Miss Spider Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 I give the guy a few days/few(probably about 10 back and forth) exchanges. I'm on the site to MEET people, not text people. If he doesn't ask me to meet he's unmatched. My patience for fence sitters is just cashed. 1
guild11 Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 Well I you are the one who knows the best answer for that. I would give it a week or 2, there are 2 options for you after you meet, the first option is that once you meet you gonna have a good chemistry and from there it will only get stronger. The second option is that you meet but there won't be any "spark" between you and you gonna fade away of each others life. Be yourself, rush when you feel so, stop when needed. Make the process intresting one day you might sit with bunch of friends and there will be a question from someone asking you "how all of this started?" When she is already your woman So you better have a good story. Best of luck
smackie9 Posted September 24, 2017 Posted September 24, 2017 I messaged her saying that there's a really good Chinese buffet near us if she would like to go with me to it. To which she replied that she would like to talk more. To be honest this seems to be a fairly common response if I ask someone for a date in the first few days of talking to them. Again she does seem interested, so I'll take her word on it. Like to talk more? all she is doing is weighing her options. You want someone interested, not wishy washy, hesitant. A yes is what you look for. If it's anything but a yes, you sir are wasting you bloody time. 1
CryForNoOne Posted September 25, 2017 Posted September 25, 2017 Asking her to go with you to a buffet is a BAD first date choice. It's too long. It's too awkward. The whole serve yourself thing takes all the romance / ambiance out of it. Better choices would be to meet in a well lit public place for coffee or a drink. Meeting for ice cream is also a good choice off OLD. You are committing to spend around $10 & 30 minutes, in case you don't click. A buffet meal could stretch to 2+ hours & it's impolite to talk with your mouth full. Good point. Actually a Chinese buffet is probably about the worst date place whether it be first or tenth date. If you're suggesting places like that, it's probably hurting your odds of getting a date. Not only is it too much commitment for a first meet, but buffets are extremely unromantic. Do you really want to stuff your face on a first date? I'd also avoid any food that is heavy on garlic or anything else that might give you gas or indigestion. I remember one unfortunate first date in my 20s where we ate at this great ethnic restaurant but I had horrible garlic burps the rest of the night. Don't subject yourself or date to that risk...
rightondude Posted September 25, 2017 Posted September 25, 2017 my god dude don't even respond to any of this, ask her out now. I do it within the first conversation if there's any indication of interest. I've yet to be shot down. I am not a supermodel.
Author Jamie_1 Posted September 25, 2017 Author Posted September 25, 2017 Every single woman who wanted to get to know me better disappeared. The longer you wait, the less you have to talk about and the more they will second guess things. You can also easily say something innocuous that she takes the wrong way. I listened to Normal Person's advice and had a dramatic increase in getting them out as a result. Last time waster was texting me multiple times a day and then just vanished after two weeks. I no longer waste my time and ask right away. You would be surprised how many get annoyed with waiting too long to ask. I don't like waiting, it builds up far too much expectation. But I've never been on a date with someone without extensive messaging back and forth and the majority of the time I've asked for a date early on. I've asked three women that I've been talking to for the past three days and got the "I don't really know you, we should talk more" line.
Author Jamie_1 Posted September 25, 2017 Author Posted September 25, 2017 I give the guy a few days/few(probably about 10 back and forth) exchanges. I'm on the site to MEET people, not text people. If he doesn't ask me to meet he's unmatched. My patience for fence sitters is just cashed. I'm the same. But there's an inordinate number of women looking for pen pals. I also think it could be more difficult for the guy to suggest a date early on than a women. Women hold a lot of the power in OLD.
d0nnivain Posted September 25, 2017 Posted September 25, 2017 I've asked three women that I've been talking to for the past three days and got the "I don't really know you, we should talk more" line. Tailor this to your own words but you response should be something along the lines of: I want to get to know you too, that is why I am suggesting we meet in person. I'm trying to find somebody who I am compatible with to date & we can't know that until we meet. A date is just a get to know you activity, which is why I am asking you to meet me in a well lit public place (assuming you have requested a coffee date) If she still says no, move on to a woman with more self confidence. 2
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