We went to a bar and she seemed to be very flirty? Confused

[Brokenheartedman12]

I'm a little confused

Hey all, so I finally moved on with my life, I'm sure all you thought you'd never live the day to see brokenheartedm talk about another girl but here I am. So a little background ya basically we knew of each other but never talked so last night was the first night ever. We went to a bar and she seemed to be very flirty? She was complimenting my arms and saying how I was a lot more attractive in person than in my pics, she kept saying she wanted to hang out again and even texted me again she wanted to hang so I assume that's good, where I'd get confused is when she talked to her girlfriend she'd talk about other guys, her friend wasn't flirty at all just very friendly but, this girl stayed by me literally the whole night, I was kinda shy and I am with everyone when I first hang out I don't know what they like or what they talk about, my shell starting breaking later in the night but she was none stop complimenting me about my body and such is she interested or

[d0nnivain]

Flirty is good. It shows interest. So do compliments. Nevermind about what she discussed with her friend. Hang out with her a second time.

[Archibald Salisbury]

Is that a joke? Dude what happened later? Dont tell me you didnt go for the move! If you just left then she will think youre not even interested! Man, she is complimenting your arms! What do you want more?? Do you want her to light a beacon fire and shoot fireworks writing PLEASE BE MY BF in the sky?? And you were in a bar!!! Man you had to get a little physical. Making physical contact!! Go dancing, get her close and get it going! You had the perfect setting! Huh you should try to give more background info. Anyways , YES DUH, she is interested! If she isnt, then she just wanted a one night stand with you, which is better than the friendzone trust me.

[Mike B.]

I found out a long time ago that if you are getting positive feedback on a date, it is best to see how far you can push it the same exact night. This is the chance to establish yourself as much as you can.

 

For example, if she is complimenting me a lot, I would touch her, if she likes the touch, then I am kissing, if she is kissing me, I am giving tongue, if she is giving tongue back, I am using my hands, if she lets my hands wander, they will wander far, if the hands wander far, start remove clothing etc,. A lot of times the light will turn red at that point but at least you established yourself for future dates and it will be easier to get to that point.

 

As long as it is a smooth transition, you are likely to get far if good interest is being shown.

[coolheadal]

I'm a little confused

Hey all, so I finally moved on with my life, I'm sure all you thought you'd never live the day to see brokenheartedm talk about another girl but here I am. So a little background ya basically we knew of each other but never talked so last night was the first night ever. We went to a bar and she seemed to be very flirty? She was complimenting my arms and saying how I was a lot more attractive in person than in my pics, she kept saying she wanted to hang out again and even texted me again she wanted to hang so I assume that's good, where I'd get confused is when she talked to her girlfriend she'd talk about other guys, her friend wasn't flirty at all just very friendly but, this girl stayed by me literally the whole night, I was kinda shy and I am with everyone when I first hang out I don't know what they like or what they talk about, my shell starting breaking later in the night but she was none stop complimenting me about my body and such is she interested or

 

As long as she was flirty with you and not someone else. You get the feel of her on the first date. The rest will come later on..

[Steve51]

I had a friend who kept on complaining why all the girls he dates say that they love him like a brother. He organized a double date with a girl he has dated once before. It did not take long to find his problem. He never acted like an alpha male showing sexual interest in the girl. She was sending out signals all night and he remained a proper gentleman. He did not dance provocatively with his girl nor danced any of the slow dances with her. She would touch his arm or leg when she spoke to him. He never attempted to put his arm around her shoulder or even ask for a kiss. I would have had her in bed that night.

 

I told him what the problem was and he confessed that he was afraid that doing anything intimate would be rejected and she would leave him. Long story short, she did leave him after that date. Told him that she liked him as a friend. While you are waiting, other guys are not. You risk losing her to the next guy who asks her to dance or buys her a drink. Strike while the iron is hot.

[Mike B.]

I had a friend who kept on complaining why all the girls he dates say that they love him like a brother. He organized a double date with a girl he has dated once before. It did not take long to find his problem. He never acted like an alpha male showing sexual interest in the girl. She was sending out signals all night and he remained a proper gentleman. He did not dance provocatively with his girl nor danced any of the slow dances with her. She would touch his arm or leg when she spoke to him. He never attempted to put his arm around her shoulder or even ask for a kiss. I would have had her in bed that night.

 

I told him what the problem was and he confessed that he was afraid that doing anything intimate would be rejected and she would leave him. Long story short, she did leave him after that date. Told him that she liked him as a friend. While you are waiting, other guys are not. You risk losing her to the next guy who asks her to dance or buys her a drink. Strike while the iron is hot.

 

Absolutely. I have never offended anyone or received a negative reaction if I moved relatively fast on a date. At the most, I would get a gentle "no" or my hands gently removed from a sensitive spot. Of course, you need positive signals in the first place to even move forward but definitely strike while the iron is hot. If your move is rejected, simply show a big smile.

 

Making the move is the most fun with dating, right?

[Miss Peach]

Absolutely. I have never offended anyone or received a negative reaction if I moved relatively fast on a date. At the most, I would get a gentle "no" or my hands gently removed from a sensitive spot. Of course, you need positive signals in the first place to even move forward but definitely strike while the iron is hot. If your move is rejected, simply show a big smile.

 

Making the move is the most fun with dating, right?

 

This is what I do. If they keep trying to cross the boundary is when I question them and would reject them. Once or twice then OK. But sometimes men try repeatedly.

 

I don't personally do this on dates but when I date women, they tend to go for my hands a lot if they are interested in more with me. Again it's not something all women do but at least with women on women contact I have noticed this a lot.

[Mike B.]

This is what I do. If they keep trying to cross the boundary is when I question them and would reject them. Once or twice then OK. But sometimes men try repeatedly.

 

I don't personally do this on dates but when I date women, they tend to go for my hands a lot if they are interested in more with me. Again it's not something all women do but at least with women on women contact I have noticed this a lot.

 

You can tell by the tone if you can go further or not. I was told recently "I am not going to have sex with you tonight" and when I asked another woman to spend the night with me after I looked down her shirt and was impressed she replied "it ain't going to happen tonight." I know to not push it any further when its that clear as those women made it but until I hear something iron clad like that, I push it to the limits.

[Miss Spider]

Maybe she wanted attention or is just a flirt. Hard to say until she agrees to date you