Roses777 Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 (edited) So I got this girl's # over Facebook about two weeks ago. She was all smiles and excited. I have never met her! I couldn't setup a date because she said she was available Friday and Monday evenings and I was working both days. Fair enough. Said I could make it the next week. May have said something that she disliked as she seemed to lose interest. She was texting me all the time so I kept up the talking, the good humour, the flirting, etc. So I asked her out for pool for Friday a few days ago. She replied with "XD" so I thought she was interested. She has never mentioned a boyfriend EVER but then suddenly cancelled Thursday evening when I asked her if she was still FREE tomorrow night as she has said. She said she "can't make it...sorry" but never mentioned why. Found out the next day that when I said I hoped she had a great night doing whatever she needed to do, she indirectly said she cancelled due to homework. When I offered a date going to get ice cream in a few days time, she replied that she was "lactose intolerant :-:" (toothless smiley? I wasn't sure how to interpret that emoji). I then counter-offered with 'glow in the dark mini-golf' and got no reply to that but a reply over Facebook where we were talking. She seems to like talking to me as she initiates but claims she is incredibly shy in person. The first time I tried to meet last Tuesday after her class, she claims that she was feeling sick still, so I shrugged it off. Never gives counter-offers but loves to text me despite all of this. Is she just using me? What should I do/say?? Edited September 24, 2017 by Roses777
SevenCity Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 Don't reply to her and block her number. If a girl you liked asked you out three times would you react this way? They are the same as us. If they are interested you will know.
act00 Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 You have extended yourself and asked her out on several occasions, and she has stonewalled each attempt. Give up the ghost and stop. It's not happening. What is it that you said that you think turned her off? Don't do that again with someone brand new, or do it again and form a relationship with someone like-minded who doesn't take offense. I'm really curious about this one. What did you say that you think turned her off? She continues to text you but thwarts actually meeting up in person and forming a relationship...you're pen pals. Let it go. If she were interested, she would create the time.
angel.eyes Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 Next! Exit this rabbit hole. Some people like having Facebook buddies. Lactose intolerant. Homework. What's next? Blind , so can't play mini-golf. Lots of flimsy excuses. She seems to have no intention of actually meeting or dating you, just an eagerness to message back and forth. Unless you need a texting buddy, I would drop her and focus your energy elsewhere. 1
coolheadal Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 So I got this girl's # over Facebook about two weeks ago. She was all smiles and excited. I have never met her! I couldn't setup a date because she said she was available Friday and Monday evenings and I was working both days. Fair enough. Said I could make it the next week. May have said something that she disliked as she seemed to lose interest. She was texting me all the time so I kept up the talking, the good humour, the flirting, etc. So I asked her out for pool for Friday a few days ago. She replied with "XD" so I thought she was interested. She has never mentioned a boyfriend EVER but then suddenly cancelled Thursday evening when I asked her if she was still FREE tomorrow night as she has said. She said she "can't make it...sorry" but never mentioned why. Found out the next day that when I said I hoped she had a great night doing whatever she needed to do, she indirectly said she cancelled due to homework. When I offered a date going to get ice cream in a few days time, she replied that she was "lactose intolerant :-:" (toothless smiley? I wasn't sure how to interpret that emoji). I then counter-offered with 'glow in the dark mini-golf' and got no reply to that but a reply over Facebook where we were talking. She seems to like talking to me as she initiates but claims she is incredibly shy in person. The first time I tried to meet last Tuesday after her class, she claims that she was feeling sick still, so I shrugged it off. Never gives counter-offers but loves to text me despite all of this. Is she just using me? What should I do/say?? I have a girl who contacted me on face book back in June 2017. She gone all out of way to get to talk to me and see me. When I mean see me over Facebook Video Chat and talk on Facebook Voice Chat. She did this daily for 1 month. Then she Skype me as well all day long. Finally she wanted to use Whatapp. No dating she's in another country. She was suppose to be here back in July 2017 but of course she has to get a US Visa. To this date no US Visa and it's time for her to go back to College in Oct 2017. But she claims she so much in love with me and yet wants to be with me no I don't see this ever going to be in person. It's just another way of having a pen pal who's interested only in being your text buddy in my case. If I change it to more serious chat she get unset and send me video chat and on their she's looks upset. This been going on for so long I am wondering if it's time to kill it. I removed Whatapp because she hardly text me like she did or video chat make up a bunch of excuses. See in time you will grow weary of her..
so gutted Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 I told him! Thanks for the help...but it is not going to go any further.. He then said you welcome. Thanks for telling me. Take care. I should have done this ages ago
The Urbanyst Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 She is either playing games, not interested or both. When I'm dealing with new women I want to date or have sex with I always apply the Ryan Gosling test. What does that mean? Its a way of applying X-Ray vision to the games women play to uncover the truth about how they feel about you. Here is how it works: We all know most women are very attracted to high level men like Ryan Gosling. So when a woman treats you a certain way, you ask yourself.. would she treat Ryan Gosling this way? If the answer is YES, you know she likes you. If the answer is NO she is either not interested or playing games I can tolerate a certain amount of games from women I just want to sleep with. But for a relationship, I want a woman who is excited about me. Anything less is a no-go. I need to be my woman's Ryan Gosling.
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