jakeenzo93 Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 So recently me and my ex split up and I’m left wondering whether the “miscarriage” she suffered was real or not. The reason I ask is due to the circumstances in which it happened. When we first got together she told me she had suffered a miscarriage before. At the time she told me it was a bit of a weird thing to come out with as she said it when drunk, but i obviously believed her and supported her. A few weeks before we split up she tells me she’s suffered another one. However this was about 2-3 weeks after we first started having unprotected sex. We were trying for a baby. When she told me, she said she had a lot of bleeding and that not to act weird if she pushed me away. As far as I know she didn’t see a doctor about this. So the reason I’m asking if she really had one or not is for the following reasons: 1. Is it possible to have a miscarriage 2-3 weeks after first having unprotected sex 2. If she did have one, why did she push me away? Surely she would want me by her side 3. If you have a miscarriage, don’t you have to get checked out medically? Before our breakup I would of believed her about anything. But since then, I’m piecing things together that don’t seem to fit. For example, the first couple of days after we first started trying she was convinced she was suffering early pregnancy symptoms. If anyone could help me try and work this out would be much appreciated. I know this isn’t a light subject and I have been going through hell trying to work this out. Thanks.
Art_Critic Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 However this was about 2-3 weeks after we first started having unprotected sex. We were trying for a baby. What the heck for ? Now that you are no longer together do you see that it was not the smartest of decisions to try ? BTW, you can only take her word for what happened, only she knows if she did have a miscarriage. She sounds a little unstable and someone who you don't need to base a life decision such as a child with, try to pick up the pieces of your life and move on without her. Another girl is right around the corner....
BaileyB Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 (edited) Well, it's hard to say... First, it can take up to a week for the egg to be fertilized and implanted in the uterus... It can take weeks before a woman feels any symptoms of the pregnancy. So, highly doubtful that she is feeling pregnancy symptoms after just a few days. Very doubtful. My understanding is that many women have spontaneous miscarriages early in the pregnancy. They say that 1/3 pregnancies end in spontaneous miscarriage. If it was very early, she may just have had some bleeding and she may not have needed to see a doctor. But, I'm not a physician. As to a woman's reaction to a miscarriage, I would say that it is like everything else... very individual. Some women may want the support of their partner and their friends. I know others who withdraw and move through the grief in a very personal way. I would say, this woman does not sound emotionally stable. I would probably feel relieved to have ended the relationship and not had a child with her. Edited September 24, 2017 by BaileyB
Captivating Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 Most women know that they are pregnant within 2-3 weeks after conceiving ... I knew something unusual is up the next morning, because my breast were extremely sensitive the following morning. This was my first pregnancy so I did not know for sure at that time. However, there is a chance that she simply had her period, but played it off as a miscarriage .... some people like to manipulate others such as narcissists, who like constant attention, like to play the victim to feel sorry for, creating drama generally ... etc. You know her, I don't ... so try to think of other circumstances of her past behavior.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 It is possible she suffered a very early miscarriage. If you were trying, she likely began testing early, so what some women would have normally blew off as a bad period, she could have known it was a miscarriage. Also, it is possible to have symptoms, especially sore breasts, very early. I've been pregnant 3 times (that I know of) and in one of those pregnancies, my breasts started to hurt very, very badly within a few days of ovulation/conception. Like no breast pain I'd ever felt before with PMS. 1
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