want to do is fall into the Streisand Effect. This is basically you getting to everyone before she gets to them. Do not do that... If that makes any sense. Stand your ground and do not let these childish games get to you. Narcissist are known to do this. Look up the term "flying monkeys"
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